u/faerle — reddlx

Weird voice message sent by mistake at work with boss singing an inappropriate song about coworker.

So I am posting this for friend, names are changed.

Friend (Jill) had sent a text to boss (Phil), Phil replied to text but then called afterward, Jill called back and Phil seemed confused as to why Jill called him unaware he called jill first.

The day goes on and Jill notices that there is a voicemail left from Phil’s missed call it’s muffled for the first few minutes and then all of the sudden Phil breaks out into song over the breast of Jill’s young coworker. Below is what he says…

Boy.. *young coworkers name* with her big tits. Big tits.
She got big titties, big, big, big, big, big titties, big **** titties, titties. Titties, big ones, big titties, titties, titties, titties, titties, titties.

Very bizarre behavior to be singing about the breast of an employee while driving to work. Jill is not sure what to do here, go to HR, confront Phill, or just ignore this.

What would you all do in this situation?

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u/faerle — 11 days ago

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AIO: My Mum Decorated My Birthday Cake, And I Don't Know How to Feel

Hiii

My [F] 17th birthday is tomorrow and my mum decorated my cake as a surprise, but today I accidentally saw how she decorated it and I don't know if my initial thoughts are an over-reaction.

In short, she has put a bunch of fondant decorations/clutter which is meant to represent the mess in my room.

Now, I will definitely admit that my room is particularly messy at the moment and I am not proud of it- during exam seasons my brain completely blocks out cleaning and prioritises exams so I don't even notice how bad its gets till they're over. But there is also no denying that my room is a mess.

However, tomorrow is my last exam and I am planning to clean up my room the same night.

Anyways, when I saw the cake it still made me quite upset.

It feels as though she is using my 'special' day to shame me. And- perhaps this expectation was partially my fault- but when she said she had a "good idea" for a cake I got excited and thought maybe she had seen something to do with my interests, or maybe even was doing the iconic Twilight "17" cake or EVEN a childish 6-7 joke. But instead this cake feels not only entirely impersonal, but also slightly offensive.

I feel like it's drawing attention to how I struggle with mental health (?), motivation and consequent cleanliness as a joke at the expense of me, on my birthday.

[For context, my mum never usually decorates cakes EVER, but she really wanted to this year and so put the fondant decor onto a storebought cake] Additionally, months ago she actually had shown me a picture where someone had a cake like that and laughed, and I went on to explain that I would've found it offensive if I was the person who received it. So it kind of feels like I was completely ignored because SHE found it funny.

It also feels like she is decorating the cake for herself, not me; my sister actually saw the cake before me and was the one who told me what it was and when my sister said I might be upset by the cake, my mum only mentioned how she had a "gift" for decorating but how "I guess I just can't do anything right with you guys."

Anyways, I would love advice for if I'm overreacting!! I can definitely get into my own head.

Since I will be receiving the cake tomorrow, I'd also love advice for how I show react when I see it. Maybe the exam stress is getting to me but I teared up thinking about how the "reward" for exam stress and my birthday is a reminder of my failings.

EDIT (same day, just a little later haha): I have appreciated all the really supportive and kind comments. I will definitely try and rise above it tomorrow and be the bigger person by not reacting x

However, if the cake is accompanied by an adjoining rude comment, I'll definitely take the advice of you guys and subtly speak up

I appreciate you all so much!! Your kindess is so heartwarming. For now, I will definitely focus on the exam and then cleaning my room lol

[P.S to those you asked, I will try and get a pic]

SECOND EDIT (just before I go sleep) Having read some comments I can definitely see why some people have said I overreacted; I think because this is a repeated pattern, my frustration might feel like it comes from nowhere. But I want to say that I in no way shape or form don't acknowledge my privilege, or take the fact my mum has a cake for me to begin with for granted.

Additionally, if I hadn't known all this in advance, I probably would have quietly thought these things and taken it in stride, but I wanted to the opportunity to talk it out, so thanks to you all!

Wow this post is long now. Appreciate all the insight xx

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u/Working_Ant_9505 — 20 days ago

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To the family who was wandering the lot on the corner of Madison and 9th on Sunday:

You: A lovely, aesthetically crunchy, hipstery, and presumably hetero family with two young children, taking lovely photos in the overgrown grass on the empty lot that was once an apartment building until it burnt down twice. Your baby appeared to have no shoes on, and the mother had only birks. You also appeared to be grabbing some things out of the grass (?)

Me: someone who lives above the lot, far too mortified to yell down to you to get the hell out of what I refer to as the RAT HOLE because there are several dozen rats of various sizes who I watch scamper around from my balcony. We’re talking like, 30RPH (rats per hour) spotted on a slow day. On top of all of that, there is remnants (dust, debris) from the fires and the efforts to put them out, garbage and broken objects thrown in from the local unhoused camps that pass through, broken glass and needles, rusted metal scrap, feces, discarded substance paraphernalia, crumbling brick and stone, the list goes on.
It is NOT somewhere you want to wander through or walk around. In fact, the unhoused groups won’t even build camps on the lot because of the rats and dangerous materials. I love rats but I definitely would not be scampering around with them in this location. I would like to encourage you (and the general public) to reframe from exploring the lot with (or even without) small children, especially without proper footwear, PPE, and extreme precaution. I hope one day the lot can become a nice place where the neighborhood can rest and perhaps even somewhere where those struggling can sleep at night, it would be a great location for a small park. As for now there are far too many hazards for anyone to casually walk through.

Also, if you are reading this and happen to be a part of the company (from Tampa, Florida btw) who previously owned the apartments that you allowed to burn down once, then failed to clean up the aftermath until a second alarm three fire broke out in the remains of the original fire: Fuck You! I place 90% of the blame for how disgusting this lot is on you. The other 10% goes towards the city for not holding them accountable and for doing nothing to keep the lot clean.

u/faerle — 24 days ago