u/deadheadburnsy

Room for Rent – Watertown, NY
A comfortable unfurnished room for rent at 114 Flower Ave W, Watertown, NY, located in a quiet, nice neighborhood with great neighbors.
The home is conveniently located near shopping, the hospital, grocery stores, and gas stations, making everyday errands quick and easy.
Rent includes everything, so you won’t have to worry about additional utility costs. The home features a full kitchen and a movie theater room for relaxing and entertainment.
Available immediately.
📍 Location: 114 Flower Ave W, Watertown, NY
🏠 Room: Unfurnished
💡 Utilities: Everything included
🍳 Kitchen: Full kitchen
🎬 Entertainment: Movie theater room
📅 Availability: Immediately
If you’re looking for a clean, convenient, and comfortable place in Watertown, this could be a great fit.

Hello all, first time poster. Curious if people think that dreams have a deeper meaning than just our subconscious? Background why I ask. So my fiancé and I had been having problems and she recently moved out. We have been in touch, had our good moments and bad. The day after she moved out she told my mom she didn’t care if it took a month or 6 for us to work things out. She still has my ring, even though she said she would return it. The job I have incentives several times a year with amazing vacations international or domestically. It’s an industry thing and at my previous company won a trip to Mexico to a top 25 all inclusive. Well I have never dreamed of her before the other night. Then I had a dream I won the trip and we were in Mexico together. It was weird as well because I often think of her to the song Shade by Phish. One of the lines is “And you run away, but we meet again soon South of the border and over the moon.” Curious if people think this is a sign or just something that happened.

Wow what a year 35 was. I had never been on prescription medicine and 35 found me on three. Got engaged and now she is gone. Most things feel like they are completely falling apart, but I did start a great new job recently. Just struggling because I’m one more year closer to 40 and nothing I want for myself has happened because I spend all my time taking care of other people. Yeah really trying to figure out what the purpose of life even is.

So a little backstory. My fiance recently moved out of our house because we had been having some issues. The biggest issue I have been having is using alcohol as a crutch. I made the decision to take the path of sobriety because it’s the right thing to do and she is the love of my life and I want her back. Well stupid thing for me to do but I drank yesterday because I was scared how my call with her when she got out of work would go. We actually had a great conversation and if wasn’t for her going on a weekend getaway she would have come over tonight for dinner. Well again stupid after how well it went I decided to have a few more drinks to celebrate. On the call she asked me to call her back at 9pm. That would have been a horrible thing because I think she would have been disappointed. Just before I was about to call her, two friends showed up at my house and help me get back on the right track. We didn’t talk but she has texted me today. They were sent to make sure from up above that I didn’t squander that opportunity that I had. She texted me this morning and I’m going to call her each night at 9pm to show her my improvements. While not set in stone, we are tentatively going to have dinner Tuesday night. Our first date was me cooking for her so our first date getting back together will be the same. Any thoughts?

So a year ago my fiancée, 37F, and I, M35, started seeing each other almost two years ago. It was electric. As she said to someone recently what made you fall for him? Well no one on a first date took me out, then cooked dinner, and ended the night playing vinyl records dancing and holding me close. I proposed to her last September. What we have dealt with since we got together, in my opinion are storms that God has sent to show we will make it through the darkest days. I lost my job and went 6 months without one. I ran for local office and lost (this couldn’t have been a worse time for me to run as there were 7 people in a primary, my mom had hip replacement and my aunt died. In addition I’m well known in my small town and many people didn’t go out to vote because they thought I had it in the bag.) Now let’s switch to the other side. She has a kid, 13, she looks after who is the son of her ex boyfriend. When I say looks after whenever Dad doesn’t feel like being a father he pawns the kid off on her. She is constantly taking time off work to take the kid to medical appointments. The kid even has his own room in my house, the house that I want to make our home. The kid does not like me. He refuses to listen to any of the rules of the house and defies any figure of authority due to the unfortunate upbringing he has had. From day one with the kid, I never wanted to be a father figure. I wanted to be his best friend. I was never allowed the opportunity and Dad is constantly speaking ill of me behind my back.

I just want to patch up the rough spot we are in and get back to the love that brought us together. One night she looked at me and said we can have a beautiful family. That was the exact moment I fell head over heels for this woman. But I don’t know how we can get there. The kid has managed to divide us and has been pissed since we got a puppy that requires attention. I want to be understanding of the obligations and responsibilities that she holds toward her previous life but it’s a roadblock for us. I guess her is my question. Do I completely shut up about my feelings or my rules and let the kid do whatever when he is here to keep peace? Do I give up on the dream of the family I want, the family we both talked about and at one time was moving towards? How do I get us back in line? Or do I just give up and realize the person that I completely feel in love with and would do anything for can’t reciprocate that? I suggested yesterday we carve out 4 hours a week that is us. That might be a picnic and taking our dog to the park. It might be me making that first meal and us dancing to Van Morrison again. Regardless of what it is, it’s time for her and I. No interruptions. No care for anyone else in our life. I’m trying to get through the only way we can grow is if it’s her and I first and everyone else falls into place. That’s how a family starts. Just looking for advice because I’m lost and looking for outside the box ideas to bring our closeness back. Back to the original days where our fire burned so strong we couldn’t spend a day apart.