u/honeybunniiee4

I have experience & I have tailored my cv numerous times, i have multiple cvs for different types of jobs and i'm always updating to match what jobs require yet its constant rejections! even from the retail jobs which I have experience in yet people (even people i know) with less experience are getting them??? what the hell more can I do because I am mentally exhausted

edit: If there is anyone that is hiring/knows companies that are hiring or is even willing to provide connections, I would honestly be so grateful please

I (25F) am honestly past my breaking point. This has been going on for years. I am currently not working as i’ve been struggling to find a new job, I’ve been put into a corner & feel that the only way out is d*ath.

Ever since I started becoming more independent, my older sisters (mainly my 2nd eldest sister) have constantly involved themselves in every aspect of my life. During my time at uni, they would tell my parents things I’d get up to, that had absolutely nothing to do with them. My dad wasn’t bothered at first, but my mum would create absolute havoc over it, which led to restrictions, arguments and making my life miserable. I didn’t even tell my sisters these things - they’d just find out by sleuthing. They are deliberately trying to ruin my life. Every single time they’ve involved themselves, it’s ended up in chaos and problems for me.

Now it’s marriage.

One of them was even talking about me needing to become more “domesticated” to prepare for marriage. Firstly, marriage is not on my mind and maybe my mind will change in the future, but right now it’s a no. Secondly, even if I did get married? I would not be a housewife, I’m not here to serve someone else or to cook & clean for them everyday bc we are equals. I don’t want kids at all either.

The irony is they also constantly pressure my divorced sister to get married again. She’s been divorced a couple of years and they keep saying she’s getting older, that she has “too much freedom” (bc she has her own place and is independent) now and that my parents need to “sort her out.” She’s an adult. Why is that anybody else’s business?

Then this week they started trying to pressure me into going to a wedding. My sister kept pushing it, then my dad joined in saying I “have to show my face to people.” I couldn’t care less about these people.

What makes this even more hypocritical is that these same sisters don’t even know the half of what their adult children get up to. I don’t interfere in their marriages & I don’t comment on how they raise their kids. Yet somehow they think they’re entitled to comment on and manage every aspect of mine and my divorced sister’s lives, while their kids are always doing what they want.

My parents are awful too, my mum is hugely controlling and doesn’t let me see my friends or do anything. On the other hand, my dad is always making such rude comments to me & about me. They’re always saying how i’m ’not trying hard enough’ to get a job when i’m applying every single day, that i’m ‘lazy’ & ’useless’.

Please don’t see this as a pity party, i’m just exhausted to the point it’s affecting me physically too. I also would preferably like to do this in a way where I don’t have to lose my family, but if there’s no other option then i’ll take the route of cutting them off.

I (25F) am honestly past my breaking point. This has been going on for years. I am also currently not working as i’ve been struggling to find a new job & am hoping the people of Reddit could kindly help, whether it’s advice or if anyone genuinely has connections, please i’m begging now, I’ve been put into a corner & feel that the only way out is that..

Ever since I started becoming more independent, my older sisters (mainly my 2nd eldest sister) have constantly involved themselves in every aspect of my life. During my time at uni, they would tell my parents things I’d get up to, that had absolutely nothing to do with them. My dad wasn’t bothered at first, but my mum would create absolute havoc over it, which led to restrictions, arguments and making my life miserable. I didn’t even tell my sisters these things - they’d just find out by sleuthing. They are deliberately trying to ruin my life. Every single time they’ve involved themselves, it’s ended up in chaos and problems for me.

Now it’s marriage.

One of them was even talking about me needing to become more “domesticated” to prepare for marriage. Firstly, marriage is not on my mind and maybe my mind will change in the future, but right now it’s a no. Secondly, even if I did get married? I would not be a housewife, I’m not here to serve someone else or to cook & clean for them everyday bc we are equals. I don’t want kids at all either.

The irony is they also constantly pressure my divorced sister to get married again. She’s been divorced a couple of years and they keep saying she’s getting older, that she has “too much freedom” (bc she has her own place and is independent) now and that my parents need to “sort her out.” She’s an adult. Why is that anybody else’s business?

