Funny enough what pushed me to finally write this here in this subreddit was seeing a post yesterday from someone who had gotten married. I congratulated them genuinely but later I was sitting alone crying because it immediately made me think of her and the life I had imagined with her. It wasn't their post that hurt me. It just reminded me of what I had lost or maybe what I never got the chance to have.

DISCLAIMER:  LOOOOOOOOONG POST AHEAD!!!!

We started talking in January and honestly I had no idea what was going to happen.

She was just some random person from Reddit from this sub, we were both childfree, and somehow over time she became someone whose notification could literally make me smile like an idiot.

I've never dated anyone. Never been in a relationship. Never even properly liked someone before this. So when I started getting attached to her I genuinely had no fucking idea what I was supposed to do.

At first it was just normal talking. Then slowly I started looking forward to our conversations. Then came the reels, her yapping about her day, college, hospital drama, her roomie, food, random shit happening in her life and everything else.

And somewhere along the way she just became part of my everyday life. Neither of us sat down and decided that obviously this person is now going to be part of my daily routine 😂 it just happened.

I remember she'd sometimes message after studying or after yapping for hours at like 1:30 or 2 AM and sometimes she'd message before her 8 AM class. Sometimes she'd literally be in class and still send me some random reel.

And these things probably looked completely normal to her but they meant a lot to me.

I'd wake up and one of the first things I'd look at was whether she'd messaged me. If I was having a shitty day, seeing her notification genuinely made me feel better.

And then somehow cheesecake became a fucking thing 😂

I didn't even care about cheesecake that much before she told me it was one of her favourites. Then she started sending me cheesecake reels and suddenly every time I saw cheesecake somewhere I'd think about her. I even ordered it a couple of times.

Same with that mustard + vegetables + ghee rice combination she told me about.

She'd tell me some random thing once and somehow I'd remember it.

I still remember her talking about wanting to be that cool aunty when she's in her 60s. I don't even know what that aunty looked like, but for some stupid reason when I imagined that future, I imagined her.

That's how attached I'd become without even realising it.

She told me about Neelakurinji and I had literally never heard about it before. I looked it up and saw the mountains covered in purple and thought it looked fucking beautiful.

And she told me she wanted to see the lantern festival in Thailand. I already knew about it but after she told me, it became different somehow. Now whenever I see some lantern festival reel my brain immediately goes, "oh she wanted to see this."

She probably doesn't even remember telling me half of these things.

I remember them because she told me.

Then there were all the stupid jokes and random shit between us.

The sugar mama jokes. The adult reels. Her sending some ridiculous reel and then randomly asking "do you want to die?" 😂

Her spamming me with reels.

Me sending some stupid cake video because apparently I refuse to suffer alone.

Her making fun of my driving.

Me coming to tell her about getting bullied by juniors at work.

Her hatred for that annoying colleague of mine.

Her college fest stories.

Her feet getting destroyed by heels but still saying the fest was worth it.

Her coming back ridiculously late because there was a fight.

Her cooking.

Paneer kathi rolls and mango kulfi.

Random food stories.

Her telling me she looked like a soaked raisin with chubby cheeks 😂

If I write all these things separately they sound so fucking meaningless.

But they weren't meaningless to me.

That's the part I never really knew how to explain.

I wasn't just attached to some imaginary version of a girl. I was attached to her.

Her stupid stories. Her way of explaining things. Her yapping. Her hospital stories. Her exams. Her roomie stories. Her food. Her reels. Her random rants. Her "Ooooooo" messages. Her roasting me.

And the fact that she remembered things I'd told her too.

I remember she once said something like, "this is what I like about you, you remember things I tell you."

I don't think she realised how much that sentence stayed with me.

At some point I started imagining us actually meeting.

Not some huge Bollywood romantic shit.

Just meeting somewhere, sitting and talking for hours. Her yapping and me sitting there listening like an idiot. Getting food together. Walking somewhere. Maybe holding her hand if she was comfortable with it.

Going somewhere she wanted to go.

Seeing the lantern festival someday.

Going to see Neelakurinji.

Sitting somewhere while she told me some ridiculous hospital story and I listened.

Honestly I didn't need anything physical from her. I just wanted to know what it felt like to actually have her sitting beside me instead of being a notification on my phone.

And I think that's when I realised I'd actually fallen for her.

But here's where I fucked up.

I had absolutely no idea how to express any of this.

I've spent most of my life keeping everything inside. I don't know how to communicate feelings properly. I don't know how to tell someone I missed them without feeling stupid. I don't know how to flirt. I don't know how to send someone a romantic reel without thinking 10 times whether I'm being creepy.

