u/green_colour_enjoyer

I'm writing a story and a character gets stabbed in the eye with a pen at some point (open globe penetration?). I assume this should be treated with surgery? And if so, what kind of anesthesia would be used?

I read this online:

Types of Anesthesia for Eye Surgery:

Topical anesthesia: Eye drops or gels containing local anesthetics are applied to the surface of the eye to provide numbing and pain relief during the procedure.

Retrobulbar anesthesia: A local anesthetic is injected behind the eye to provide pain relief and prevent eye movement during the procedure.

Peribulbar anesthesia: A local anesthetic is injected around the eye to provide pain relief and prevent eye movement during the procedure.

General anesthesia: The patient is fully sedated and unconscious during the procedure.

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So, which one would be suitable?

I hope this question makes any sense😭

I've never really had a complex hallucination. When I see people in real life talking about hallucinations it's often about shadow people or some other weird kind of entity. But can someone hallucinate let's say... a person they know? And not just for 2 seconds like them walking by but maybe that hallucination is even interacting with the person who is hallucinating, talking, saying and doing things that are "in character" for the person they're hallucinating? I see this in films/television (for example, in House MD, House hallucinates his deceased team member for a while and has consistent conversations with her). Can things like this actually happen in real life?

Alright, this will be a long post. Some explanation of the situation + some questions.

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I don't get upset being called a girl or she/her, because I'm used to it, but I wish I found out about what it's like to be transgender earlier, because I'm starting to wonder if I ever actually felt like a girl or just kept convincing myself I did, because I didn't know it was possible for me not to feel like one.

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I'm almost 17 years old, and I know that isn't very old, but I have friends who knew they were trans since they were like... what, 10??? And they've socially transitioned and have therapists, professionals they talk with about gender and transitioning, had their names changed in the school's system and all that stuff. And I feel like I'm too far into presenting as a cis girl to even think about transitioning. Everyone sees me as a girl, my parents think I've gotten over the "phase" I had 2 years ago (online, I never changed pronouns irl). Literally no one would take me seriously if I decided to transition.

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How do you start talking about these things? How do I get in contact with a professional that can help me? Is there like a professional that can help me figure out if I am even trans in the first place? Because I keep trying to figure it out on my own and I'm getting nowhere.

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I've never been to therapy, I saw a psychologist for a short while to get tested for autism, but that's it. I'm very insecure and anxious about everything and I never know how to actually reach out. I'm not assertive at all. And I'm very scared of situations I'm not familiar with. I have 0 experience with this.

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I wouldn't hate it if I turn out to be cis, but my parents think this is just something that will pass, even though I've constantly struggled with my identity for the past few years. I feel like this won't fix itself, no matter what my actual gender is. I just don't know where to start.

I (AFAB, 16) don't identify as trans (yet). I'm not sure if I even am trans but I often feel like I am. I feel like I would have at least tried to transition if I wasn't 153 cm tall in a country where 190 cm tall men and 180 cm tall women aren't uncommon (the Netherlands). All my ftm friends are AT LEAST 170 cm and I feel like I'm just better off staying a girl because I look more acceptable this way. Ofc other social factors play a part in this too but that's not the point here.

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I would just like to know if there are other short ftms (shorter than 160 cm), and what their experiences are!! Thank you :)

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(Also I've stopped growing years ago so the "but T will make you grow more" is not rly a reassurance in my case😆😅)

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i hope this is the right sub for this

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thanks

edit: quite a few ppl noticed my reply ab ethnicity so ill js make it easier and say that im a non white-passing mixed asian here

again thanks for all the input it really means a LOT to me😭🙏 im so happy most of you short dudes are living happily and that your heights dont get you misgendered. Again im not sure if im trans or if im happy js being a girl but reading all of this rly made my day either way♥️

I got diagnosed with autism and I've been told I'm high masking, but I don't remember having to actively learn how to fit in and mask? I just know that when I was a child I didn't mask a lot and often felt weird and out of place and when I turned like what, 13 I suddenly was aware of how to be like a NT person?? I can read the room, I don't have to consciously break down a situation to do so, and I don't remember ever having to do that.

I do have special interests/hyperfixations, get overstimulated, constantly run out of social battery, and stim a lot when unmasked, and I do feel different from most people.