Then this week they started trying to pressure me into going to a wedding. My sister kept pushing it, then my dad joined in saying I “have to show my face to people.” I couldn’t care less about these people.

What makes this even more hypocritical is that these same sisters don’t even know the half of what their adult children get up to. I don’t interfere in their marriages & I don’t comment on how they raise their kids. Yet somehow they think they’re entitled to comment on and manage every aspect of mine and my divorced sister’s lives, while their kids are always doing what they want.

My parents are awful too, my mum is hugely controlling and doesn’t let me see my friends or do anything. On the other hand, my dad is always making such rude comments to me & about me. They’re always saying how i’m ’not trying hard enough’ to get a job when i’m applying every single day, that i’m ‘lazy’ & ’useless’. I need to move out but I need to build some money.

Please don’t see this as a pity party, i’m just exhausted to the point it’s affecting me physically too. I also would preferably like to do this in a way where I don’t have to lose my family, but if there’s no other option then i’ll take the route of cutting them off.

I (25F) am from a South Asian family and I’m honestly past my breaking point. This has been going on for years. I am also currently not working as i’ve been struggling to find a new job & am hoping the people of Reddit could kindly help, whether it’s advice or if anyone genuinely has connections, please i’m begging now, I’ve been put into a corner & feel that the only way out is d*ath.

Ever since I started becoming more independent, my older sisters (mainly my 2nd eldest sister) have constantly involved themselves in every aspect of my life. During my time at uni, they would tell my parents things I’d get up to, that had absolutely nothing to do with them. My dad wasn’t bothered at first, but my mum would create absolute havoc over it, which led to restrictions, arguments and making my life miserable. I didn’t even tell my sisters these things - they’d just find out by sleuthing. They are deliberately trying to ruin my life. Every single time they’ve involved themselves, it’s ended up in chaos and problems for me.

Now it’s marriage.

One of them was even talking about me needing to become more “domesticated” to prepare for marriage. Firstly, marriage is not on my mind and maybe my mind will change in the future, but right now it’s a no. Secondly, even if I did get married? I would not be a housewife, I’m not here to serve someone else or to cook & clean for them everyday bc we are equals. I don’t want kids at all either.

The irony is they also constantly pressure my divorced sister to get married again. She’s been divorced a couple of years and they keep saying she’s getting older, that she has “too much freedom” (bc she has her own place and is independent) now and that my parents need to “sort her out.” She’s an adult. Why is that anybody else’s business?

Then this week they started trying to pressure me into going to a wedding. My sister kept pushing it, then my dad joined in saying I “have to show my face to people.” I couldn’t care less about these people.

What makes this even more hypocritical is that these same sisters don’t even know the half of what their adult children get up to. I don’t interfere in their marriages & I don’t comment on how they raise their kids. Yet somehow they think they’re entitled to comment on and manage every aspect of mine and my divorced sister’s lives, while their kids are always doing what they want.

My parents are awful too, my mum is hugely controlling and doesn’t let me see my friends or do anything. On the other hand, my dad is always making such rude comments to me & about me. They’re always saying how i’m ’not trying hard enough’ to get a job when i’m applying every single day, that i’m ‘lazy’ & ’useless’. I need to move out but I need to build some money.

Please don’t see this as a pity party, i’m just exhausted to the point it’s affecting me physically too. I also would preferably like to do this in a way where I don’t have to lose my family, but if there’s no other option then i’ll take the route of cutting them off.

I (25F) am from a South Asian family and I’m honestly past my breaking point. This has been going on for years. I am also currently not working as i’ve been struggling to find a new job & am hoping the people of Reddit could kindly help, whether it’s advice or if anyone genuinely has connections, please i’m begging now, I’ve been put into a corner & feel that the only way out is d*ath.

