u/holb93

I’m very new to needlepointing (previous cross-stitcher and knitter!) so please forgive the potentially dumb question. So far, in my beginner projects, I’ve only done continental stitches but I’d love to branch out. How do you know which stitches to do for each project? And how to know which are suitable threads? Coming from the world of cross stitch I only really know the DMC embroidery thread. Do you just decide as you go?

Looking for some judgement-free financial advice.

I was recently gifted a new home mortgage-free. I have £29k saved for furnishing and decorating (I left my last house with nothing in a divorce.) I am also close to £14k in credit card debt. Not ideal to be in consumer debt when moving into a new home, but here we are.

Now I’m torn with what to do with these savings. Part of me wants to throw it all at my debt, get this weight off my shoulders, and enjoy my lovely new home debt free. Another part of me is worrying about renovation and furnishing costs and wanting to squirrel away as much money as possible. As we all know, renovations rarely go to plan or budget.

What should I do?

Am I being unreasonable or is this strange to anyone else? I haven't attended many weddings and only been bridesmaid once before this so I'm not well versed on wedding culture.

For context, the bridesmaids are: myself (groom's sister), bride's sister, and bride's best friend. She has had two hen dos and I haven't been invited to either. I let the first one go since it was mostly her close friends, but the second one had all of her family. Bridesmaids were in attendance at both except me. Do most brides not include any of the groom's family?

We get along really well. Now I am wondering why she asked me to be bridesmaid if she doesn't want me there for any of the other family celebrations.

Wondering how to handle this moving forward. Say something or accept that this whole thing isn't about me and move on?