u/girlsdad1979

I really liked these two as a couple on MAFS and their presence on insta as a couple… but since they have broken up I am finding them both a bit cringe.

I’m still devo they broke up too 😭😂

About 4 or so years ago I left a marriage. Early last year, I thought I’d fire up the dating apps. I met this guy who was NOT my type at all. Covered head to toe in tats(nothing against them but not my thing)and a little rough around the edges. But we had a lot of fun. He was the bad-boy distraction I needed while I was going through a really rough time.
To my surprise, I actually ended up liking the guy.

As the months rolled on, though, I started noticing that he was pretty mean to me. Unfortunately, being treated like this by men is a pattern for me. He’d make these really cutting comments that would just take me by surprise. I could never tell if they were jokes or whether he genuinely meant them. For example, I met his family. Afterwards I asked him how he thought I went. He immediately shut me down with, “How do I know how you went? You’re the one that met them.” I was so taken aback that I just shrunk into myself and let it fly over. There were more and more comments like that. I would go over to see him and he’d be knee-deep in rugby, barely giving me the time of day. In my head I’d be thinking, Just leave this loser(cos he was). I was also completely drawn in by the high-octane sex, so I stayed.

Eventually, after I’d been through a particularly tough experience with my ex-husband, he said to me, “Have your hormones settled down yet? Why are women so immature?” So that was it. Something in me just went nope. Yuck. I dumped him by text and while it was hard at the time, I’m so glad I didn’t waste my energy driving over to sit and wait for another rugby game to end then do it.

This time, instead of explaining it away, wondering if I was being too sensitive, or trying to make myself fit into the situation, I listened to myself. I decided I’m just not doing mean boys anymore. To be fair, that sounds like such a simple thing. But for someone like me, it has been fucking HARD.

I started paying attention to those moments where my heart would literally sink. Instead of overriding that feeling, I practised standing up for myself. Eventually I met an absolute prince.
Someone who has my back. Someone who picks me up when I’m having a shit day. Someone who actually thinks about dates. Someone who tells me his friends think I’m fucking awesome (cos I am thank you very much!).

I think I’m finally learning that I don’t have to earn someone’s affection by tolerating their shitty behaviour.

Who else has gone through this? Why is it so fucking hard for some of us to be true to ourselves when we already know, deep down, that something does not feel right at all?

Okay… this week at work I would say I have come across some daily “surprises”. 😂

Surely it can’t be that hard to do a double flush and check that everything is gone? 🚽

I don’t think I can deal with any more surprises next week. I urge you all to do the right thing. Both males and females! 😂🫠

Is this the most intense Coles on the planet? 😂
Every time I do my monthly shop here, I genuinely feel like I’m participating in a modern-day version of Lord of the Flies.

How is it that in one of the most affluent parts of Perth, Coles has managed to fuck this up so badly?

The tiny aisles. The constant “out of stock” signs. The 1/10 decent pieces of fruit and veg that everyone is silently fighting over. The self-service tills that somehow become a group project involving at least 3 staff to fix (every single time. 😵‍💫)

I leave feeling simultaneously violated, humbled and grateful to have survived

Why do I keep going back you ask? I don’t know. I’m stuck in a toxic relationship with Claremont quarter Coles and I don’t know how to break up.