Ever since I started becoming more independent, my older sisters (mainly my 2nd eldest sister) have constantly involved themselves in every aspect of my life. During my time at uni, they would tell my parents things I’d get up to, that had absolutely nothing to do with them. My dad wasn’t bothered at first, but my mum would create absolute havoc over it, which led to restrictions, arguments and making my life miserable. I didn’t even tell my sisters these things - they’d just find out by sleuthing. They are deliberately trying to ruin my life. Every single time they’ve involved themselves, it’s ended up in chaos and problems for me.

Now it’s marriage.

One of them was even talking about me needing to become more “domesticated” to prepare for marriage. Firstly, marriage is not on my mind and maybe my mind will change in the future, but right now it’s a no. Secondly, even if I did get married? I would not be a housewife, I’m not here to serve someone else or to cook & clean for them everyday bc we are equals. I don’t want kids at all either.

The irony is they also constantly pressure my divorced sister to get married again. She’s been divorced a couple of years and they keep saying she’s getting older, that she has “too much freedom” (bc she has her own place and is independent) now and that my parents need to “sort her out.” She’s an adult. Why is that anybody else’s business?

Then this week they started trying to pressure me into going to a wedding. My sister kept pushing it, then my dad joined in saying I “have to show my face to people.” I couldn’t care less about these people.

What makes this even more hypocritical is that these same sisters don’t even know the half of what their adult children get up to. I don’t interfere in their marriages & I don’t comment on how they raise their kids. Yet somehow they think they’re entitled to comment on and manage every aspect of mine and my divorced sister’s lives, while their kids are always doing what they want.

My parents are awful too, my mum is hugely controlling and doesn’t let me see my friends or do anything. On the other hand, my dad is always making such rude comments to me & about me. They’re always saying how i’m ’not trying hard enough’ to get a job when i’m applying every single day, that i’m ‘lazy’ & ’useless’. I need to move out but I need to build some money.

Please don’t see this as a pity party, i’m just exhausted to the point it’s affecting me physically too. I also would preferably like to do this in a way where I don’t have to lose my family, but if there’s no other option then i’ll take the route of cutting them off.

I (25F) am from a South Asian family and I’m honestly past my breaking point. This has been going on for years. I am also currently not working as i’ve been struggling to find a new job & am hoping the people of Reddit could kindly help, whether it’s advice or if anyone genuinely has connections, please i’m begging now, I’ve been put into a corner & feel that the only way out is d\*ath.

Ever since I started becoming more independent, my older sisters (mainly my 2nd eldest sister) have constantly involved themselves in every aspect of my life. During my time at uni, they would tell my parents things I’d get up to, that had absolutely nothing to do with them. My dad wasn’t bothered at first, but my mum would create absolute havoc over it, which led to restrictions, arguments and making my life miserable. I didn’t even tell my sisters these things - they’d just find out by sleuthing. They are deliberately trying to ruin my life. Every single time they’ve involved themselves, it’s ended up in chaos and problems for me.

Now it’s marriage.

One of them was even talking about me needing to become more “domesticated” to prepare for marriage. Firstly, marriage is not on my mind and maybe my mind will change in the future, but right now it’s a no. Secondly, even if I did get married? I would not be a housewife, I’m not here to serve someone else or to cook & clean for them everyday bc we are equals. I don’t want kids at all either.

The irony is they also constantly pressure my divorced sister to get married again. She’s been divorced a couple of years and they keep saying she’s getting older, that she has “too much freedom” (bc she has her own place and is independent) now and that my parents need to “sort her out.” She’s an adult. Why is that anybody else’s business?

Then this week they started trying to pressure me into going to a wedding. My sister kept pushing it, then my dad joined in saying I “have to show my face to people.” I couldn’t care less about these people.

What makes this even more hypocritical is that these same sisters don’t even know the half of what their adult children get up to. I don’t interfere in their marriages & I don’t comment on how they raise their kids. Yet somehow they think they’re entitled to comment on and manage every aspect of mine and my divorced sister’s lives, while their kids are always doing what they want.