And because she'd told me about creepy men and creepy DMs she'd received, I became even more careful.

I'd think:

Maybe I'll make her uncomfortable.

Maybe I'll cross some line.

Maybe she'll think I'm weird.

So I just kept waiting.

And waiting.

And fucking waiting.

That was probably my biggest mistake.

At one point she told me she'd liked me and that she was hoping there was some mutual interest from my side.

And I did like her. A lot.

But instead of actually saying that properly, I was just sitting there feeling everything and showing almost nothing.

From her side I completely understand how it probably looked. She was getting emotionally invested while not getting much reciprocation from me.

So eventually she pulled back.

And when she called things off, that's when I finally told her that I genuinely liked her and that I just didn't know how to show it.

Then we had that call in May.

I still remember that call.

Hearing her voice properly for the first time, I was literally crying.

I'd never sent a voice note to anyone in my entire life. She was the first person I ever sent one to.

Sounds stupid but that was a huge thing for me.

We talked about life, her future, where she might end up, how complicated things could become and how neither of us should have to make huge sacrifices for something that hadn't even properly started.

She apologised for wasting my time and emotions.

But honestly, she didn't waste anything.

She gave me something I'd never really experienced before.

She made me feel connected to another person.

She made me realise I could actually care about someone this deeply.

And I realised that if she was having a terrible day, I wanted to hear about it. If she was stressed about exams, I wanted to listen to her complain. If she was going through something, I wanted to be someone she could call.

I even imagined taking a day off and travelling just to see her if I ever got the chance.

And then life just moved on.

Even though it fucking hurt.

I don't want her to be unhappy just because I wasn't the person who ended up beside her.

I don't want anything bad to happen to her.

I don't want to interfere with her relationship.

I don't want to chase her.

And I definitely don't want to become one of those creepy men she told me about.

I just wish I'd been brave enough when it actually mattered.

That's what hurts the most.

It's not simply "she rejected me."

It's that I finally met someone I genuinely liked and I didn't know how to tell her until it was too late.

Maybe that's why this hurts this much even though we never dated.

People can obviously look at this and say, "Bro you weren't even together."

I know.

We never went on a date.

We never held hands.

We never sat across from each other in a restaurant.

There was technically no relationship to lose.

But emotionally something existed for me.

And I lost it.

You blocked me (on 10 Aug).

I don't know why.

Maybe something I sent crossed a line.

Maybe you wanted distance.

Maybe you'd already been thinking about it for some time.

Maybe it had nothing to do with that particular conversation.

I honestly don't know.

And I'm not going to sit here pretending I know what's going through her head.

It just fucking hurts.

Because for months she had become one of those little peaceful things in my life.

If I had a horrible day at work, sometimes just seeing her picture or remembering one of our conversations would make things feel a little less shit.

I know that's not something I should depend on another person for.

I know.

But I did.

And now she's gone.

And I keep replaying everything.

All the things I could have said.

All the romantic reels I saved but never sent.

All the times I thought "I'll tell her later."

All the times I hesitated because I didn't know whether I was crossing some invisible line.

I keep wishing I could go back to February or March and just say:

"Hey Doc, I think I'm falling for you."

That's it.

Maybe things would've worked.

Maybe they wouldn't have.

Maybe she would've rejected me anyway.

Maybe we'd have dated and realised we weren't compatible.

Maybe we'd have met and laughed about how fucking stupid all of this was.

Maybe none of it was ever going to happen.

I'll never know.

And honestly I think that's the hardest part.

Because my brain keeps treating that uncertainty like proof that I ruined something.

I know that's not necessarily true.

But it still fucking feels that way.

And I also know I can't keep living inside that "what if."

So I'm putting it here.

Everything I never said.

The cheesecake.

The sugar mama jokes.

The mustard + veg + ghee rice.

The cool aunty in her 60s.

The lantern festival.

Neelakurinji.

Her 2 AM yapping.

Her 8 AM classes.

The hospital stories.

The cooking.

The reels.

The ridiculous "do you want to die?" replies.

The college fest chaos.

The exams.

The stupid memes.

My terrible driving.

My workplace drama.

Her roasting me.

Her laugh.

Her voice.

That one call.

That one voice note.

Everything.

She probably doesn't know how many completely normal things became memories for me just because they were connected to her.

Maybe years from now I'll see cheesecake or a lantern festival reel and still think, "she would've loved this."

Maybe it'll be a small scar somewhere.

I don't know.

But I also don't want to turn her into someone I hate just because I couldn't have her.

She was good to me.

She listened to me.

She made me laugh.

