u/histermitt

I’m pregnant with my first and currently living in NYC in a 1bd apartment. Curious what others in a similar situation would recommend as must haves vs. What’s not worth taking up the extra space. The main things I’m waffling over:

- crib and a bassinet (vs one or the other)
- rocking chair for my bedroom (where baby would sleep)
- diaper pail: are y’all still buying these?!

Appreciate any advice!! Thank you!

EDIT TO ADD: Thank you all so much for the advice and for sharing your own stories! This will definitely help me get the necessities vs. splurging on too much. 🙏

Hi all!

Curious if anybody else has experienced a similar situation as I can’t find a lot of comparable stories searching on this thread. Here are my initial betas - I’m waiting to get my next ultrasound next week when I’ll be 6w5d:

- 10dp5dt: 125
- 12dp5dt: 222
- 14d: 350
- 18d: 1163, they also did an initial ultrasound to rule out ectopic and saw a gestational and yolk sac developing as normal in my uterus. They told me to drink more water and stop taking aspirin (otherwise I’m taking Lovenox 1x daily and Endometrin 2x daily)

As you can see, initial slower than average rise, but between 14-18d was relatively normal (doubled in ~55 hours). My doctor didn’t seem overly concerned but not extremely confident either, and are having me come in on day 27 to do another ultrasound. I’m remaining cautiously optimistic but am well aware that the initial rise wasn’t as quick as they’d like, so am being guarded with my emotions. Just curious if anybody else has had a similar story. Thank you and sending hugs to everyone on this thread. 🫂

I’m struggling and am hoping this group can give me some advice.

I’m married to a person from another country (Sweden) and we’ve lived in the US together for our entire relationship (I am from the US). My spouse recently obtained his US citizenship, and we’ve always talked about living in Sweden for some time after we finished the immigration process, so that he could spend time closer to his family and friends. Now that we’re here, I’m starting to struggle with the thought of moving somewhere else.

I feel guilty because I feel like he sacrificed a lot to be with me in the US for so long, and I logically know that it’s the right thing to do to move with him for some time so he can be closer to his family. We’ve already agreed that we’d move back to the US eventually, as my parents are single and aging and don’t have the same support system as his family. The reasons (atleast that I tell myself) that I am struggling:

- I’ve spent a lot of time in Sweden and it’s arguably a great country in terms of the people, societal benefits and politics (in my opinion).
- we’d move to Stockholm where he is from, but at this stage in my life, I really want to live in a standalone home with some land / outdoor space. He has the same long term goal, but we’d sacrifice that immediate desire to be in Stockholm.
- coming from NYC where we’ve lived for a long time, I know I will be losing a lot in terms of diversity of people, activities, and especially weather. I am STRUGGLING with the thought of the winters there.
- Lastly, while my husband is close with his family, there is some long standing trauma there from his past. Every time we visit Sweden, he is extremely stressed out and not himself, and constantly trying to impress and go above in beyond in a way that I am not comfortable with. It’s okay in the short term, but I wonder if that will improve if we’re there for a long term period.

Thanks for listening. Curious if anybody else has had a similar experience or can offer any advice. I want to be there for my spouse and know he’d do the same for me if roles were reversed, but I need to adjust my perspective if it’s going to work. I think.

Just started my PIO injections today and already feeling sore. I’m looking at 10-12 weeks of these (fingers crossed!) and just looking for any and all tips to reduce soreness and bruising as much as possible. Thanks in advance!

And sending love to everybody on this thread today. I know it’s hard for a variety of reasons. We’re all in this together 💗💗