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My family background is poor and I'm already "behind" all of my peers at age 24. I haven't been able to move out, finish my bachelors, etc. There are more factors at play in my situation, not just dyscalculia, but it definitely has limited my options. I don't need to be extravagently wealthy, but I crave stability and financial security. The problem is that all of the reliable, well-paid careers seem to be centered around numbers and excellent working memory. Engineers, programmers, accountants, doctors, etc, all have to be very skilled and comfortable with numbers. Has anyone here managed to find a stable career? What field did you go into?

Does anyone here successfully work part time and maintain independent living? I'm 24 and I still haven't been able to get my license or move out. It's not for lack of desire, I've desperately wanted to live independently for years. One of the barriers I have is my difficulty working. I haven't been able to successfully hold down a full-time job for more than a couple years, and doing so caused serious issues for me. I'm quitting my current barista job only a few months in because it was a terrible fit for me. I couldn't handle it at all.

I'm looking for new work, but I'm worried that I'll never be able to move out and live on my own because I struggle so much with work. I don't want to be a burden for the rest of my life, and I also want to be free to make my own choices and feel like an actual adult. My family has always been poor, so I'm not in a position to borrow money or anything to get myself started. I also want to finish my Bachelors, but it sometimes feels like a pipe dream considering I haven't even managed to get my license, when most 15 year olds can do it with no problem whatsoever. I would appreciate any advice or insight whatsoever from anyone who's managed with similar limitations.

For context, I grew up Christian, was extremely devout, had a very bad time in the faith, deconverted, and am now very warily delving in again. I have a coworker who I work with frequently, and is very vocally Christian. She's quite comfortable talking about her faith, but not disresprctful, which I really appreciate about her. I'm just wondering if it would be weird to ask her for prayers. I dont plan on giving specifics but theres an ongoing issue within my family involving our safety and wellbeing, and I need help. I'm not good at prayer or comfortable with it, although I'm slowly trying it again. I think maybe the prayers of someone closer to god would help? But would that be overstepping?

I just need advice, if anyone has ever done this. I'm a barista, I already put in my 2 weeks and have one week left. I just had my weekend and I'm supposed to start my last week tomorrow afternoon. I don't want to get into details because it's fairly identifiable, but something happened that I have a lot of issues with and the barely-existent professional motivation I had to finish my last week has basically dissipated. It wasnt anything done to me, it was a coworker's interaction with a direct supervisor, but I think its extremely unprofessional and unacceptable, and its something I'm also at risk of due to a shared demographic. I know thats vague, sorry.

I have some good coworkers and I really hate to put them in a bad spot, but I'm seriously considering texting my SM thats I'm not going to do my last week and I won't be in. Has anyone done this? Any advice? I dont have any interest in being rehired, so my concern is mostly with not being a complete asshole.

Put in simple terms, my personal interests are oriented towards the humanities, political science, and information science. I have an Associate of Arts and want to pursue a Bachelors, but I've been debating which avenue I want to take. I would love to do my undergrad in history or political science and then pursue a MLIS. But I grew up well below the poverty line and I want to give myself some security, which the information sciences notoriously do not have.

Industry accounting is somewhat appealing to me, and the market for accountants is definitely more reliable than it is for historians, librarians, or archivists. I'm just curious if anyone here has an Accounting degree as well as a degree in the humanities or information science? I'm toying with the idea of a dual degree; a BA in History and BS in Accounting, and then pursuing my MLIS while I work. I'd like to have some flexibility after I graduate, but I don't know how feasible it would be to pursue both degrees at the same time when they're in such different fields.

I know most of us struggle socially (obviously), so I'm curious if this particular phenomenon is common or if it's just me. This was my experience with my peers at school growing up, and it's also been my experience with every workplace I've ever had.

I may just be misreading peoples behavior, but I very rarely seem to get a neutral response from people. Most coworkers seem to either really like me, or absolutely hate me, and practically never anything in-between. I'm wondering if there's a correlation or if it's just my personality? I seem to be very divisive. But I also used to have a lot of friends growing up who I eventually found out actually hated me the entire time, so I worry that I'm misreading cues and the people who seem very fond of me actually wish I wasn't around. Do any of you experience this? If so, why do you think that is?

Looking for a realistic ginger-forward perfume, ideally not gourmand or extremely fruity. I've had Zeste de Gingembre by Heeley recommended to me and its on my list. I also plan on picking up a sample of Poems One Through Twelve by Universal Flowering, but it sounds quite sweet and creamy, which isn't really what I'm looking for. The other recommendations I've gotten have been gingerbread/baking spice type perfumes or very juicy and fruity, which isn't what I want. Herbs, woods, pepper, florals, moss, even some ambers and boozy notes would all be perfectly fine. Does anyone have other recommendations?

Not sure if this is quite the best sub for this, but I need advice. I (20sF) still live with my mother and I've desperately wanted to leave for years. I've stayed in part for economic reasons (rent is extremely high where I live and I haven't made enough to support myself), but also because my mother is higgly controlling and has a history of getting extremely upset when I bring up the possibility if moving out. I have a younger sibling who also lives with us, and I was worried about my mother taking it out on her if I wasn't there. She has said explicitly multiple times that she will follow me wherever I go. She still expects me to get her permisdion before I make any decisions or even leave the apartment. I want to move to another state so I can finally feel safe and live my life without constantly looking over my shoulder.