She trusted me with parts of her life.

She gave me a connection I didn't even know I was capable of having.

So wherever she is, whatever she's doing, whoever she's with, I genuinely hope she's happy.

I hope she gets everything she wants.

I hope her exams go well.

I hope her career goes where she wants it to.

I hope she gets to see that lantern festival.

I hope she sees Neelakurinji.

I hope she keeps cooking when she's stressed because apparently that's her therapy 😂

I hope she actually becomes that ridiculous cool aunty she always talked about becoming.

And I hope whoever ends up beside her understands how lucky he is.

This is just me finally saying everything I couldn't say when she was actually here.

Thank you, Doc.

For the conversations.

For the chaos.

For the reels.

For the yapping.

For the food pictures.

For the random hospital stories.

For making me laugh on shitty days.

For being one of the first people I ever genuinely opened up to.

And honestly, for making me realise that somewhere inside this very quiet, awkward guy there was actually a person who could fall completely, stupidly and genuinely for someone.

I wish I'd known how to tell her that when it still mattered.

I wish I'd been less afraid.

But I can't change then.

And I can't change today.

So I'll leave it here.

TL-DR: Started talking with a girl from this sub in January and we got really close through daily chats, reels, stupid jokes and random life stuff. I ended up falling for her but I was so bad at expressing myself that I basically showed almost none of it, even though she had liked me too. By the time I finally told her how I felt, things had already changed and we never ended up dating or even meeting. We stayed in touch for a while after that, but she eventually blocked me on 10 Aug and I still don't know exactly why. I'm struggling more than I expected because I don't just miss her, I keep thinking about the life that might have happened if I'd just communicated properly. I'm not trying to get her back or interfere in her life, I'm just trying to accept that I lost something that technically never even became a relationship.

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Been 3 yrs working as frontend dev with angular majorly. I joined my current company as a fresher and have been working only on frontend since then. The problem is that our teams are pretty strictly divided so frontend developers don't really get chances to work on backend stuff.
Bcz of this i feel have no idea what is getting cooked in backend.

I want to switch jobs but honestly I don't want to switch as only a frontend dev, want to move towards as Full stack role.

I did started learning Node.js, Express (as it is JS based) and MongoDB on my own, covered basics, CRUD APIs and middleware etc.. although company techstack uses SpringBoot and other things which I don't have much idea about.

I want to seriously start preparing for this transition now!!!

I wanted to ask people here who have actually moved from frontend to Full stack:
- how did you approach transition and how difficult was it to convince companies to hire you as full stack instead of only frontend?

- what all topics you covered in backend?

- did you continue with nodejs or moved to other springboot/Go etcc (if u started with nodejs like me)?

- What kind of projects did you add in resume?

- how much Backend knowledge i should know?

- How much DSA is expected for someone with ~3 YOE? Is striver sheet enough??

would you love to hear your opinions, Thanks!

Been 3 yrs working as frontend dev with angular majorly. I joined my current company as a fresher and have been working only on frontend since then. The problem is that our teams are pretty strictly divided so frontend developers don't really get chances to work on backend stuff.
Bcz of this i feel have no idea what is getting cooked in backend.

I want to switch jobs but honestly I don't want to switch as only a frontend dev, want to move towards as Full stack role.

I did started learning Node.js, Express (as it is JS based) and MongoDB on my own, covered basics, CRUD APIs and middleware etc.. although company techstack uses SpringBoot and other things which I don't have much idea about.

I want to seriously start preparing for this transition now!!!

I wanted to ask people here who have actually moved from frontend to Full stack:
- how did you approach transition and how difficult was it to convince companies to hire you as full stack instead of only frontend?

- what all topics you covered in backend?

- did you continue with nodejs or moved to other springboot/Go etcc (if u started with nodejs like me)?

- What kind of projects did you add in resume?

- how much Backend knowledge i should know?

- How much DSA is expected for someone with ~3 YOE? Is striver sheet enough??

would you love to hear your opinions, Thanks!

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Hi

I'm looking for honest advice because I've been struggling with this for a while.

I'm a computer science graduate and I've been working as a frontend software developer for about 3 years. Even with professional experience I often feel like I forget fundamental concepts. If I don't use something for a while I have to relearn it. The same happens with data structures and algorithms I understand them while studying, but after some time I can't recall them confidently.

Meanwhile, I meet developers who seem to grasp new concepts very quickly, connect ideas easily, and remember things much better than I do. It makes me wonder if they're naturally smarter, or if they've developed better ways of learning.

I'm curious about a few things:

- Do people who seem "smart" actually have better learning systems or is it mostly natural ability?

