u/hopeful-sage

hello all, i have been in quasi-recovery for quite some time and am doing the best i have been, or so i thought. this morning i realized i still have a lot of food fears/control issues to work through. my sweet lovely boyfriend slept over and offered to make us pancakes and i said yes. i was nervous, actively anxious, about eating them as i watched him prepare and cook. trying not to hover and watch what was going in them as i know two fear foods (sugar and butter) are part of the mix. they were delicious, though, and as we were eating i was just focusing on him and the care he put into making these for me and trying to be present and not obsess over ingredients/calories etc. now that he’s gone and im here i feel so bad. i cant stop ruminating over having eaten them. i feel gross, my stomach feels weird and im not sure if its just in my head or what but i cant stop drinking water and i just want to flush them out of my system. i dont like feeling this way, i want to be able to enjoy a random pancake morning with my lover and not spiral. so, this is a vent, and an eye opening moment for me that i need to keep going and keep working on things. thanks for reading if you did. sending love to this community always.

hello, LMT here! I am a rock climber, and I lift weights and have noticed my hands becoming more calloused recently/peeling. I have been exfoliating and moisturizing pretty much daily since I started these activities and sometimes even use a nail filer on the rough areas, but often find myself worried that my hands are rough while doing massage. ive never gotten any complaints but i just want to make sure!
any tried and true tricks or tips from folks who are involved in similar activities? thank you

i (24f) matched with this guy (28m) on hinge and we went out and had a lovely time. i felt a deep connection with this person right away and we got along very well. the second time we hung out he told me he had just gotten out of something and didn’t want to rush anything/liked building a foundation first and i was cool with that. the fourth time we hung out he kissed me and invited me to stay the night, i did and we ended up having sex that next morning. about five days later he texted me and asked to stay in a “friend space” because life felt like too much; of course i said yes and that’s fine with me. we haven’t spoken since then because i wanted to give space and process. i was definitely a bit bummed, but i understand, and he gave me a heads up so i can’t say i didn’t see it coming. ideally wish it would’ve happened before we had sex because now it feel a bit murky? but oh well! however, now, im genuinely missing the conversations we would have. he is a really cool and interesting person and i liked what we were building as friends.

wondering if it would be possible to be friends with someone in this situation? i’m thinking very casual maybe like 1-2 hang outs per month or something, light texting. i’ve never been in a situation like this before. i know everyone’s experience will be different but i am curious! thanks :)

Hello! I am a baby LMT and next year my first round of CEUs is due. I feel overwhelmed and bit lost because everything I want to do is either expensive, or I cannot find any classes nearby. How do navigate this first year? How do you find CEUs? Should I just focus on the necessary classes?I am really excited to start developing more of an identity as an LMT and practice more of what I am interested in! ANy advice would be so much appreciated. Thank you !!!!!!

Edit: I am really interested in Thai Massage and Mayan Abdominal, but feel like maybe I should wait until I'm further on in my career to start really focusing in on these? Instead just taking more generic classes for TMJ or Sciatica for example

hi!! where is the best place in town to buy a used bike/your favorite bike shop? trying to steer clear of facebook marketplace! thank you