u/fucknickicue

First one to guess and I’ll confirm :)

Chicharron with an arepa and lime for dinner…. Anyway..

I currently live in a house my husband’s grandparents.

They’re only supposed to stay for a year until their house is renovated. We lived in our house for a few months alone before they moved in. Since then it’s been absolute hell.

His grandparents are wealthy and are very entitled. As soon as they moved in they started redecorating the house, yelling at my kids (for things I allow them to do) and just having them in the house makes it incredibly uncomfortable.

The most recent argument has been about them having overnight guests. She’s constantly allowing overnight guests that stay for 3/4 nights at a time. I wouldn’t have a problem with this but the grandmother never tells me when these guests are coming. She always tell me the day of. This is incredibly irritating because I’m the one who organized and washes and the bedding for guests. Not to mention I have sever social anxiety and need a few days to prepare for guests.

Me and my husband have asked her multiple times to just shoot us a text and let us know in advance when these guests are coming. She completely ignored us and started inviting them over more and more without telling us which seemed malicious.

I’ve asked nice 6 different time (YES she’s done this 6 times so she obviously has no respect for the boundary.

My husband has always had my back when this came to this situation…

I finally hit a breaking point and confronted the grandmother about please extending the small courtesy of letting me know when we have overnight guests. I have 3 children so it rally throws the house off when I know they’re not coming.

She absolutely freaked out. I confronted her in a very calm manner and she completely blew up. She tried saying that she’ll put her family in a hotel and started commenting on how I pay no bills (I’m a SAHM) and I don’t deserve to be informed. She told me to deal with it.
Her daughter (my mother in law) also jumped in and tried to tell me again how I have no say if I pay no bills….

The thing that hurts the most is that my husband had my back the entire time until his family turned against me…
He immediately took their side, kicked me out (this was the week of my birthday btw when we had planned an amazing Airbnb with the kids)

I feel completely betrayed. He even told me “blood is stronger than paper”…

Since then he’s changed his tune but he still wants ME to apologize to his family. I’m still hurt and disrespected. I also feel stabbed in my back by my husband. He has a habit of taking his family’s side over mine. He lets them control him.

We’re currently moving out next month so we don’t have to deal with them anymore.. but I’m still extremely hurt by my husband.

What do you think?