My parents are awful too, my mum is hugely controlling and doesn’t let me see my friends or do anything. On the other hand, my dad is always making such rude comments to me & about me. They’re always saying how i’m ’not trying hard enough’ to get a job when i’m applying every single day, that i’m ‘lazy’ & ’useless’. I need to move out but I need to build some money.

Please don’t see this as a pity party, i’m just exhausted to the point it’s affecting me physically too. I also would preferably like to do this in a way where I don’t have to lose my family.

I (25F) am from a South Asian family and I’m honestly past my breaking point. This has been going on for years. I am also currently not working as i’ve been struggling to find a new job & am hoping the people of Reddit could kindly help, whether it’s advice or if anyone genuinely has connections, please i’m begging now, I’ve been put into a corner & feel that the only way out is d*ath.

Ever since I started becoming more independent, my older sisters (mainly my 2nd eldest sister) have constantly involved themselves in every aspect of my life. During my time at uni, they would tell my parents things I’d get up to, that had absolutely nothing to do with them. My dad wasn’t bothered at first, but my mum would create absolute havoc over it, which led to restrictions, arguments and making my life miserable. I didn’t even tell my sisters these things - they’d just find out by sleuthing. They are deliberately trying to ruin my life. Every single time they’ve involved themselves, it’s ended up in chaos and problems for me.

Now it’s marriage.

One of them was even talking about me needing to become more “domesticated” to prepare for marriage. Firstly, marriage is not on my mind and maybe my mind will change in the future, but right now it’s a no. Secondly, even if I did get married? I would not be a housewife, I’m not here to serve someone else or to cook & clean for them everyday bc we are equals. I don’t want kids at all either.

The irony is they also constantly pressure my divorced sister to get married again. She’s been divorced a couple of years and they keep saying she’s getting older, that she has “too much freedom” (bc she has her own place and is independent) now and that my parents need to “sort her out.” She’s an adult. Why is that anybody else’s business?

Then this week they started trying to pressure me into going to a wedding. My sister kept pushing it, then my dad joined in saying I “have to show my face to people.” I couldn’t care less about these people.

What makes this even more hypocritical is that these same sisters don’t even know the half of what their adult children get up to. I don’t interfere in their marriages & I don’t comment on how they raise their kids. Yet somehow they think they’re entitled to comment on and manage every aspect of mine and my divorced sister’s lives, while their kids are always doing what they want.

My parents are awful too, my mum is hugely controlling and doesn’t let me see my friends or do anything. On the other hand, my dad is always making such rude comments to me & about me. They’re always saying how i’m ’not trying hard enough’ to get a job when i’m applying every single day, that i’m ‘lazy’ & ’useless’. I need to move out but I need to build some money.

Please don’t see this as a pity party, i’m just exhausted to the point it’s affecting me physically too. I also would preferably like to do this in a way where I don’t have to lose my family.

I’ve been speaking to someone for around 5 weeks. We haven’t met in person yet, but things developed quite naturally and quickly on both sides in terms of communication and emotional connection. Especially because neither of us expected to come into each other’s lives, I wasn’t looking for anything before this started.

To note, this has been a two-way street the entire time. We’ve both been consistently messaging, getting to know each other, and building a connection. However, more recently things have become quite confusing and emotionally draining.

We originally had an issue early on where he would kind of go quiet or “awol” on weekends, which we did talk about and resolve at the time. After that, things seemed fine again.

More recently though, a new issue came up. He sent me a reel, I jokingly said he should like it, and he said he doesn’t really engage with that type of content. As a joke I said “oh so you hate me then?” and he got quite defensive, saying I was basically expecting him to change his whole personality. We spoke it through afterwards and he said he reacted like that because he’s been emotionally overwhelmed and stressed this week.

However, what’s been difficult for me is that I’ve also been dealing with my own personal stress for weeks, but I haven’t taken it out on him in that way. It’s made me feel like the emotional reaction has been quite one-sided in that moment.

