u/cuntitled

my long-time boyfriend (not married, together for 10 years) have a 2 year old together. he is chronically irresponsible and doesn’t handle any sort of maintenance, paperwork, or daily duties. he drives my mom’s car to and from work, but that’s it, his life is YouTube shorts, alcohol, work and sleep, so I feel like I have no partner.

i am doing practically all the child rearing and watching. I do all the dishes, laundry, folding, vacuuming, mopping, and I handle the bills and time management and doctor’s appointments. bottles, putting her to sleep, getting her dressed, her lunch, finding her school and babysitters, keeping track of her new learning programs.

i keep telling him I need him to watch the kid and I’m met with “you don’t get to order me around” or “it’s my day off I can sit down” or “you just don’t see what I do.”

but I handle everything at home and he works part time. the money he makes isn’t going to our household bills and when I challenge him on this, he says I used it but, I don’t have any of his card numbers. I use my mom and my money for all the bills. he partially paid the babysitter last week.

we can’t even see his account history bc it’s chime. I keep telling him to get a real brick and mortar bank, but he won’t just do it.

he won’t do paperwork or plan for these things. He’s due for a raise at work and he hasn’t pushed for the meeting and it’s 3 months now.

I don’t want to put it all on him but I feel completely used and alone and when I try to tell him, he tells me I’m crazy, or I’m just gonna forgive him in an hour, and he goes to sleep and leaves me with all the chores and kid.

im miserable. I contacted a relationship counselor but, his arguments are killing me. they’re circular and full of holes and he does it just to piss me off so he has no accountability. and I don’t know how to stop this or make it work, without just dumping him on the street.

im just at my wit‘s end. I want to track daily his contribution to the household (bills and chores) but I feel he’ll throw out that evidence too.

what can I do?

hey guys, before anyone thinks I’m just complaining please read: I clean up my neighborhood when I go on walks, and for the first time today I went to Tonsler with my toddler and noticed… a lot of trash.

i don’t mind coming with a bag and picking it up, but I’m wondering why? also if there is some sort of service that is supposed to take care of them. I’d like to help.

there’s also a LOT of spotted lantern flies and it’s surprising because from reading this reddit I thought a lot of people knew to get rid of their trees of paradise and kill them on sight.

i don’t mind pitching in and doing my part while I’m here, I just want to know why its like this and what I can do to help. does anyone have insight?

thank you I really am not trying to sound like im complaining I just don’t think it’s nice for all this trash around the kids.

my mom is 77 and no one ever taught her to care for her feet. she has nerve issues, but I took a look at her feet yesterday and she has a major toenail fungal infection, all her nails have had the skin grow over or the nails are growing curved into her skin. None of them are flat.

she says no one taught her how to take care of her feet. Does anyone have advice or experience?

I’ve been giving myself at least hygienic pedicures for a while and can do minor surgery for ingrown nails etc but, im appalled at the lack of knowledge and care. How did no doctor notice until now?

tldr; the squirrels keep eating the bird food but they have good food now. and the mama squirrel’s kit is still living with her.

I’m a squirrel convert and I’m working with the local wildlife center to start releasing rehabbed animals on my property. (I live next to protected forest)

Through the process of me caring for the local wildlife, one specific squirrel kit have made themselves apparent. They insist on eating peanuts even though it’s not good for them. Basically, I give them the fruit my toddler doesn’t eat and carrots everyday, and I have some feeders out but they are being greedy.

I’m concerned they are too invested in the bird food/peanuts and I want to help all the animals. any suggestions?

the wildfire smoke from Canada made them upset the last few days so I haven’t seen the kids from the kit (they’re almost ready to leave) but the mom comes down and grabs the food and goes back to them. isn’t this a long time for a kit to stay with mom? they seem full grown— I don’t want them to get so used to my feedings that they don’t leave the nest.

thanks everyone! I just want to do right by these critters.

and I’ve named the mom Brave Cutie bc she’s not afraid of me.

I’m rewatching Trains with my kid and I’m wondering

The trains in the game supposedly run on the upper and lower level, the play room and kitchen being on the same level (right?) so Bandit is actually running/dealing with changing levels. i lived in a lot of major cities in the US so maybe our public transit works differently but

could you explain if there’s a joke in that they went multiple floors and didn’t explain it? Like how your trains work bc geography etc? (New York vs dc vs LA vs London is different sorry if im ignorant.)