But I feel like I never had to consciously learn how to mask.

I'm so confused I feel like I'm not actually autistic because of that, and also because most people just don't notice I'm autistic and get surprised when I tell them.

Edit: I do want to say my social skills aren't great. The way I deal with people is to make sure I don't bother anyone, even if it ends with me getting treated unfairly. I can read the vibe of a situation quite easily, and I feel like it contradicts the most common idea that autistic people have a harder time reading the room and considering other people? I don't remember having to force myself to consider other people, it's natural to me. I might be talking about some harmful stereotypes though, I don't know, sorry.

Hi! A few months ago I posted a question about autism and asperger's before the diagnostic merger. In this post I said that I was born in 2009, and don't know much about how autism and asperger's were viewed, and if they were seen as entirely different before 2013.

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I said I know that some people now still used the term asperger's because they were diagnosed before 2013, and I asked if there were people with asperger's who used the term autism for themselves and/or were told they had autism, while being diagnosed with Asperger's before 2013.

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I asked this question because I'm trying to write a story, and one of the characters would now be seen as having autism, but it takes place at a time when asperger's was still a valid diagnosis. But the story takes place in 2003. For me it feels weird using the term asperger's for him, because I'm so used to "high masking" autism still being referred to as autism, and I'm also aware of the criticism around the name.

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Is it best to use the term asperger's or autism for this character in this book? Would using the term 'autism' make it inaccurate for the time it takes place in?

Thanks in advance

Edit: Thanks for sharing all of your experiences, it's very informative.

I do want to say autism is not going to be the MAIN focus of the story and I might not explicitly mention either terms at all, but I'm asking this so I can form a better idea in my head, and then I'll go from there.

Long story short: Can you be aroace and have a celebrity crush? And I don't mean a squish or a celeb you like aesthetically, but like an actual celebrity crush?

Long story longer:

For years I've been going from pan to aroace to unlabeled to aroace to questioning to aroace again and I dont know anymore.

I don't have the desire to be in a relationship. I had a girlfriend for a while —I doubted my aroaceness during that time—But guess what, turns out I just liked her platonically. We broke up, and I was sure I was aroace once again.

But the thing is,

I'm not romance or sex-repulsed. I like consuming media that has romance and sometimes sex, when it's more than just... that.

I like fantasising about characters from a book I'm writing, experiencing some kind of deep attraction I myself have never felt towards people I know irl, and i feel with them. As if I am them. Like empathy? But with romantic attraction?

I've seen a lot of people talk about how having fictional crushes is normal. But here comes the next thing:

I actually thought I didn't really have celebrity crushes, until I got really hyperfixated on this ONE guy (Dayo Wong but that's irrelevant). It started off as a normal hyperfixation, but on top of it, I developed a crush I think, and every time I see a pretty, hot or cute video/picture of him I get stupidly excited.

I genuinely think he's super hot and gorgeous and when he does something that is seen as hot or does things I dont really feel like explicitly mentioning right now, I get so excited I want to kick my feet and make inappropriate jokes with my friends (things that I don't ACTUALLY mean but I just feel like saying)

I make simp edits of him to hot/cute songs and post them on social media. (Yes im a chronically online teenager)

but it's just with THAT ONE GUY and I've never had it with anyone else before. And I KNOW that if I knew him irl I would NOT feel like this. AT ALL.

Am I aroace?? I feel like I relate to the term because I dont feel romantic or sexual attraction in real life but I'm so incredibly freaky for this one celebrity it's making me doubt a lot.

I was born in 2009, so I don't really know how autism was viewed before the diagnosis merge in 2013. I know that some people still refer to themselves as having Asperger's syndrome, because it was the diagnosis they were given and/or they view it as being different from Autism

Somewhere I read that before ASD became a thing, Asperger's was already considered a mild form of autism, like one of the five forms that fell under the autism diagnosis category, or something.

So, were there people who got diagnosed with Asperger's, but actually viewed themselves/referred to themselves as (mildly) autistic, before Asperger's and Autism got merged into the same diagnosis?

I hope this question is clear enough,

thanks in advance♥️

edit: with 'before it became a spectrum' I meant 'before it got recognised as a spectrum'