After that, we had a much bigger conversation
where he said the level of communication between us has started to feel overwhelming for him and that things have felt too intense before meeting in person. He also said he feels like he needs space and less pressure with messaging & that me wanting to know what he’s up to everyday & expecting replies every 1-2 hours is overbearing and he doesn’t want to grow to resent me (for context here i have never said the replies have to be often, i just said that i didn’t want him to only reply when he’s got nothing else to do)

What’s frustrating for me is that this is something he’s only brought up now, after weeks of us communicating in the same way. It also feels like this has come up at a time where he’s going through stress in his personal life, and it feels like he’s now pulling back and re-framing issues in the dynamic because of that.

For context, he has never been in a relationship before and has said it’s because he’s never found someone he feels truly compatible with, although he has had a number of situationships. This is now making me question whether there’s a pattern where things feel okay at first, but when stress or emotional intensity increases, he starts to pull away or see issues in the dynamic.

I will also be honest and say there may have been moments where I’ve come across as slightly overbearing, but my intentions were never to pressure him, just to be engaged and communicate in the way that felt natural between us.

From my side, I’ve also tried to meet him in the middle a lot throughout this. I’ve adjusted communication when needed and tried to be understanding, but it currently feels like very little of the compromise has gone in my direction. It feels quite one-sided at the moment in terms of adjustments being made.

Overall, I’m feeling quite emotionally drained and confused because it feels like things have shifted quite suddenly, and I’m not sure whether this is normal early-stage dating adjustment or a deeper compatibility issue around communication, emotional pacing, and how we handle stress.

Would really appreciate honest outside perspectives on this.

I’m based in the UK and looking for realistic advice on moving out of my family home. I’m looking to move to a different city btw

On the outside, my situation probably looks fine day-to-day, but internally I’m struggling with feeling quite controlled and restricted at home (mainly around independence, decisions, and being able to plan my own life). It’s been building up for a while and it’s starting to affect my mental wellbeing quite a lot.

I’m currently applying for jobs in my field/relating fields (media/marketing/merchandising/retail) and I have a couple of interviews coming up, which is positive. However, I don’t have much savings at all right now (around £40), so I’m trying to understand what realistic options exist if I do get a job offer but still don’t have enough money for things like deposits or moving costs.

I’ve also been looking into alternatives like live-in jobs or short-term rooms, but I’m not sure how realistic they are or how people actually manage the transition in practice in the UK.

My main question is:
What are the most realistic routes people actually take in situations like this? Especially when you don’t have enough saved?

I’m trying to plan this properly and safely rather than rushing into something unstable, but I also feel like I need a clearer exit plan from my current situation.

Any advice or lived experience would really help.

EDIT - I would like to state that I am trying to find some shift/temp jobs while at home to build some income but haven’t had luck yet & also the reasons i can’t live in shared houses/flats with men is due to religion & because my family will literally ban me from leaving the house if that is the case, i’m not opposed to people having partners or friends over that are male as i have both, can people try to be understanding bc i still have to do things in a way that works out for me but also doesn’t make things worse.

Hey,

I’m looking for practical advice on what types of jobs and routes I should realistically be applying for to move out of my family home as the situation isn’t ideal for me anymore but I have next to no money on me atm.

I’m trying to plan a move into shared accommodation (likely London or surrounding areas), but I currently have limited savings, so I need to build income first. I’m also open to moving sooner if there are realistic options that require less upfront savings such as live in accom jobs

My experience:

Retail experience at Londis

Travel services role at Travelex

Customer-facing / cashier-style work

What I’m considering:

Entry-level full-time jobs in London (retail, hospitality, admin, etc.)

Temp work through agencies to build savings quickly

Online or freelance work on the side

Live-in jobs (e.g. hospitality, care, or other roles that include accommodation) as a potential faster route to moving out with less savings needed

What I’m trying to figure out:

What are the fastest realistic job routes to moving out in the UK?

Are there viable live-in job options that genuinely allow people to leave home sooner with minimal savings?

What industries, roles, or agencies should I be focusing on?

If someone has done this before, what actually worked in terms of timeline and income?

I’m not looking for ideal scenarios, just realistic options people have actually used to move out.

Thanks in advance.