u/dolphinforyou

Hey guyss.

Lets share some positivity. Share your achievements or anything good about your life.

Happy Saturday!!

Guys, I've noticed that my desire to be understood, noticed, or seen is fading away day by day. I mean, except in my professional life, I don't think I really want people to understand me anymore. 🤷‍♀️

My younger self would’ve panicked if someone misunderstood her.

Also, ghar wale bhi kuch bolte to fark ni pardta hai itna, no anger, aggression or arguments.

Overthinking is still there tho

I’m in a job-search phase right now, and when people ask me what I’m doing, I either lie about it or just say, “I don’t do anything, I’m just living life and act like nothing matters.

I had fear of talking to people about my life, what would they think. Now i don't really care what they think or say.

Log kya kahenge to log kuch bhi bolo idc.

Have I developed a sadistic personality?

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Same as title, i have an msc mathematics,

basically all my life i did maths, I treated mathematics as my hobby and it didn't take me anywhere because i never got any direction in my career path, idk what should I even do in my career anymore.

I don't want to get into academia or PhD

I was so good in mathematics, still I am maybe. im forgetting mathematics concepts now. i got no motivation because i don't know what should I be doing?

Tried professional exams, failed and stopped there.

Have history of burnt out.

Tried academia, got no interest.

Tried in non tech field, got laid off.

I like mathematics and art thats it.

All my life got fucked up because mathematics, applied mathematics, game theory, OR, topology and what not. I never got any mentorship and thats why I could not figure out anything.

Have basic knowledge of programming language such as python, sql, power BI.

Can anyone please guide me on what I should do? I just need a roadmap, path or at least some basic guidance on what skills I should work on. Trust me I will do good.

I like mathematics, I just can't let it go from my life.

Thank you.

Same as title.

Im getting bored lol,

I didn't do anything productive as such( according to people ig)

Ate, slept, did workout, cleaning, laundry, made chatpata dinner, now will go to sleep.

What about youu?

Basically title, i don't like to drink milk. It makes me feel gassy and constipated.

Tbh I don't like any dairy products & milk products as such, tho can eat or drink but I don't like milk at all.

This year in 2026, mene ek glass bhi milk nahi piya hai.

Hey all, I am 27 and wanted to share this feeling woth you all.

I didn't grow up being conventionally attractive, but I wasn't unattractive either. I don't really know how to explain this feeling, I've always seen myself as just an avg-looking person.

In a room full of people, I often felt like no one would ever choose me. I was always the girl helping her friends get ready for their dates, listening to their stories, but no one ever asked me out. It wasn't that I felt completely invisible it was more like I was always in the background while everyone else seemed to be getting noticed.

I hope you're understanding what I'm trying to convey. It's not really about looks alone,it's more about growing up with the feeling that romance and attention happened to other people, not to me.

Just a girl who was never bothered about guys. The feeling of not being choosen has made me numb and i made up my mind to not get bothered at all. I was always alone in heart wrenching tragedies of my life, i lost one of my close members I was alone, my career got ruined i was alone, I was &uicidal I was alone, basically alone alone and alone, even tho I live with my family but i was ALONE.

I think I was pretty much invisible to guys until I was 25. During school, I never really thought about dating. Then I ended up at a meh T2 college, where no one showed much interest in me, and I wasn't interested in anyone either. I did my pg at a girls' college, so there weren't many opportunities to meet people romantically. I decided to change my career path, but things didn't go according to plan. The isolation that followed took a toll on me and affected my mental well-being quite a lot. I was depressed, gained weight, was &uicidal, had no will to live. All of this happened from 22- 25.... and in this phase i just wanted to be seen and heard but i got noone, even parents love is conditional i used to feel like a burden on them.

Then one day ive decided enough is enough and literally changed everything about my life and life got back on track. But dating was missing me life so for the first time in my lige i thought to put myself out there and wanted to see how things work in this aspect of life? But my experience with men was not good and I felt i can never match their pace in dating life so I ditched that idea and stopped thinking aboit dating completely, everyone was in rush. Mind you i held hands of a guy for the very first time when I was 26, it was a nice feeling.

Fast forward i still got noone and have never been in a relationship( im not prude)but things around me has been drastically changed, for example im not used to attention from men but whenever I go out i get stares and attention from everyone specially men and this feeling makes me feel so unconscious and uncomfortable i often get this thought do I look that ugly or what? I get compliments from people and I feel they are being nice and sweet or think they are lying on my face.

There was a guy in school who was very famous, yk that guy whos v extrovert and charming that everyone talks about, type of a guy i can not ever talk to, we never talked much in school. Now this guy sends me reels, starts conversations with me, and indirectly asking me to meet for coffee, we live in the same city.

