Male or female calorie deficit

So I'm a transman. Born a woman, I've been taking Testosterone every 14 weeks for about 8 years. I have yet to do any surgeries.

Right now I'm trying to lose weight. I'm 156 cm, 26 years old and weigh 92 kilos.

My issue is that whenever I try to calculate what deificit I should take, there's a vast difference between women and men, and I'm not sure which one I should follow? (M:1700kcal, F:1400kcal) I am biologically female still, but I have the testosterone count of a male.

Thank you for any help

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u/dantetheredfox — 14 hours ago

Baked goods with low calories?

So I'm doing a big calorie deficency (1500 kcal a day) and it'a working well enough for me.

But one thing I'm struggling with is that I love baking. Bedore I started this deficency, I'd bake at least once a week. And I'm missing doing just that. But I don't want to bake something that I can't eat.

don't want to make breads and such, it doesn't hit quite the same, besides my freezer is already full of bread.

So I'm asking for any good low calorie and healthy sweet baked good recipe you guys have! Anything from buns, cakes, cookies etc.

Thank you for any help<3

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u/dantetheredfox — 6 days ago
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WIBTAH if I exposed someone for cheating?

My (M26) sister (F39) is living with me part-time while she's going through a gruelling divorce. I have a three room flat all for myself with a guest bedroom she can stay in for the time being.

It works out fine for the most part - she doesn't help out with rent, but sometimes she'll buy groceries and help with cleaning. All in all, I have no real issues with her living with me.

Now, I won't be going into details of her divorce out of respect for her, I'll only reveal that it's been going on for a few months and she found out a bit ago that her soon to be ex husband started to see another woman, which understandably is upsetting.

Being a good little brother, I've tried to be there for her and support her throughout this entire thing, which is partially why I ended up in this situation.

A few weeks ago she asked to go out drinking with me while she was staying in my flat. Thinking she needed the distraction (And honestly being eager to go out since I haven't had the chance to in a while, I agreed.) And for a bit it was just us two, we had a few drinks and listened to sone live music when she eventually started talking to a couple of guys.

Now I'm not very extroverted, so I mostly sat quiet but I still engaged in some light conversation with the guys, but it was clear from the start they were all really just interested in my sister.

One thing leads to another, and eventually we're invited back to one of the guys', we'll call him H, place.

Now this place is in the same village as my flat, but still a good 20 minute walk.

I follow only really because my sister would be alone with three strange men and I didn't want anything happening to her - so that night turns into me drinking and watching these three guys preen on her like birds.

During this night both me and her find out that H is engaged to another woman who's not there. My sister doesn't seem to care much about this fact though as throughout the night she gets closer and closer to H.

I start to feel really uncomfortable eventually and I ask her to go home. She agrees, but just a few minutes into walking she realizes she forgot something, and goes back. We run into H there, and he pushes me to let him come along.

It's at this point i try to talk my sister out of it, but she's so eager to finally "have some fun" after she's been through this whole divorce. So reluctantly, I allow them both to come back to my flat.

We return in the middle of the night. It's raining hard, and I'm drunk and tired. We enter my flat and, I'll admit I fucked up here, but I end up giving my sister a condom. I already felt uncomfortable, but she looked more excited than she had been in months.

I leave the flat to walk my dog and return to hear them already going at it. It disgusts me, and the knowledge still that H has a fiance is eating me up on the inside. So I leave and end up sleeping over at a friend's for the night.

Now, a couple of weeks later my sister calls me and tells me that there's a big chance that H's fiance will call me, and ask me about that night, and she urges me to promise her to lie and say that he slept on the sofa.

This is where I might be the asshole; I want to tell the fiance. I promised my sister, because I didn't know what else to say but the more I think about it the more it's eating me up.

I know how horrible cheating can be, and I wouldn't want this woman marrying someone who so easily cheats on her.

But at the same time, I don't want to betray my sister and her trust.

Help me out here, I really don't know what to do.

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u/dantetheredfox — 8 days ago

[TOMT] What song is this?

Help my mum figure out what song she's recorded, please. I can't really make out any words, but I'll attach a link to her recording below in the comments

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u/dantetheredfox — 14 days ago

Just started, looking for advice

So I've been overweight pretty much all my life, and I've finally had enough.

Before I get into it; I'm 26 years old, 156cm tall and I weigh 107kg. I was born a woman but I identify as a man and I'm on a testosterone dose. Saying this because it affects my fat distribution etc.

I've started a calorie deficit of 1800kcal a day, and I've started taking walks of 10k steps a day.

I've tried doing homeworkouts but it doesn't work for me. I miggt start going to the gym though.

Anyone has any advice? Is the calorie deficit too much or too little? Thank you in advance

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u/dantetheredfox — 17 days ago

Mod for more songs

So when I first got Beat saber years ago, my friend helped me download a mod that allowed me to search for songs in the game, possibly through beatsaver.
Since then that mod stopped working, and I found a new mod to use through BSMmanager. However that slows my game down to the point where it's literally unplayable. It'll slow down my controller until they're literally impossible to play with.
I'm relatively inexperienced when it comes to searching for and downloading mods, so I'm really not sure where to start.
So I'm wondering if anyone has any other suggestions on where to get a mod like that? I want to be able to keep downloading songs, but also going on my pc to do it every single time is too much of a chore. Thank you for any suggestions ❤️

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u/dantetheredfox — 1 month ago

Eye scar

Sorry if this isn't the right sub to ask, but I'm drawing a character who took a bullet to the eye and lost it but survived. And now he has a (healed) scar.

(Dont start arguing with me about the logistics about him surviving, ik it's a small chance)

I want to look up reference photos for it, but I only ever find fresh wounds and I'm so squeamish to that sort of thing that I can't look far.

Does anyone have any good reference photos for it, or know anywhere I can look it up without having to see actual wounds? Thank you.

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u/dantetheredfox — 2 months ago

Gunshot to the eye

So in a story I'm writing, a character will be shot in the eye, but he will ultimately survive.

I'm going to give him a mild brain trauma due to this - besides the obviois blindness in one eye. What are some factors to these that I should consider?

I want him to suffer mild brain trauma - enough to be noticable but not delibitating.

What I've got so far is a difficulty with fine motorskills and short term memory loss, and a slight tremor to the hand.

As for the blindness, he'd have a difficulty with depth perception.

Also does anyone know what the scarring would be like? I dont want to look at google images because there are too many fresh wound pictures and it makes me queasy.

For context this takes place in the mid 2000s, and he would be rushed to the hospital shortly after thd gunshot so he'd get medical help quickly.

Edit: for more context qnd since people have told me it would be deadly, i'd like to make it clear that the bullet would come from an angle, and just barely scrape by the brain. Link is an reference image to how i imagine it, with the X being the exit wound here

u/dantetheredfox — 2 months ago