- How do experienced developers retain technical knowledge over the years?

- What techniques have genuinely improved your understanding and long teerm memory?

- Is it normal to keep forgetting concepts even after years of experience?

- If you've gone from struggling with the basics to becoming confident what changed?

I'm not looking for shortcut I want to understand how to learn more effectively and build a stronger foundation over time.

I'd really appreciate hearing about your experiences or any books courses or learning methods that helped you.

Hi everyone, I had bought a used 14-inch MacBook Pro (M2 Max, 32GB RAM, 1TB SSD) that was originally purchased in June 2023. I bought it second hand from guy last year in november 2025 and it had still 7 months of applecare+ plan active for 1.35L.

The previous owner had AppleCare+ coverage which expired on June 9, 2026. In my AppleCare settings I currently see an option to renew coverage for:

• ₹899/month
• ₹8,999/year

and Apple says I have about 41 days left to renew.

This is my first Mac, so I'm a bit confused about how AppleCare+ works after the original 3-year period.

My question is:

If I renew now and choose the annual plan (2026 → 2027), what happens when that year ends?

Will Apple allow me to renew again for another year (2027 → 2028), and continue renewing as long as the Mac is supported?

Or is this a one-time extension after the original 3-year AppleCare+ period?

I'd especially like to hear from anyone in India who has actually renewed AppleCare+ on a Mac after the original 3-year coverage expired.

Thanks!

Hi everyone,

I had bought a used 14-inch MacBook Pro (M2 Max, 32GB RAM, 1TB SSD) that was originally purchased in June 2023. I bought it second hand from guy last year in november 2025 and it had still 7 months of applecare+ plan active for 1.35L.

The previous owner had AppleCare+ coverage which expired on June 9, 2026. In my AppleCare settings I currently see an option to renew coverage for:

• ₹899/month
• ₹8,999/year

and Apple says I have about 41 days left to renew.

This is my first Mac, so I'm a bit confused about how AppleCare+ works after the original 3-year period.

My question is:

If I renew now and choose the annual plan (2026 → 2027), what happens when that year ends?

Will Apple allow me to renew again for another year (2027 → 2028), and continue renewing as long as the Mac is supported?

Or is this a one-time extension after the original 3-year AppleCare+ period?

I'd especially like to hear from anyone in India who has actually renewed AppleCare+ on a Mac after the original 3-year coverage expired.

Thanks!

The outfit is so pretty 😍❤️

There's this senior colleague lets call her Rosa who has 7 Yoe, and team has 2 junior devs ~2 yoe.

So few months back 4 people were working on a task, team lead had divided the task among 4 of us. Me(3 yoe), 1st junior, Rosa, and another senior colleague lets call her Nicole.

So we 4 were supposed to do the work, and except Rosa, 3 of us done the work and this Rosa takes help of the 2nd junior who is not even asked to handle the work just bcz Rosa asked she said ok, first she asked her to fix some Failing Test case in code which she did. And then she gave some part of her work to this junior dev to do, and even tho she was not part of it she tried to help and do and then later she gave almost 95% of the work to junior dev and Rosa just pretending to be doing work.

The 3 of us took around 3 weeks to complete work, while Rosa took 50 days to do psych that too she didn't even do the work, all work done by the junior. And since the junior dev was helping she told Rosa that we could try like this approach to implement, Rosa got pissed off saying I'm senior I know what I'm doing you don't have to tell me. Like Wtf she is not doing her job and she asking junior dev to handle her work and she gets pissed off just bcz junior suggested an alternative approach to solution.

We had told junior dev not to help, she wouldn't listen and went to help Rosa and did almost all her work and Rosa taking recognition as if she did the work. And that too 50 days on a simple task everyday she would give same update she is working working.

And that was around 6 months back. Recently Rosa is working with some new team regarding some improvements code changes, and this junior dev saw an issue and instead of bringing this issue in the Team Grp she reached out to Rosa to tell the issue, and guess what this Rosa told the junior dev You only fix that issue, like Wtf dude this junior dev didn't work on it and she is asking her to fix it. And guess what I had even suggested junior dev not to reach out to her better msg in the group and bring the issue in grp tag team lead and Manager she didn't listen. So much worst people are.

TL-DR: Senior colleague asking junior dev to handle her work or fixing bugs.

Hey Everyone

Indians who moved to Germany in last 3 years say 2023, and after completing Masters either 1/2 year degree, do you have job now?

If so, you know B2 Or C1 Level ?

Or still finding?

Or returned back to India?

How difficult is to find even part time jobs during your MS?

How exactly is the current situation now?