u/gardenbuggy

I live multigenerationally with my wife, mom, sister, and grandmother. She is 77 y/o and still very active (has a whole circuit of chores she does to stay busy, runs many of her own errands), but I am highly concerned about eating behaviors.

I have researched natural bodily changes in older adults and understand that appetite and eating habits can change, but she was recently described as "cachectic" in chart notes during a medical visit.

Access to food is not an issue. She always has ingredients, as well as easily reheatable meals; any of us will always cook for her. She just tells me she's not hungry. I've gone to her doctor with her, and he has encouraged her to drink protein drinks and eat small regular meals.

She is constantly fatigued, has mild cognitive issues (confirmed with neuro-psych not alz/dementia), and has lost a significant amount of muscle mass. Her doctor believes these symptoms will improve with regular eating.

There are a million other details I could add about her personality and such that seem to make this more challenging.

I'm just...sad. I want to do anything and everything to help her. She's always told us she wants to live to 100. Obviously, I know we can't exactly control that, but I feel like she's actively harming herself.

My mom and I are going to seek out support from senior services soon, but I guess I am looking for personal ideas for support, perhaps just commiseration. I do not want to watch her starve herself.

This isn't superrrr GLP related, but I feel like some of you may understand.

I'm feeling called to move my body, after several years of being more sedentary and processing a lot of grief. Yes, there is the strength training benefit to preserve muscle when on a GLP, but it's more than that.

It's like a loud noise from the primal/intuitive parts of me, "Get. Stronger."

But every time I do intentional movement (even if it's "light exercise") it makes me irritable/pissy, then emotional (crying or close to it), and I stop - clammed up and defeated.

Have others experienced this? Is the answer to just keep moving through the movement?

I have ADHD and also have asthma. Wondering if it's some PDA at play or fear of triggering my asthma? Maybe the reason is irrelevant?

Probs definitely a topic for my therapist, but also enjoy hearing personal experiences of perseverance.

Has anyone purchased tickets like this and ultimately been able to transfer them? I know sometimes transfers become available a few days before hand. Didn't realize that they were labeled non-transferable when I purchased.

We had a whole group tripped planned, but now we can't make it. Ideally, I would be able to resell, or at the very least transfer these, but now, I'm wondering if they're just totally gonna go to waste.

Hey all, just looking for some advice and insight.

Really committed to lowest effective dose, but wondering if I should increase at next shot. Prescriber is pretty hands off and PCP is supportive, but not actively involved. Wanting peer input, I know yer not a doctor or my doctor.

I am 4 doses in, about half way through my 4th week. 2.5mg, compounded tirz from Hallandale.

5'5"

SW/HW: 359

CW: 348

Loosely tracking protein and fiber. Still pretty sedentary, but have strength training on the brain.

Physical symptoms have been manageable. Experienced some constipation early on, but got it sorted out with better water intake. A few sulfur burps, but nothing crazy. Mild to significant fatigue.

I've had some shifts in mental health, mixed reviews. Feel like my anti-depressant is working differently, not exactly better. Some irritability increase, and low motivation. My brain is much quieter, and the food noise has subsided quite a bit, feeling like I actually have a fighting chance at intuitive eating. Stopped biting my nails. Dopamine sources are shifting, doomscrolling into oblivion since I'm not really eating my feelings. Working through it with my therapist. My adderall feels like that IS working better, has helped compensate for the anti-depressant changes. Check in with MH med prescriber soon.

Trying to be mindful of satiety, but do feel like at this point (not so much early on) I couldddd eat through it if I was real excited about the meal.

My wife has noticed some increased snacking in the last week or so. Meal volume sneaking up.

Overall, I am generally satisfied with the experience, but if I am being real, I would have hoped for more weight changes given the amount I am prepared to drop. I know that slow and steady is most sustainable and respect that. I know protein and strength is paramount.

What would you do at this point? Buckle down on those gaps and ride out 2.5mg or bump up? Straight to 5mg or increase more gradually? If we have similar stats, how did your first month compare?

Any insights would be so appreciated!

TLDR: 33F high BMI, with anxiety/PMDD/ADHD, nervous to start, looking for encouragement and happy stories of success.

Hey pals!

My 3 mo prescription of compounded tirz will arrive tomorrow. Planning on taking it for the first time this coming week.

I am nervous as hell.

I've been on vilazidone for some OCD-like symptoms (intrusive thoughts, rumination, mental compulsions, reassurance seeking) for about a year and am doing really well. Adding an oral birth control this weekend to help with breakthrough symptoms during luteal phase (PMDD). Taking adderall as needed for ADHD.

Why write a post about this? Well, I'm real glad this sub is here and just wanna feel less alone.

My anxiety about starting is kinda in three buckets. Social, mental health, and side effects.

I'm queer and have always been influence by HAES and fat liberation sentiments - to my own detriment. I have been fat my whole life, but am now considered "super morbidly obese." I've been one of those peeps who has been mobile, active, and generally healthy on paper. It made it easy to really embrace these ideologies when nothing was "wrong." Recently, with some grief, inactivity, and significant weight gain, I've become so uncomfortable in my body. My knees are showing signs of distress, my other joins are achey, I'm experiencing some leg swelling, and I've developed plantar fasciitis. My all-or-nothing thinking makes me feel like I am bad or betraying every fat person in existence by using this medicine with the hope of loosing some weight and improving my bodily feels.

On mental health, I am in a good place and worried this is gonna mess it all up. I have a therapist and a great PCP and NP. Had an in-depth convo with my PCP who supports this path for me.

Side effects. What if...what if...what if? You shityourpantsandyourpancreasexplodesand...?

Jfc. If you read this far, thank you. Your girl is just an overthinker and I know no one IRL in my sitch.

Anywho, thoughts, jokes, poop stories, and words of encouragement are requested.

I recorded myself doing my morning movement routine. And felt 1,500 different emotions playing it back.

I have no real perspective of how I look to anyone else and it was so overwhelming.

That's me? That's my body? That's what other people see when I move through the world?

I have been fat my whole life. Much of my family is fat. I have recently decided to stop actively trying to lose weight after reading about how hard weightloss is on our bodies and how little long-term success there is at keeping weight off.

I want to focus on strength and flexibility.

And also...fuck.

I do not want to be this big.

Do other people grapple with fat liberation, social pressure to be small, but also want to feel strong and be able to move with ease?

Idk. I feel pulled in a million different directions in my brain and heart.

Looking for commiseration and thoughtful replies.

Notes for consideration: 33F - 355lb - 5' 5" - Normal labs/other health markers. ADHD - OCD-like anxiety.