u/elfantasmote

How safe is annecy? My bf and i are planning on going to Switzerland, but since we are from Spain we need to stop here (we are interrailing). Unfortunately my bf doesnt want to book a hostel, he things its stupid. So im wondering if itd be too dangerous to be outside as backpackers from 23:15 until 5am? Sorry if this is a stupid question lol

My bf went to a psychologist today. He explained that we have some issues here and there. Its really hard for him to communicate whenever something happens between us. Hed just rather go to his place, not talk to me, and let his emotions go away. Then he talks to me a few days later, like nothing happened. His psychologist told him that he has avoidant attachment, which was kinda expected. The thing that bothers is that she told him that i have anxious attachment, just because i prefer talking things out and apologizing immediately. Is this not what normal adults do??? Anxious attachment????? Like, what am i even supposed to do, then? Its been very hard for me to learn how to be assertive and put some limits. I hated confrontation, so i just never said how i felt. I was very passive. If i felt hurt, id say nothing. Everything was always my fault just for the sake of my own comfort. I had to go to therapy to learn how to be the way i am now (all of this being before being in a relationship with him, i mean). Obviously its uncomfortable to have certain types of conversations, but i think its what should be done when something happens. Not talking about it makes the problem worse, in my experience. Cause the other person doesnt know that what they did hurt you, and, because of that, itll happen again. Thats how resentment builds. I spent so much time learning how to change my behavior. It was a huge challenge. Thats why its pissing me off. How am i even supposed to act? The psychologist (according to my bf) was implying that we just arent compatible. Like theres nothing to do about it. Excuse me???

Sooo... I read online once that hrt might make your piercings migrate or reject due to the skin texture changing. Has anybody noticed this? Ive been wanting a bridge for some time, but im kinda scared it might reject after starting hrt (im starting on july!!!), especially since that area changes quite a bit (as far as im aware, ive read it gets bigger, ykwim)