u/firfetir

Each awful news article that comes my way I'm freshly gutted again. I want to scoop up all these babies from these stories and just step in and give them every thing they need. I know I sound like such a bleeding heart.

What have you done to help these feelings? I'm thinking of starting a small monthly donation somewhere so I can feel like I can help somehow.

Genes are just copies of traits whether they get used or not right?

I can only ride like once or twice a month. I know it's going to take a long time to really feel comfortable (it's like my fear almost resets back to square one each time I ride). I'm just looking to hear from others who have been in my shoes that you did eventually start to feel more confident, even when you could only ride occasionally. And if so, when did it start to happen for you? Right now I've ridden maybe 20ish miles max.

Edit: I really appreciate you guys taking the time to tell me your experiences and suggestions. I'm gonna try to get a balance board to get some extra practicing in at home. (I actually used to use an "Indo" board a lot, years ago, and I can tell that experience has already helped me from the get go.)

My time is so limited because we have a new baby (yay!), so weekdays after work I have zero time before it is dark out and I am frankly 200% exhausted. I have a couple blocks of time on the weekend and my onewheel is really just a fun pass time for me so if I don't feel in the mood to go for a ride during my extremely limited free time, I don't want to force myself about it and suck the fun out of it when that's the whole point. My time will free up as baby gets older but for a while I will be very limited.

Some of your comments have given me hope, and I guess I have noticed some small improvements even now. Today I dealt with numerous unexpected obstacles and I was able to react without falling off! I would just like to feel less fear.

New parent here just trying to stay sane by making what little progress I can with the yard/garden while I have limited time/energy/funds.

The ground/soil around the house looks very sandy. Under the fruit trees and oaks it's nice and dark and loamy.

I'm wondering how long I should expect soil improvement to take if I just start using the beneficial fallen leaves/fruit to cover the sandy areas (I would love to go get some compost but we have a huge yard and can't afford enough compost currently). Could I expect it to be ready by next summer?

My other concern is the freeze our poor plants just went through. Our mango trees have survived but need a lot of dead stuff cut off. If I want to start raking the leaves/fruits to break down in the sandy soil how much should I expect that to impact the mango trees bouncing back?​

Please be patient with me I've always dreamed of having a big yard and now that I do I have a mountain of learning to go along with it.

Someone else can be the mom and I will be the baby 😮‍💨

First baby. We thought maybe her appetite had increased but we've offered more formula/milk and she isn't interested in eating more.

It changed from just sticking things in her mouth to actively suckling every single thing.

My husband entered his info to win a $200 giftcard at an event last weekend. Today he tells me he was the winner (he is also a little skeptical) and he talked to some lady on the phone about going to a Marriott presentation (I'm guessing one of those ownership presentations?).

They say we pay a $134 deposit that gets refunded after the presentation (???) and then we get a free 3 day 2 night stay (via a voucher we would still pay taxes on) and then my husband would only get the giftcard he "won" after the presentation.

Why would we need to pay a deposit for them to try to sell us something through their presentation? To make sure we stay? Isn't that the incentive of the "free" stay you get afterward? I might be more inclined to think it was legit if the giftcard had honestly been won but the fact that they are telling him he "won" and dangling it behind more steps makes me think every part of this is a scam and he wont even get the giftcard when it's over.

We are new parents and would love to take baby to the next city for a little mini weekend trip and splash in the pool but something tells me that's wishful thinking regarding this.

Edit: thank you everyone. I'm already super pessimistic but it would have been nice if we could have won a little something. Money has been tight and I bet my husband was excited about winning a big giftcard. Sucks.

I was told only UF students could take chemistry online with them and for some reason I'm required to take CHM2045 (or CHM2046 idr) before I can become a student. I'm a working adult in my 30s and a new mom and taking classes in person at all has been basically impossible. Night classes are only offered for people getting there masters and I'm trying to get my bachelors. If I could just take this class online I could finish the last handful of classes I need to get my degree. Is there any loophole or exception or anything at all that can help me do this?

The "big kahuna" of book sites is obviously Goodreads; so I poke around updating what I've read, what I want to read, hoping the suggestions it gives me will eventually get better and more accurate - but I'm unsure how much I should expect this result.

For better or worse I am extremely biased against anyone personally suggesting books to me because all throughout my life I've noticed 99% of people can't help but recommend a book because THEY liked it, not because they truly think YOU will like it. People's suggestions of movies/shows I should watch lends itself to this bias I have. Nine times out of ten when I read a book mentioned by someone else they weren't even recommending it to me they were just talking about it and didn't even clock that I would like it.

Just recently I was scrolling Insta and accidentally saw a post about Yesteryear and was instantly INTRIGUED by the synopsis. Found the book that same day and devoured it within a few days. It was maybe a 3 star for me in the end but I was still intrigued enough to blast through it. On the flip side I checked out ACOTAR when it blew up so huge and hated it so much lol.

I also end up feeling overwhelmed really fast with any type of media to consume. It's especially exhausting with media to be watched like movies/shows/etc because those are put in front of you a lot more in my experience. "<Everyone> HAS to watch this <new media> it's SO good!" and I feel instantly fatigued. There's so many new shows/movies that are SO good EVERY year. It all goes in one ear and out the other. I have a limited amount of time on this earth and I can't watch all the things.

I get a similar feeling with trying to go through my recommendations on Goodreads. I click through recommendations and after a while I start to get... idk nihilistic about it. So many people have been writing so many books for so many centuries it feels like a lost cause trying to sift through them even in a recommendations category.

And then I get decision fatigue. I add various things to my "want to read" list but then they kinda just sit there. Not the end of the world I guess, we all know about the plight of having a shelf of books we still haven't read and some mild guilt associated with them.

Not sure what I'm looking for from this post. I guess I'm feeling a little whiplash from it being so long since I had that instant excitement feeling of like "I HAVE to read that IMMEDIATELY" to going back to maybe another few years before I get that feeling again.

TL;DR: I'm struggling to walk a fine line between finding enough (any) books I'm EXCITED about and getting overwhelmed/paralyzed with centuries of possible book recommendations.

I haven't biked in idk how long but I recently got an ebike and felt like a kid, being giddy to commute to work on it. It's about a 45 min ride to the lab, and I noticed my fingers were getting VERY tingly and basically numb while riding. Does anyone have any experience with this? I don't really think I have any like... circulation problems? Not that I've noticed anyway?

It made me uncomfortable because I was riding in the tiny bike lane but taking my hand off the handlebar with cars whizzing past while I'm also going 20 mph, just to get some feeling back in my fingers. Just hoping it will go away and wanted to try asking for input.