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I always noticed this…when those type of annoying bigot men make disgusting jokes i’ve noticed girls always laugh and/or laugh but while making a suprise face or a wtf face.

problem is, those type of men see laughing and perceive it as approval that you think it’s funny and they keep fricken doing it. a “wtf” face doesn’t mean anything to them as long as you’re laughing..

this used to kinda annoy me until this summer I had an internship at an annoying maga place basically and there was this disgusting guy who ALWAYS was saying racist or sexist or sexual jokes.

(btw, i’m a gay man, not a woman, for context but still)

I decided I was never going to laugh…and it was SO awkward. he would call it out. and then after a while somehow make it negative (“..do you ever do any actual work” or other comments).

so like, atp you kinda have to laugh??

logically I know it sounds so easy to confront, or to keep not laughing or to say something, but this summer I realized like sometimes you lowkey cant…like I was just an intern and the awkwardness is possibly even worse than just fake laughing and letting the annoying ass man think he’s the funniest person ever.

honestly just in general. I have a 2L job lined up at a mid law firm. school starts again in 2 weeks. do grades even matter anymore? it feels so hard for me to stop trying to get good grades and i’m a little discouraged.

people are saying grades only matter for your first job and not beyond that - is that true? like, I missed it so do I accept mid law and just be a really good attorney there and become partner ect and 2L grades don’t matter as much? (and focus on friends and dating?). OR do grades matter beyond this

i’ve lived in over 5 apartments before. never once had an issue. but here, the staff is rude and gaslights. I know so many reasonable people who live here that faced bogus charges. They also never fixed my toilet and I couldn’t use it.

seriously. spread the word. i’ve never been filled with this much hatred. it’s mind boggling. do not live here.

bc I told them I have an offer deadline. on one hand it feels like good news but on the other i’m like why wouldn’t they just give me an offer. any thoughts? is the meeting tomorrow like a third interview do you think? an offer call maybe? like idk

update: they wanna do one more interview next week 🫠

friend visiting. we want to ride everything front row. we would not mind waiting for front row at ALL. but just wondering if fast pass lets you choose to wait for front row or if they force you into a random row. does anyone know? thanks!

said they’re looking to finalize and wanted to know if I was still interested. I want this job sooo bad. (it’s for 2L next summer). is that a good sign of a possible offer? or do you think likely sent to multiple people, maybe i’m back up, ect. anyone in the recruiting world, do/would you know how to read this? obviously I just have to wait, lol, but in the meantime wondering what your thoughts are. thanks!

I did so good in school and thought I was overall well adjusted / likable but I still don’t have something. i’m so jealous of everyone who does 😞

is it getting less and less prestigious? in 15 years will it be even less prestigious?

Apologies if this comes off really dumb but i’m just wondering if anyone’s ever felt this or relates to it anyways.

I’m AMAB and identify with being a man.

However I sometimes see tiktoks of trans men getting gender envy and it shows guys ect and it’s weirdly relatable. I’ve always fit in so much more with girls, have always like “girly” things, and just relate infinitely more with women in friendships, interests ect.

But I like looking / presenting masculine. And when I hear a man’s voice or see them walking around sometimes I do get insanely jealous as if I were a girl who wanted to be a man.

Like I feel like a trans girl who wants to be a trans man, even though i’m just a man

im gay if that’s any kind of kicker

I recently had a panel interview and absolutely bombed the last one and they were extremely honest about them disapproving and flat out said “just so you know for future interviews..” ect ect. I literally teared up during it and then just mentally moved on. but then they emailed asking for one more…

i’m assuming that the first 2-4 people voted yes for me and now they have to decide? but it’s also baffling why they wouldn’t just pick a different candidate. maybe it’s a good thing and I can still get it?? the last two were the youngest two so hopefully their opinion didn’t matter as much?

honestly as i’m typing this out I just got more hope that maybe as long as I do good on this last one I can still get it but it just feels crazy that hypothetically you can get the role even if one or two interviewers give a hard no (which I think is safe to assume happened). but anyone in recruiting has this ever happened and the person still gets hired?

tldr, to me it’s like any other writing class that I might have taken in college. I genuinely don’t even know what people mean when they say it’s so different than anything they’ve ever done.

