u/cw2211

CW: Miscarriage.

I have only just discovered this sub so apologise that there are no previous posts about MIL to get a better backstory however this is my current situation with her and ultimately my breaking point as I am planning on cutting contact with them (MIL/FIL) after this coming week.

I’ll just get straight to the main issue here. I had a missed miscarriage early this month and we told them after a private scan at 7 weeks that I was pregnant but it wasn’t looking very good for it being viable. The first reaction from them was very cold and mainly ‘when the time is right it’ll happen, you’re moving house soon so get that sorted first etc’ which wasn’t great for me and SO but we were expecting a lot of emotion from MIL in particular so it was almost a relief not to get that and we just moved on. A week after that conversation I ended up having surgery to remove the pregnancy due to an empty sac. Myself and SO has started slowly telling family members about what was going on.

Now this is where things got frustrating. On Monday this week MIL came over for a couple hours while SO was at work and my son was at nursery. While she was here I mentioned that we wanted to let BIL know the news, he lives in London and him and SO don’t really talk at all, but I told MIL I was encouraging SO to text him as we wanted him to hear it from us. Her response was ‘don’t get SO to text BIL just for that’ which threw me off a bit and I wasn’t exactly sure why she shot it down like that but I just moved on from it and didn’t say anything more. Then on Wednesday night SO got a text from BIL saying ‘MIL told me what happened hope you’re okay’. We both got pretty angry about this and SO spoke to FIL to ask why she shared this news knowing it was something we wanted to tell ourselves. FIL is basically taking all the blame as he told MIL to tell BIL and she just isn’t taking any accountability saying that I didn’t make it clear we wanted to tell BIL ourselves otherwise she wouldn’t have said anything…other people I’ve spoke to have said that doesn’t matter as it’s not her business to tell anyone regardless and the fact that neither of them thought to ask us before sharing it is not great and I haven’t had any kind of apology off either of them since this happened either.

We booked a caravan holiday with them a couple weeks ago that can’t be cancelled so will be spending Monday to Friday with them from tomorrow and I will be civil and enjoy the holiday for my son but after that I am done with them as there are so many other things they’ve done and said in the 2 years I’ve been with SO that I can’t let go of and don’t need in my life when it causes me so much stress.

As I said at the beginning this is my first post so if anyone has any questions about the whole situation feel free to ask in the comments or just give advice/support
Thanks for anyone who has read this whole thing!

https://www.reddit.com/r/January2027Bumpers/s/4qgUsLPZqY

Copying the link to my previous post in case anyone missed it.

We had our hospital scan this afternoon and just as we expected the sac is still empty. I should be 8 weeks at this point and it has grown since my first scan last Tuesday so is over 25mm but nothing inside.

Luckily they’ve booked me in for a D&C tomorrow morning so I’m hoping that all goes well and we can move on from this heartbreaking situation

Thank you to everyone who left kind messages on my last post and for all the support in this sub❤️

Wishing you all healthy and happy babies this winter🥰

Hi everyone, sorry this isn’t exactly a good post at all but I’m wondering if anyone has been in a similar situation and had things turn out okay?

I went in today for a private early scan. I should be 7w6d based on LMP but based on when I believe I ovulated it would be more like 7w3d today. The sonographer scanned me abdominally and quite quickly said it’s not good news as the gestational sac is empty and also only measuring 6w4d.

Of course now tonight I’ve been spiralling and reading all sorts of stories from other people online but hoping someone here might have experienced something like this and can shed some light on the possibility of things being okay.

Picture of the scan in the comments.

I’m currently 12dpo (based on positive ovulation test Friday 17th evening) and have been getting super faint lines on tests since Tuesday. Since late last week I’ve had symptoms such as breast tenderness, nausea, pains in my sides and backache.

I do believe I am pregnant but it’s a bit worrying not having any darker lines yet and this morning the breast tenderness seems to have disappeared. Does anyone have any advice on whether this is all completely normal or could be something like a chemical/ectopic?