The older I get, the more embarrassed and hopeless I feel about my ability to be independent. I have MDD and CPTSD and there have been times I wasn't able to function, let alone hold down a full time job. I have no savings left because I spent several months looking for work and continuing to help with rent after leaving a position that paid poverty wages. I have no drivers license because my mother refused to teach me when all my peers were learning in high school, and now I have extreme driving anxiety and very rarely have the opportunity to practice. I do have my Associates degree, which gives me some hope, but it took me much longer than it does for most people.

We've been unhoused before and I certainly don't have any glamorous misconceptions about "car living", but I've honestly thought that if I could just get my license and my own vehicle I could at least leave and live out of my car until I find housing. I'm just not sure what to do. I feel hopeless and I want to die. Every time I take a step forward, it seems like I get pushed back. I worry that she's right about me and I really can't do anything without her, and nothing will ever change. I feel simultaneously like a burden and like I'm trapped.

Has anyone been in this kind of position? Any advice? Even input on getting past the driving hurdle would be massively appreciated. She has been helping me practice, but it's been unreliable at best and I've made very very little progress over several years.

Watched Last Shift (2014) last night for the first time and I was surprised by how much I enjoyed it. I put it off for quite a while because the cover art looked so cheap and stupid to me. It's definitely not a perfect movie, but there was a really solid unsettling atmosphere and some unique sequences that I really liked. Just wondering if anyone has similar movies to recommend? Similar atmosphere, paranormal elements, etc. I'd look into the remake, but I've read that it's not worth watching.

Marking this as NSFW since it might be a little sensitive. I'm just hoping for some proactive advice and input on this.

TLDR I (24f) have been at my current barista job for >6 months and I put my 2 weeks in today for a variety of reasons. This job makes me absolutely miserable and I don't think I'm a good fit. I'm looking for other work and have applied at a few other places. I've been clean for 2 years but I relapsed a couple days ago, and today I used my break to self harm in the bathroom. I want to finish out my 2 weeks so I can leave with a decent impression, but I'm really struggling to show up and perform well. I was completely useless and insanely stupid mistakes throughout my entire shift today because I was distracted and miserable, which only made me feel worse, which led to the self harm.

I just want to be helpful in my last couple weeks and leave with a decent impression, but I've been struggling for a while and now I'm really really having a hard time. I'm worried about my performance. Honestly part of me is tempted to rescind the two weeks notice and just tell them I'm never coming in again, but I wouldn't do that. I just need input on remaining present and professional, if anyone has any advice. I can't seek treatment. I have other issues people are aware of, but nobody in my life knows about my history of cutting. I can't tell anyone.

Putting in my 2 weeks today, not even 6 months in. I've been toeing around it, but getting called in on my scheduled day off for the hundredth time felt like a sign lol. Thank you to everyone who left advice and input on my previous posts.

Fair warning for some discussion of mental health issues. I'm just so depressed and exhausted. I took the job here for the benefits, most important by far being SCAP. As a first generation student from a family with zero money, finishing college is literally my lifelong dream. I'm experienced with retail and am more than willing to work a less-than-perfect job if it will get me through school. But I am so utterly miserable here that I am genuinely considering going the typical route and taking out student loans on top of my Pell Grant to pay for school.

I hate this job so much. I hate this company so much. I can't transfer because the only other store where I live is even worse. I want to last the year so I can at least get a couple semesters paid for, but I honestly don't think I can stay with this company for the final 2 years of my degree. I have preexisting mental health issues and my symptoms have completely exploded since I started working here. Issues are resurfacing that I've kept a lid on for over a year now. I've nearly relapsed twice. I'm so depressed that I've had to contact the suicide hotline for the first time in over a year. I have no energy or interest in anything. Everything makes me mad. Just thinking about work makes me want to throw things.

I know some people have a better experience and stay with Starbucks for a long time, but I absolutely hate my life right now and I don't know if I can stay long enough to finish school. Most of my coworkers get along and even have fun together sometimes, but they're still miserable and hate being at work. Even the ones that "love their jobs" and have been here for years talk constantly about wanting to quit, but they're scared to lose their benefits. Also fuck Brian Niccol. Also fuck frappuccinos. Also fuck refreshers. And fuck cold foam too I'm sick of it.

I was thinking about cognitive rigidity, and I've never really considered myself to have that issue but I'm curious now if this could be an example. I feel like my opinions of other people are simultaneously very easily manipulated, but also very black-and-white. I've become increasingly aware of this as I've gotten older and I don't think it's totally fair or healthy, but I've been like this forever.

What I mean is that I tend to admire or dislike people very firmly, to the degree that I will go to great lengths to avoid being around them, but my decision can be made based on just one interaction or trait. Someone can be extremely verbally abusive to me, but then do one nice thing and I suddenly see them as a "nice person" and start justifying their overall behavior. On the other hand, I can be generally fond of someone and then never want to see them again because they do one thing that I think is wrong.

I intellectually understand that people are complex, so that's not really my issue. But emotionally and perceptively, I guess I have a really difficult time holding two opinions on the same person or situation. I've stuck through a lot of really bad friendships and hostile environments because there's one redeeming factor which, in my mind, means that everything else is acceptable. It's a little difficult to explain, but I'm wondering if I'm alone in this or if it's a common experience.