Your view of yourself matters the most
I saw this video about someone interview this shaoling monk. In the video he is wearing a robe(?) he refers to it as his uniform.
One of the question he was asked is “have you ever been persecuted for who he is?” (Implying him as a shaoling monk).
His reply was “this is just a uniform, when i’m out with my friends from the past i’m in a different clothes, when i’m home with my son i am a father, when i’m in the monastery i’m a shaoling monk, when i visit my mom i’m a son. The public only sees the side of me which i choose to show.” (Something along these lines not word for word)
This clicked with me that i am not one dimensional, i am not a guy who is sensitive, i am not a guy who is tall and big, i am not just a guy who is quiet, i am so much more. Someone told me that ONLY my view of myself matters the most because only i can see the “real” me.
Just thought i share this revelation as it helped me with some stuff i’m struggling.