Yes, memos and briefs were a new format that you had to learn but I don’t think the format and more importantly the style of writing is that much different then just…normal academic writing?

I go to a school with a really highly ranked writing program which maybe impacts this? Like maybe I just had a really good professor that didn’t try to make it confusing? But going into law school I heard people saying that legal writing was this monster and was unlike any other writing you’ve ever had to do.

Does anyone else like not really agree? I heard that it was “so technical” but I didn’t have that experience, I wrote normally and still did well. idk, thoughts?

panel, first two went great, last one…

they asked why I didn’t have a job yet bc i’m late in the cycle.

okay whatever blah blah blah

and then they started arguing, making faces, raising their eyebrows and shaking their heads. what classes are you taking next semester? wow that seems all over the place. you’re contradicting yourself. hmmm that doesn’t make sense. what practice area? do you really know much about it??

so then I asked if they had advice for how to know as a 1L what area you want.

the girl said she learned by knowing what she didn’t like from her first two internships and then got a job here and learned based off the partners she liked working with.

so you bascislly didn’t fucking know and you got the job. why are you attacking me. holy shit.

I get it, i sounded dumb and didn’t articulate it right but just the rudeness was so shocking and I hate them

Okay then just make the rule not apply to corporations??? that’s the easiest fix ever omg.

also, why are we pretending like america isn’t already super pro corporation 🤨

I have 3 interviews coming up for big law firms. My resume is just clearly more litigation focused (writing grades, moot court, trial team) and that’s what i’m going with in cover letters.

But i’m just tired of being broke and would prefer to just get the job. Does saying litigation in interviews significantly lower my chances since there’s more transactional? Should I somehow signal i’m interested in both? what is the best move to get an offer

I just finished 1L and I have 2 interviews coming up for 2L 2027 big law through OCI. This feels like my last chance since everyone said they’re all filled up. I have a week to prepare

I want to really prepare for interviews.

I truly am smart but honestly, sometimes it feels like i’m only book smart. when there is a rubric and expectations and directions, I do extremely well. Even with moot court I did well because I knew what to expect. but for some reason, I just can’t figure out interviews

1. “Researching the firm.” I just don’t get it and everything sounds vague

2. Questions to ask at the end. like specifically what are actually good memorable questions to ask?

3. Practice areas - how much do you need to say about what you want to do, ect? bc the reality is i’ll do whatever I only wanna do big law for 2 years anyways

Also, here are some specific worries I have.

my resume is so litigation focused just bc I did a bunch of trial and moot court ect. but how do I approach this because I know that i’m not going to be actually in a courtroom or anything

and other worries. ik it’s a long shot but if anyone really knows their shit, I would really appreciate a PM or some advice

I know that everyone is different and human sexuality is weird but I could really use someone relating and helping me make sense of it.

i’m really feminine and everyone assumes i’m a bottom (like friends) but physically it just never turned me on, EVER. it never grossed me out but I just have never fantasized it. topping on the other hand has always been sooo erotic to me.

but vibes wise I like bottoming and I like going through the motions but the act itself doesn’t.

it also feels embarrassing to admit i’m a top, or like performative, but it just is way hotter to me 😩I hate that friends are always like “OMG WHAT” or even don’t believe me and then i’m like AM I just lying to myself or in deep denial or something??

does anyone relate

I used to be obsessed with this song and randomly heard it and thought…no wonder. it is actually so insanely welcoming and sweet and perfect. “you’re alone, and you’re scared, but the banquets all prepared…” 🥹it’s literally what heaven would sound like and now i’m imagining 7 year old me being so comforted by the idea of people welcoming you in this insanely magical and kind way

My grades increased a LOT and i’m in the top 10% now at a T30 and made moot court. But is it done?

at this point im just kinda freaking out about debt..what do you think my best move is? clerkships? looking for places to apply for big law anyways? trying to get mid law?