Does believing you're pretty actually change how people perceive you?
I’ve been thinking about this lately. Does having the mindset that you’re pretty actually change anything about how other people see you?
For context, I don’t think I’m Deepika Padukone level pretty or anything 😭 but I’d consider myself someone who is objectively pretty. My friends and even some people I’m not that close to have told me that I’m pretty, but genuinely, I don’t really see it myself. When I look at myself, I just see… me?? I don’t have that feeling of “wow I’m pretty”
I recently read a story about Marilyn Monroe that made me think about this. Apparently, she was walking down the street with a friend, and nobody was really paying attention to her or recognising her, then marilyn asked her friend something like, “do you want to see something?” She changed the way she carried herself and suddenly people started noticing and recognising her. I know the story might be exaggerated, but the idea behind it stuck with me. So I’m wondering has anyone actually experienced this? like you started genuinely believing that you were pretty and somehow noticed that people treated you differently or paid more attention to you??
And if you have, did the change come from actually looking different, or was it more about confidence, body language, eye contact, the way you carried yourself, etc?