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Just been in Que all morning got to checkout for my festival in a box and then got to payment screen, card was already setup hit pay, got kicked out to the Home Screen with a empty cart, what happened? Did I get it or not? It’s not showing in my card or in my transaction history or anything like that but I hit purchase. Any explanation would be appreciated

I am part of a somewhat large online RP/TTRPG group of around 13–16 people. We call our campaigns “lores” because they are mostly theater-of-the-mind storytelling with character sheets, but not always traditional TTRPG mechanics. We switch between different settings like modern fantasy, Star Wars, high fantasy, magic fantasy, and realistic settings.

I have been in this group for over two years, and I am trying to figure out whether I am being unreasonable for wanting to pull back.
The biggest issue is that there is almost no structure. There is no real start time. Things happen whenever the DM feels like running something. I usually show up in call around 9–10 AM while I work from home. Some people trickle in during the day, but when the DM appears, people are suddenly available. Then the group often gets distracted and actual story does not start until somewhere between 9 PM and midnight. Most nights go until 5 AM if we actually start.

With 13–16 players, turns are usually based on alphabetical order by character name. My characters are often in the middle of the order, so I commonly end up waiting for hours and still not getting a turn. I even once made a character with an A first and last name to try to get earlier turns, but then the turn system changed to starting from Z first. I know that sounds petty, but after repeatedly staying up extremely late and still not getting a chance to play, it started to feel like the only way to participate was to game the turn order.

Most other players’ turns seem to last around one to two hours. When I get a turn, I am often lucky to get 30 minutes to an hour, and it is frequently interrupted by the DM getting pulled away, getting distracted, or needing to leave. A recent example: my turn was cut short after about 40 minutes because the DM needed to go to bed. He said he would pick it up the next day. That was 18 days ago, and someone else still got a turn later that same night.

Another issue is how often we switch campaigns/settings. In the last year, we have probably done somewhere between 13 and 22 different “lores.” Some last a month, some a week, and sometimes we switch more than once in the same week. There have even been times where we changed settings multiple times in the same day. These arcs are usually meant to last months, but we often do not even get through every character’s introduction before switching.

There is one campaign we keep returning to that has lasted over six months. In that one, my character has been heavily sidelined despite me putting a lot of work into him. I make character documents, backstories, ideas for the DM to use, and I have commissioned art of my characters and teammates. I genuinely care about the stories and want to participate.

In that longer-running campaign, my character went through a major traumatic event where he was severely burned, disfigured, lost limbs, and is now only alive because of machinery. He operates a robotic body just to have some version of a normal life. I am not against consequences or dark storytelling; I actually like serious character arcs. What frustrates me is that other characters have survived similar dangerous events with little injury or even gained power from them, while mine suffered permanent consequences and then still barely got focus or follow-up afterward.

That is the part that makes me feel stuck. I do not want to be the “main character,” but I do want the effort and consequences attached to my character to matter. Right now it feels like I get the suffering without the story payoff.

I have brought this up before with the DM and others in the group, but it usually gets brushed aside. I have offered help and even made a scheduling format/Google Doc so players could have set times or a better turn system. The DM never opened it.

The common excuse is that not enough people are available, even when most of the group is there, because the DM wants to wait for one specific person. One of the people we wait on most is the DM’s girlfriend, who tends to have an important character in each campaign but often goes to sleep before things start. The DM also gets distracted playing games, even after the person we were waiting for arrives.

From my perspective, there is favoritism. The DM says he keeps notes, but it often does not seem like he does. Some players get a lot of attention, flexibility, and follow-through. My messages, documents, and character ideas often get ignored or acknowledged with “okay” and then moved past. If other players say they cannot go, they are often promised a turn later. If I say I am busy during a certain time window, that somehow becomes the only time I could have gone that day, despite me being available most of the day.

Other people are frustrated too, but many of them still get more turns than I do, so the frustration fades for them. The group also tends to excuse the DM because he does a lot for the group, but from my perspective the actual experience has become more disappointing than fun.

This has also started affecting me outside of the game. This group and these stories were supposed to be something I looked forward to, but lately they have become a major source of stress and depression for me. I find myself getting excited, showing up, waiting around for hours, and then ending the night feeling ignored, disappointed, or like I wasted my time. I know it is “just a game” to some people, but when you care about the story, the characters, and the friendships around it, it starts to hurt when the pattern keeps repeating.
Recently I started giving myself a midnight cutoff. If nothing is happening, things are too slow, or I feel ignored, I just leave without saying goodnight. I am also pulling back from making extra documents, ideas, and character work because it feels like none of it gets used.

I am trying to figure out what the healthy move is here.

Am I being unreasonable for pulling back from this group? Is this just what happens in very large RP/TTRPG groups, or is this a table-management problem that probably will not change unless the DM actually wants it to? How would you handle being invested in the story and characters, but feeling like your time and effort are not respected?
What can I do to improve this situation or do I just cut my loses?

I am part of a somewhat large online RP/TTRPG group of around 13–16 people. We call our campaigns “lores” because they are mostly theater-of-the-mind storytelling with character sheets, but not always traditional TTRPG mechanics. We switch between different settings like modern fantasy, Star Wars, high fantasy, magic fantasy, and realistic settings.

