u/feixiangtaikong

From the Chelsea games I've watched when he was still in charge, his midfield couldn't really control games. They only looked alright when they didn't have possession and relied more on transition. The game would run away from them at times.

I was confused when I heard the deflection about not having an experienced CB.

The Community Shield game was so similar. It's astonishing how much worse they look now compared to last season (including the period when Rodri was out injured).

Now City wants to sell all of their midfield and spend 300M-400M to buy midfielders for him. I'm not sure HOW Alex Scott or Enzo Fernandes or Bouaddi will help him in his aspect. I don't think he knows how to coach a midfield at all.

I have tried writing down how I think other people think/feel, but it isn't usually helpful for me, esp if I want to predict how people will act in certain situations.

However, in my experiences, relationships get easier when I think of people as biomechanical beings. They want certain things from you, and respond to stimuli according to certain rules. Only then do their behaviours become remotely predictable.

For example, when I try to relate to people, I can think "oh being rude to people isn't something a nice person does, and I wouldn't want someone to be rude to me". But it isn't particularly helpful when I encounter someone who aggressively tries to push boundaries, like a bully in work place or my family. Then I would go into a spiral of thinking about "why would this person behave in this way?" since I can't relate to them. But if I switch to another mode and think "humans are really just animals, and a bully is a particular kind of animals which only respects your boundary when you show that you're not a nice person", suddenly the cognitive load is lower, and my behaviours are more effective (I can be curt to someone and call them out and signal to them that they need to stay away).

Between the Super League and the hydration breaks, the administrations, on behalf of American business interests, seem hellbent on destroying the product.

Football isn't an utility. It's a luxury product. People watch football for enjoyment, but ultimately we don't really need to do it.

The administrators like Infantino are doing everything to tamper with core product? I don't get why an extra 3 minutes of ads are so important when fans constantly watch football content OUTSIDE of the matches. There are lots of other revenue streams which have nothing to do with the attention economy either.

The only thing they will get is that fewer people will watch football in the future. It's already happening. Football isn't as popular among the younger generations in some footballing countries anymore. So they're destroying the industry itself? Very odd decisions. They did this to movies as well.

Nwaneri is getting put on the market, whereas Madueke is comfy at the club. Why? If you come from Hale End you're less valuable than the guy from the SPURS academy, even when you score and assist more per 90?

We spent £52m on Madueke and tripled his salary for worse output than our academy player. He's quite clearly a flop, and his performance should've triggered a review of the recruitment process at the club. The people responsible haven't owned up to their mistake and are now trying to cover it up by selling a more talented player.

The world makes no sense anymore. I used to think hero worship, even though I never really engaged in it, at least was directed toward extraordinary people, like world class athletes or Nobel Prize winners. Even when I was younger I don't remember much fascination among men toward famous actors.

Now I'm seeing the weirdest cults around livestreamers and Youtubers, esp guys who make a point to talk about their endless dysfunctions.

Is it not grandiosity? Can you become a driver by forging a license? Can you become an engineer by cheating your way through school? Can you become a politician by manipulating voters? Well yeah, but something’s not correct here, is it?

These motivational quotes do seem to give people license to disregard rules and boundaries to achieve “what they want”. They implicitly condemn restrictions on one’s “dreams”.

What about, say, “being average” that so distresses the narcissist? After all, most people are “average” in most things. Only when you think you were entitled to some greatness, which remains outside your personal qualities, does the thought distress you.

How often have we seen recognition elude exceptional people? Most of the writers I like are unknown to the general public. It’s an exceedingly commonplace phenomenon. The absence of recognition doesn’t refute their brilliance. Most of us can distinguish between these two notions of person’s abilities and external recognition.

Those cliches in the average person’s cognitive repertoire, fed to the public by a steady diet of MCU and Harry Potter, seem to collapse the distinction between “what you are made of”, one’s qualities, and “what you want to become”, the external validation one desires.