u/ino_ohno

I’ll preface all this by saying that I haven’t been the greatest partner. While I’ve been trying my best, she’s mentioned that I’ve been emotionally neglecting her.

My wife came home one night in tears. She said she was having stress about an upcoming trip and about our attempts at pregnancy. She said she had to go see her friend in order to talk about it. She couldn’t talk about it with me. I grew worried after she left. I did a super shitty thing and went through her messages.

Turns out she was going to see her friend to talk through her break up with her affair partner in an online game. I read all the shitty sext messages and how her friend helped her craft them. It’s really not the sexts that tear me up, although they’re still cuts to my soul. It’s more so that she was crying over terrible people who betrayed her.

She kept telling all her people online that she was separated and her marriage was falling apart. I think what really hurts the most is that she didn’t think about our relationship throughout all this. It hurts that she’s crying over a breakup with her online boyfriend. Amongst others. Even her friend said a little something about coming clean to me. She came home later, and she knew I had read everything. We cried a little bit. I was upset, she was upset. Over the course of a week, I asked her to please stop playing this game. Please stop talking to these people. She hasn’t stopped talking with them. She says she cannot let go of her game because it will destroy her friendships. I asked her if she can at least tell all the people in her game and discord servers that she’s married. She says they know, but I think it’s only in the context of her saying that we’re separated. She says the neglect drove her to seek flirtiness and connection with others online. I hate how she has these feelings for the person.

I feel shitty for asking for ultimatums and requests. I feel like I’m painted as a bad guy because I was neglectful. I feel like second place, a consolation prize. I’m just something she can salvage to feel normal. This feels like a punishment. She says she wants to work through things and get our marriage back on track. I just don’t know if I can do it when I can’t trust her.

I’ll preface all this by saying that I haven’t been the greatest partner. While I’ve been trying my best, she’s mentioned that I’ve been emotionally neglecting her.

My wife came home one night in tears. She said she was having stress about an upcoming trip and about our attempts at pregnancy. She said she had to go see her friend in order to talk about it. She couldn’t talk about it with me. I grew worried after she left. I did a super shitty thing and went through her messages.

Turns out she was going to see her friend to talk through her break up with her affair partner in an online game. I read all the shitty sext messages and how her friend helped her craft them. It’s really not the sexts that tear me up, although they’re still cuts to my soul. It’s more so that she was crying over terrible people who betrayed her.

She kept telling all her people online that she was separated and her marriage was falling apart. I think what really hurts the most is that she didn’t think about our relationship throughout all this. It hurts that she’s crying over a breakup with her online boyfriend. Amongst others. Even her friend said a little something about coming clean to me. She came home later, and she knew I had read everything. We cried a little bit. I was upset, she was upset. Over the course of a week, I asked her to please stop playing this game. Please stop talking to these people. She hasn’t stopped talking with them. She says she cannot let go of her game because it will destroy her friendships. I asked her if she can at least tell all the people in her game and discord servers that she’s married. She says they know, but I think it’s only in the context of her saying that we’re separated.

I feel shitty for asking for ultimatums and requests. I feel like I’m painted as a bad guy because I was neglectful. This feels like a punishment. She says she wants to work through things and get our marriage back on track. I just don’t know if I can do it when I can’t trust her.

I’ll preface all this by saying that I haven’t been the greatest partner. While I’ve been trying my best, she’s mentioned that I’ve been emotionally neglecting her.

My wife came home one night in tears. She said she was having stress about an upcoming trip and about our attempts at pregnancy. She said she had to go see her friend in order to talk about it. She couldn’t talk about it with me. I grew worried after she left. I did a super shitty thing and went through her messages.

Turns out she was going to see her friend to talk through her break up with her affair partner in an online game. I read all the shitty sext messages and how her friend helped her craft them. It’s really not the sexts that tear me up, although they’re still cuts to my soul. It’s more so that she was crying over terrible people who betrayed her.

She kept telling all her people online that she was separated and her marriage was falling apart. I think what really hurts the most is that she didn’t think about a relationship throughout all this. Even her friend said a little something about coming clean to me. She came home later, and she knew I had read everything. We cried a little bit. I was upset, she was upset. Over the course of a week, I asked her to please stop playing this game. Please stop talking to these people. She hasn’t stopped talking with them. She says she cannot let go of her game because it will destroy her friendships. I asked her if she can at least tell all the people in her game and discord servers that she’s married. She says they know, but I think it’s only in the context of her saying that we’re separated.

I feel shitty for asking for ultimatums and requests. I feel like I’m painted as a bad guy because I was neglectful. This feels like a punishment. She says she wants to work through things and get our marriage back on track. I just don’t know if I can do it when I can’t trust her.