I just dont know what im typing here but all of sudden getting attention from everyone makes me feel very uncomfortable and conscious about my body and myself in general. I still can't make eye contact with any men. I feel very shy and I'm fully introvert. Ab lagta hai kuch jarurat hogi ya kaam hoga isley they being nice, I just can't accept this feeling that I deserve it all. EVERYTHING.

I've done lots of things alone, going out to eat something, shopping, cafe hopping, planning a solo trip and I have hobbies, goals and I like doing all this for me.

I feel life is being selfish towards me, when i need people toh koi ni tha ab me apne life me content hu toh ye sab chije mereko uncomfortable feel kara rahi hai, maybe i just don't know how to express myself, I need time and space to open up and most likely im happy being myself. One concern is given that im in late 20s I should be happy ki things have been changed but mereko ye sab bhut uncomfortable lagne laga hai. Imagine tumko kafi time tha kuch nahi mile and jab tum uski desire hi hata do and start focusing on yourself toh sab milne lag jaye tumko. Isn't it unfair?

Maybe frontal lobe fully developed hogya hai and ab mere akele rehene and mere peace hi achi lagne lagi hai. I've myself, routine, goals, family to look after pretty much sorted life.

Thank you for listening, today im feeling extremely bad.

Hey guys, how are you doing?

So how's your life latelyy?

Share your best 3 happy moments of June.

Hey guys, F here, I have noticed a very weird type of pattern of loneliness in my life. I often feel lonely and sad only on Saturdays. Is it because im not busy or occupied?

From Monday to Friday ive a busy schedule, from work to typical day. I dont feel lonely on these days but idk Saturday ko kya hojata hai sudden waves of sadness hit karti hai and mann hota hai kisi se baat karne ka, yk emotional deep intellectual baatein but i find it selfish because pure week me mere pass time nahi hai so mere se koi sirf Saturday ko baat kyu hi karenge, tbh im not a very talkative person and then I'll get overwhelmed. Today Because it hit me really hard today. I was on the verge of crying.

On Sundays, ive hobbies to do. Now i started to feel i need to be busy to keep myself sane and out of this lone, islotion loop.

Has anyone ever faced something like this?

So guys, one day I went to a shop and I usually go to that shop to buy panner, curd etc. So ye jo shop hai yaha uncle se thik thaak baat hoti hai. Now shop me unke ghar ka koi bachha aaya tha he was a kid, so I went to shop and mene bola 100ru ka paneer chhaiye, so vo uncle ( shayad us bache ke chacha ya mama hai idk exactly) said "Arey isse mat bolo ye unpard sa hai isko kuch ni aata jata" vo baccha mujhe dekhne laga

Uncle fhir se bolte hai isse pucho Jara 100 kitna hota hai, kuch nahi bol payega ye, gawar hai pura. Gadha.

Vo bachhe ka muh rone sa hogya tha and vo mere taraf esa dekh raha tha, mene fhir bola arey jaruri nahi sab ko sab kuch hi aaye sikh jayega isme koi badi baat nahi hai.

Shop me 4-5 log the and sab us bacche ko dekhne lage, I felt so bad for him. He seemed like a quiet and good boy. Usne muh se kuch bola bhi nahi.

Jab baaki log chale gye, mene bola uncle ko " uncle baat kuch pata hona ya nahi hona iski nahi hai, baat confidence ki aap ese kisi ko bhi kisi ke samne kuch bhi ni bol sakte, he's just a kid and sikh jayega life ke baare mein time ke sath" but ese 4 logo ke samne baccho ko galat ni bola chaiye, unka Pura confidence low hojata hai. That kid was about to cry my god.

Jaate jaate mene bola us bache se "it's okay, isme bura mat manna, sab sikh jaoge tum bhi koi badi baat nhi hai"

But it's been a 1 month mene us bache ko shop me ni dekha, shayad vo chala gya yaha se :/

Guys, help me. Same as title so

I have a childhood friend who’s around the same age as me. She completely forgot my birthday and didn’t even wish me. Her reasons were that she was going through a tough time with exams and job stress, and all. I don’t know, but that’s what she told me. In short, it felt like she forgot I existed and forgot my birthday too.

We’ve both been there for each other during difficult times. Not to brag, but I feel like I was there for her even more than she was for me. I’ve seen her ugly cry, listened to her vent sessions, heard all about her dating life, family drama, and everything else. We genuinely got along really well.

