u/garbajdaughter

I sent this

Dear mom

It’s been over a year since we last spoke.

I’ve achieved things and have become a one woman army.

I advocate for myself, and do it well, I’ve even gotten people fired, I document things.

I have a credit score, it’s actually decent at 710.

Once it’s 720 I have an apartment I plan on moving into.

I just had another surgery, it was pretty intense, broken bones, a lot of metal hardware.

Doctors suspect I have an autoimmune disease I’ve been silently dealing with, I’ll explore this in the near future once my ankle is settled, at the very least I have a heart condition.

Anya is happy, well fed, snuggled with lots.

There’s rarely a day that goes by I don’t think about the past, but I think I made the right decision.

I bought that beehive plush, I don’t think you remember but you said I could keep it in the kitchen since it matched your decor. I didn’t steal anything. I was surprised you locked me out when you didn’t lock out (my dad) and he stole a lot.

I’ve gotten rid of most of my stuff, my life fits into a small room right now, helps me save on rent and plan for the future.

I pay $700 for a room and private bathroom with all utilities included, plus some storage space for all my utility aids including a wheelchair. I’ve needed one for the past year and been using that and a walker.

I plan to move states, change my name and start somewhere bright and sunny for career and weather reasons- but excited about this as it’s getting closer to happening.

I think missing y’all out on a couple scheduled things was fair as I stopped being able to use the fridge in the kitchen and that complicated things for me financially while I lived with you all.

I’m still with—-,we celebrated our one year awhile back.

I think you seem happy like you always did from your posts, I’m glad.

I don’t think I fit into the equation, house wise once (her boyfriend) moved in. Me leaving was for the best, wished you hadn’t locked me out though.

Made moving hard.

I miss the girls and the doggies a lot.

I see they’ve grown up a lot, I’m sad I missed that but I’m happier overall now, more peaceful despite having a crazy landlord haha.

I plan on going to med school. I might work for a big university hospital one day.

I don’t go by_________anymore, rarely anyone calls me that unless it’s a medical setting.

_________lived inside that room and didn’t have a credit card or felt like an adult.

I feel like one now, I don’t even game really anymore, I spend my time drawing and I’m into sewing.

Life is good for me, here I think, the air isn’t smoky during summertime.

I’m moving forward, it looks you guys have too and I’m glad. I won’t be coming back.

Love you guys,
In another life maybe things would’ve been different

-a not-so stranger, stranger

End note

I feel so stupid but I made a fb account to review a place and she came up in my suggested

She turned my room into her and her boyfriend bedroom.

I feel stupid for sending it.

I also lied, I pay more than $700 but that was the price of another place I almost moved into, it’s to prove a point because my mom expected 1400-2500 for one bedroom somewhere rural

Going on four years of an ankle injury, partially worsened to the degree it is due to harassment and retaliation from manager and several hr members prohibiting and making medical treatment possible.

I have an upcoming surgery in a month from now, my second. My first surgery was in 2024.

I have some issues with my attorney and I don’t know all the details but he let me know they are offering a cda with medical coverage but to sever time loss benefits.

Technically they offered a settlement for 10k before I got a good doctor and before surgery was approved, I passed it over because it would not have made my life better at all, it was almost laughably bad regarding medical costs. But because of how quickly I passed it over I also didn’t learn a lot about the process as my attorney wasn’t too interested in spending time on a lesson if I wasn’t going to take the test.

My attorney isn’t always the best at giving all the details and said we should discuss the new offer once I’m healing from surgery and making sure everything is alright.

I have an osteochondral lesion that is very large, the current surgery I’m about to get has been on the table for me to get since the first year of injury. An OATs procedure, if that helps with any likely amount offered in settlement.

It was only held off because of how long it took to get any surgery approved and I had initial hesitancy due to the surgeon I had at the time, now though I didn’t have a lot of success with the first surgery and physical therapy and am developing bone spurs now which I did not have prior.

I’m not likely to take up the offer, it’d have to be life changing otherwise it just temporarily puts aside a couple issues for me but doesn’t fix or really ease up my life because of how I’m currently situated. And possibly make moving states easier, I don’t know what partial disability looks like either and find most of the stuff online about the differences in classification confusing.

But I sort of would like more information on them and the articles or docs posted online haven’t made many things all that clear.

When I was younger my sister had this weird thing of one-upping me and flexing, maybe because I was getting the only child experience with how big of an age gap we had- she brought up me basically being an only child often. She was an adult only a couple years after I was born. We had another sibling that sadly passed when I was young, but my sister as a teen experienced having two siblings for a couple years.

Anyway, she showed me skylanders and encouraged me to play when I spent the night at her place, then I was gifted the game and the starter characters.

At a certain point because of how young and bad at the game I was, all my skylanders were dead with a certain mission.

She would come over and bring her massive skylanders collection and play on her 3ds.

I was not allowed to use them for my game or borrow them, but she did weirdly expect me to watch her play and use the characters- which is why I brought up the weird flexing behavior as this continued with Disney infinity.

Over the course of three skylander games I had 15 characters, but my sister owned every figure for the first two games and collected some for the next ones but not all.

She left the bag behind that contained them late one night, I ran upstairs and put them in my room. An hour later she came back for them but I was in bed, and lied that I hadn’t seen them.

This then ate me up with so much guilt that when I watched ghost for the first time (why did my mom show me this at like 7/8) I’d go to bed with obsessive nightmares about going to hell.

The nightmares about going to hell for several years over this lead me to atheism lol.

Anyway, two years after I stole them initially, I cried and told my dad everything because we were moving and had my dad hide them back at her house since he was over there doing bathroom repairs for them and I got away with it because they were hoarders with a storage shed, three bedrooms full of stuff, a storage unit, and the house was cluttered with stuff.

Except for one skylander, I hid stump smash underneath an ugly willow tree and shitty makeshift concrete pour pond made by the landlord before we moved in. I had at first planned to hide the skylanders in places to avoid being caught because I was afraid of my sister and her boyfriend would find them but the process was too slow as I had barely managed to hide one without being caught by my parents.

So there’s now a trap house with a skylander buried under the tree.

I feel guilty whenever I look at my personal stump smash, I’m not in contact with my family at all so there isn’t even a way I’d confess.

But I’m sorry I was a little shit and took your skylanders out of jealousy, even if you had this weird thing about showing off, they were still yours and you didn’t deserve that.