u/elenassleeping

Part of the biggest reasons I’m one and done is because of (my side of the family) I don’t mean to trauma dump on anyone but, I have had no support system since my daughter been born on my side, besides my mom. and only my mom. my husband’s family have been great but that’s more my husband’s family. when I was in the hospital during the time she was born I cried my eyes out because none of my family showed up at the hospital I felt very alone and smothered by my husband’s family who disrespected my boundaries because I stated I didn’t want anyone at the hospital except for my mother that’s it. and I was also upset that his family didn’t care and just popped up so all of that I was just overwhelmed and also upset that no one in my own family cared to show up or have cared really about my daughter since born, my brother never ask to see her doesn’t care to, never gets her anything nor act like a uncle to her. his sons which are all close to my age especially my oldest they been more like uncles to her than him, they always loved her and treated her as if she was their niece due to the extremely large age gaps and they refer to her as their niece not cousin lol. but besides my mom and nephews outside of them along with my older brother who lives in another state. I have no family down here that supports me other than my mother & nephews, I never let my nephews babysit because I want them to enjoy themselves and not always ask them even though they always ask me to but I say no. my mom is very and I mean very caring and helpful

she also helped me during postpartum care, she cooked, cleaned and looked after my daughter the entire time when she was a newborn

my daughter is now a toddler, and the rest of my family still doesn’t ask or care about my daughter at all which makes me sad, my poor daughter is going to grow up not knowing majority of (my side of the family) except my mother and nephews because no one in my family cares about her or even ask about her it just makes me sad and more to think about I am scared my daughter will grow up feeling lonely because even though I’m not a only child I feel like one I feel lonely a lot, growing up all of my brothers are decades older than me when I say decades they are pushing 50 old enough to be my dads, literally I had no one to talk to and always felt like a only child even though I’m not. I have 0 things in common with my brothers, they hardly talk to me because I’m like a baby to them, we can’t do anything together really and I just feel quite lonely.

my husband’s family they hardly really bond with me most of the time, they just see me as a mother to my daughter and as my husband’s wife so that’s that. I just always felt so lonely

when my 2nd older brother had my nephews I was so happy because I grew up with them and played with them, and I understand they have their own lives outside of me, they love being up under me, we hang out, and go everywhere together I love them so much but still I feel very lonely and sometimes I wish I had a sister close to my age maybe I would feel better but as someone who is a younger sibling with brothers old enough to be my dads or uncles, I always felt lonely and like the only child. although there’s times I enjoyed this because me and my mom have a bond like no other I’m her only daughter and you might as well say the closest one to her, and I love her so much.

but I don’t want my daughter growing up feeling alone on my side of the family, but at least my husband’s family loves her and spends time with her so she’ll always have family just not mine.

Pay attention to what some things your mii’s say regarding interest or foods, this is how I found out a mii of mine all time favorite, for example my mii was rambling about “ craving lasagna “ and I decided to give her some not thinking she’d actually like it and thought she was just rambling and just as I thought as soon as I gave her this food item I found out by coincidence that this was her actuall all time favorite 👀

another thing, another mii I randomly checked on he was yelling at the sea about how much he “ wanted to propose “ to his girlfriend and as soon as he said that, minutes later it said he had a urgent task to handle, he ran home and the pink bubble popped up and he immediately asked to propose to her lol.

I know a lot we think these mii’s just be rambling but these I realized are hints to what they are about to do, so from now on out I’m going to pay close attention to some things mii’s ramble about because these things be actual things they like and are actually going to do.

After I realized my mom was the most supportive person of my decision in being oad I stopped giving a fuck what random strangers and my in-laws think about my decision. my mom was my biggest supporter from day 1, she even said herself that one child is better than having multiple to provide for and financially be supportive of and it made me smile seeing how supportive my mother is, I genuinely care less about anyone else’s opinion because my mom has my back and she even defends me when other’s react negatively about my choice. several times she shut people down about my decision. my mom is very pro-choice and always had my back.