I have been in this group for over two years, and I am trying to figure out whether I am being unreasonable for wanting to pull back.
The biggest issue is that there is almost no structure. There is no real start time. Things happen whenever the DM feels like running something. I usually show up in call around 9–10 AM while I work from home. Some people trickle in during the day, but when the DM appears, people are suddenly available. Then the group often gets distracted and actual story does not start until somewhere between 9 PM and midnight. Most nights go until 5 AM if we actually start.

With 13–16 players, turns are usually based on alphabetical order by character name. My characters are often in the middle of the order, so I commonly end up waiting for hours and still not getting a turn. I even once made a character with an A first and last name to try to get earlier turns, but then the turn system changed to starting from Z first. I know that sounds petty, but after repeatedly staying up extremely late and still not getting a chance to play, it started to feel like the only way to participate was to game the turn order.

Most other players’ turns seem to last around one to two hours. When I get a turn, I am often lucky to get 30 minutes to an hour, and it is frequently interrupted by the DM getting pulled away, getting distracted, or needing to leave. A recent example: my turn was cut short after about 40 minutes because the DM needed to go to bed. He said he would pick it up the next day. That was 18 days ago, and someone else still got a turn later that same night.

Another issue is how often we switch campaigns/settings. In the last year, we have probably done somewhere between 13 and 22 different “lores.” Some last a month, some a week, and sometimes we switch more than once in the same week. There have even been times where we changed settings multiple times in the same day. These arcs are usually meant to last months, but we often do not even get through every character’s introduction before switching.

There is one campaign we keep returning to that has lasted over six months. In that one, my character has been heavily sidelined despite me putting a lot of work into him. I make character documents, backstories, ideas for the DM to use, and I have commissioned art of my characters and teammates. I genuinely care about the stories and want to participate.

In that longer-running campaign, my character went through a major traumatic event where he was severely burned, disfigured, lost limbs, and is now only alive because of machinery. He operates a robotic body just to have some version of a normal life. I am not against consequences or dark storytelling; I actually like serious character arcs. What frustrates me is that other characters have survived similar dangerous events with little injury or even gained power from them, while mine suffered permanent consequences and then still barely got focus or follow-up afterward.

That is the part that makes me feel stuck. I do not want to be the “main character,” but I do want the effort and consequences attached to my character to matter. Right now it feels like I get the suffering without the story payoff.

I have brought this up before with the DM and others in the group, but it usually gets brushed aside. I have offered help and even made a scheduling format/Google Doc so players could have set times or a better turn system. The DM never opened it.

The common excuse is that not enough people are available, even when most of the group is there, because the DM wants to wait for one specific person. One of the people we wait on most is the DM’s girlfriend, who tends to have an important character in each campaign but often goes to sleep before things start. The DM also gets distracted playing games, even after the person we were waiting for arrives.

From my perspective, there is favoritism. The DM says he keeps notes, but it often does not seem like he does. Some players get a lot of attention, flexibility, and follow-through. My messages, documents, and character ideas often get ignored or acknowledged with “okay” and then moved past. If other players say they cannot go, they are often promised a turn later. If I say I am busy during a certain time window, that somehow becomes the only time I could have gone that day, despite me being available most of the day.

Other people are frustrated too, but many of them still get more turns than I do, so the frustration fades for them. The group also tends to excuse the DM because he does a lot for the group, but from my perspective the actual experience has become more disappointing than fun.

This has also started affecting me outside of the game. This group and these stories were supposed to be something I looked forward to, but lately they have become a major source of stress and depression for me. I find myself getting excited, showing up, waiting around for hours, and then ending the night feeling ignored, disappointed, or like I wasted my time. I know it is “just a game” to some people, but when you care about the story, the characters, and the friendships around it, it starts to hurt when the pattern keeps repeating.
Recently I started giving myself a midnight cutoff. If nothing is happening, things are too slow, or I feel ignored, I just leave without saying goodnight. I am also pulling back from making extra documents, ideas, and character work because it feels like none of it gets used.

I am trying to figure out what the healthy move is here.

Am I being unreasonable for pulling back from this group? Is this just what happens in very large RP/TTRPG groups, or is this a table-management problem that probably will not change unless the DM actually wants it to? How would you handle being invested in the story and characters, but feeling like your time and effort are not respected?
What can I do to improve this situation or do I just cut my loses?

I am trying to pick an existing Minecraft mod pack that I can play with a small group of friends(about 10) that can play on most computers/laptop without needing anything to crazy. Of these friends I have been asked to have a lot of specific modpacks or things in it, and I want to make everyone happy but I can’t think what pack will make everyone happy. Below is a list of all the things they want, my hope is the collective minds here can help me find a mod pack that meets most of these requests with minimal additional to satisfy everyone, if you guys can help or have any suggestions would be greatly appreciated:
-create
-create aeronautics
-create steam n rails
-create craft and additions
-create enchantment industry
-create central kitchen
-taCZ timeless and classic zero
-farmer delight
-sophisticated backpacks
-sophisticated storage
-butchers delight
-simple quarry
-additional enchantment miner
-mekanism
-storage draws
-functional storage
-domestication innovation
-respawnable pets
-corpse
-waystone
-comforts
-natures compass
-explorers compass
-Xaero’s map/ minimap
-apple skin
-chipped
-Alex’s mobs
-botany pots
-FTB chunks
-FTB teams
-FTB essentials
-Magic spell/ gardening
-underground/ cave exploration
-General furniture mods
-explorable structures

I am also looking for some admin assistance mods that would allow me to make or import structures I made in single player modded and take them server side if possible too.

Anyone have any recommendations for a mod pack that meets all of these or most of these requirements?