But this time, I was really hurt. I gave her the silent treatment and even thought about ending the friendship. Eventually, though, we talked things out and sorted it out. I realized that adult friendships can be difficult, and sometimes people genuinely struggle to make time for everything. In the end, I felt that breaking a childhood friendship over a missed birthday wish wasn’t worth it, especially since she was truly apologetic and is good friend of mine.

this made me realise one thing to not expect anything from anyone.

Tomorrow is her bday, I just couldn’t resist myself to not buy a cake and flowers for her. I have already bought a cake and flowers bouquet for her. I was overthinking and arguing in my mind to just buy 1 rose for her thats it but I couldn’t and ended up buying a big ass bouquet.

Tbh I had resentment towards her ki isne toh mujhe wish tak nahi kiya toh me bhi kyu hi karu kuch bhi but me khud ko rok nahi payi and bought all these.

I love giving flowers, and I’ll always do it. I’m giving her flowers because why not? I’m doing something that makes me happy.

I still remember I gave my cousin(M) flower bouquet on his bday and he was so surprised,shocked and happy as well and that moment i realised how important is to show up for people and do cute little gestures for them on special occasions.

Ngl now I don't mind now ki she forgot me to wish but im more worried what if she or anyone thinks " ye toh doormat and iski koi self respect nahi hai or iske jayda friends nahi hai toh ye esa karegi etc" guys but esa nahi hai lol I just dont want anyone to think ki i have zero self respect lmao which is not true obviously.

My main concern is i don't want to sound like i have zero self respect or i am a doormat.

I love giving flowers and make someone's day special.

Pls tell me what should I do?

Should i also forget to wish her and don't give her flowers?

Seriously guys, have been lurking here for a while and what i have noticed ki everyone here is fucking rich bhai, idk but yaha sabki salary 20lpa+ hi hai, how people be earning in crores, coming from top Tier colleges, from good families still not getting people offline to get married? Maybe the ratio is so skewed, or maybe most of them have bad personalities?

How can anyone trust someone from here, especially on an anonymous app, when it comes to something as serious as marriage? Im just curious lol, what are your views?

Edit: Some of you misunderstood the main purpose of my post, I think I framed it wrong. Even after being so perfect, how are they not finding desirable prospects offline that they’re searching on an anonymous app like reddit?

Hey guys, you will not believe it wtf just happened. I got flashed by a tharki buddha of 60s-70s WTH is this.

Today i went to market to pick my mom, and there i was waiting for her in the parking mind you it was around 8-830 not even late, I parked my scooty and was scrolling through my phone. There was a buddha admi he was maybe in 60s- 70s his head was full of white hair, he was literally a buddha, he might be someone's grand parent, father what was wrong with him.

He was smoking and he was standing just in front me with his cycle. He lifted his shirt and started touching his genetial guyss I was so shocked to react anything im just angry at myself guys I couldn’t do anything. I got so scared I ran away from that place.

Since then, I have been feeling very numb. What did I do to deserve this? This is not the first time something like this has happened to me. The same thing happened when I was in school. My friend and I were coming back from school, and at that time, I didn’t even know that something like masturbation existed. A guy came and started jerking off in front of us in the fucking day time and he was blabbering (meri gf ban jao, meri gf ban jao koi) it took me years to heal from all this and aaj ye sab.

I swear to god, meri mummy ko me batati toh vo us buddhe ko maar maar ke adha khatam hi kar deti.

Im feeling like a coward, and again today I couldn’t make my inner child safe, protect her from this cruel world and these men.

Pata Hai aaj kya hua

Hey guys, you will not believe it wtf just happened. I got flashed by a tharki buddha of 60s-70s WTH is this.

Today i went to market to pick my mom, and there i was waiting for her in the parking mind you it was around 8-830 not even late, I parked my scooty and was scrolling through my phone. There was a buddha admi he was maybe in 60s- 70s his head was full of white hair, he was literally a buddha, he might be someone's grand parent, father what was wrong with him.

He was smoking and he was standing just in front me with his cycle. He lifted his shirt and started touching his genetial guyss I was so shocked to react anything im just angry at myself guys I couldn’t do anything. I got so scared I ran away from that place.

Since then, I have been feeling very numb. What did I do to deserve this? This is not the first time something like this has happened to me. The same thing happened when I was in school. My friend and I were coming back from school, and at that time, I didn’t even know that something like masturbation existed. A guy came and started jerking off in front of us in the fucking day time and he was blabbering (meri gf ban jao, meri gf ban jao koi) it took me years to heal from all this and aaj ye sab.

I swear to god, meri mummy ko me batati toh vo us buddhe ko maar maar ke adha khatam hi kar deti.

Im feeling like a coward, and again today I couldn’t make my inner child safe, protect her from this cruel world and these men.