u/crispysqiurrel

I live in shared housing. Before leaving, I switched everything off in my room, including my TV.

While I was out, the girls in another room were using an appliance that apparently tripped the electricity. They went to the electrical panel and switched the breaker back on. After the power came back, my TV somehow auto-turned-on by itself.

Then I started getting messages saying the TV was loud and a “fire hazard.” I responded the whole time, tried troubleshooting remotely, and explained that I had NOT left the TV on before leaving.

There was:

• no smoke,

• no burning smell,

• no sparks,

• no actual emergency.

Later they even admitted “everything is okay.”

Despite that, they escalated it to property management and ended up breaking/opening my locked room to get inside.

Now whenever I try to explain this calmly, I get told I’m “avoiding responsibility” or people start yelling.

I understand being annoyed by a loud TV, but this escalation feels insane to me. Am I overreacting for being upset about the forced entry and blame?

AITA somehow ?

Edit - I am NOT against them going inside my room to resolve it. I am against / not for being abused for the while situation.

My 27F partner 27M lied to me, and honesty is a huge thing for me in relationships. Since then, I’ve been struggling to rebuild trust. The hardest part is that I still feel hurt repeatedly by certain behaviors, but he wants me to stop bringing anything up and start from a completely clean slate.

From his perspective, he says he’s exhausted by constantly being reminded of what happened and wants the relationship to move forward normally again. But from my perspective, I don’t think trust magically comes back just because time passed.

I’ve been asking for consistency, reassurance, mindfulness, and changed behavior so I can genuinely heal and feel safe again emotionally. Instead, it feels like I’m being pressured to “get over it” faster than I actually can.

Now he’s saying that if this keeps continuing, the relationship should end, I’m devastated because he can’t live with the past hanging over everything.

We also work together, and I live away from home, so I feel extremely scared and emotionally overwhelmed about the possibility of everything collapsing at once.

How do you know whether you’re trying to rebuild trust in a healthy way versus holding onto pain too long? Has anyone been through something similar?

I work from home sometimes and have scheduled meetings/calls during the day. Recently, my housemate has been coming to my room during my meetings even though she knows my meeting timings.

Yesterday, she knocked while I was on a call and I said something like “Bro, I have a call!!” in an annoyed tone because I was already in the middle of speaking. She kind of brushed it off with a dismissive “ya ya ok.”

Today, while I was AGAIN in a meeting, she came to my room door, said my name twice, and was peering into my room trying to get my attention. I didn’t even realize she was standing there at first because I was focused on the call. She eventually left.

After my meeting ended, I went out and asked what happened because I was upset. She said she only came to tell me she would close my room door “so I wouldn’t get disturbed if she was on a call.” But in the process of trying to “help,” she literally interrupted my meeting again.

What frustrated me is that if the goal was to not disturb me… why not just leave me alone entirely?

Then she got dismissive again and said something like “it’s ok whatever I don’t mind,” which honestly irritated me more because it felt like my feelings were being brushed aside. She also randomly commented that my concealer was “caking up,” which felt unnecessary and weird in the middle of tension.

Later, I tried calling her to resolve things calmly, but the conversation escalated badly. She started saying really hurtful things like:

•	“this is your problem”

•	“you’re like this”

•	“something is wrong with you”

•	etc.

It stopped being about the actual issue and became very personal.

Now I’m wondering if I overreacted because technically she says she was trying to help, but at the same time I feel like my boundaries/privacy during work meetings are not being respected at all

He still keeps violating / hurting me repeatedly and expects me to start from a clean slate each time (as by never bring it up - the lying and problems and go on like it doesn’t exist) . He’s mad I haven’t erased what has happened before, wants it gone so badly before he’s are ready to do what it would take to make it go away - which is not hurt me repeatedly and again and be extra mindful. Now he wants everything over. I’m / this is a constant reminder to him of everything now so HE is wanting to dump ME because of this . I am devastated. Heartbroken and helpless.

p.s. - We have the same workplace. I am terrified of taking any steps. I am living away from my home and don't want to lose my only source of sustenance. I am terrified due to all this. Suggestions !

tldr : partner wants to break up w me for asking for effort to make up for lying to me