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I am currently pregnant with baby 3. SAHM with no extra help. I literally do it all - cleaning, laundry, folding, vacuuming, mopping, appointments, any/all house tasks. Vacations I am packing for everyone including my husband. I even hitch our RV trailer and drive it to our vacation location. My husband works occasional overtime and cooks. He acts like he is a superhero for doing these two things and continues to give me a hard time for simply relaxing on his days off (especially now I’m in my 3rd trimester) when I’m on 24/7 with two toddlers. He has the audacity to say he wants more kids but gives me grief when I try to rest during pregnancies/postpartum. I can barely count on my hand the times where I had any “me” time - one of them being 6 months postpartum, severely sleep deprived, losing my mind and just left for 2 hours at 11pm (he was at home) aimlessly driving around to get away from it all.
I have two autoimmune disorders I got after my last pregnancy and have low iron which I’m actively trying to manage. He complains about anything and everything I do. I am just SO TIRED of it all and I don’t know what to do from a Catholic perspective. We are both practicing Catholics but I can’t stand to be around him anymore due to the lack of support. Talking to him is like talking to a wall. I have been extremely upfront with him from the start and have tried to tell him in 30 different ways how challenging it all is but it does not register at all. I have brought up counseling but he keeps claiming we don’t need it. I’m completely shutting down at this point. I’d you have been in this position, what have you done?

Look, I’m not expecting the best lobster roll on the planet for $15.99. But is it decent? Interested in getting one at the Newington location.

Not sure where to ask this but here. With my oldest sister there is a 7 year age gap between us and my middle sister there is a 5 year age gap between her and I. They both have kids. For both, their eldest are girls and their youngest are boys. My middle sister thankfully has two young boys - one that is 4 years old (close to my 3 yr old) and one that is months off from my second both (they are one year). I love my family very much and they’re super loving. But it’s hard to be involved with them since their kids are mostly aged 10-7. They’re all independent and can do fun things together so they do age appropriate outings and activities that make it hard for my family to be involved since my kids are 3 & 1. Things include going to NYC, indoor zip lining, etc. it’s just not feasible with our two very active kids that still need naps etc. We are having a girl soon but there will be a 10 and 6 year age difference with her girl cousins. I have always felt a little left out with my sisters since they are close in age and I feel sad that they can continue to bond with their kids that are close in age. I’m always feeling left out. I have discussed this with my mom but I don’t think she fully understands/grasps this (not ill intentioned at all). We are all practicing Catholics so it’s nice to have that shared bond between everyone. Anyway, it also makes me think of my older cousins that I’m not really close with since there is a big age gap and I worry my kids won’t have that closeness with their cousins like they have between my sister’s kids. It stinks too because my parents are in their late 70s and really helped my sisters out a ton especially in the early years and now I don’t have that kind of help since they’re worn down a bit with age. Our kids are high energy and can’t stay still whereas my sister’s kids are now more independent/easy for my parents so my parents can easily do things with them that’s low maintenance on their part. It’s tough. I don’t know what I’m exactly looking for. Has anyone experienced this?

Side note: there aren’t any cousins for them on my husband’s side. He has one single brother my age that lives far away and they text maybe once a year if that (haven’t seen him in years) so that won’t be an option. My in laws are also not really involved. They live 8 hours away and we see them 1-2x a year. Talk occasionally.

My husband has worked every Mother’s Day the last few years. And every year he “forgets.” No text. Nothing said over phone call. And every year I get upset with him that I can’t even get a simple recognition? I’m a person that doesn’t beat around the bush. I wait to give him a chance and when it doesn’t happen, I tell him directly it gets me upset. I’m not asking for flowers, dinners, or anything extravagant. Just a simple acknowledgment. I even say “oh wow Mother’s Day is this weekend!” and he still continues to “forget.” He’s frequently on social media especially at work so he sees it plastered everywhere but still “forgets.” And like usual, nothing was said until I had to tell him “oh thanks for saying happy Mother’s Day,” 🙄 over the phone mid day. Gosh, the bar is so low. He’s a good husband and father but really? Am I overreacting?

We are going to buy the Thule force 3 soon and wanted to see if any of you have this model. I know the L will fit but the guy at REI said XL may or may not have trunk clearance. ChatGPT said the same thing basically. Any input? We rather get the XL than the L but obviously if there are major issues we’ll go with the L. We have the 2016 Mazda CX-5 grand touring. Thanks!