u/jameshughlaurie

I’m 23f for context

There’s a musician playing at a bar/club near me, and I really wanna go, but my one friend is not interested in joining me and my other friend is unavailable that night.

The show starts at 8pm and I want to have a glass or two of cider and enjoy the music, maybe dance if I’m not feeling too shy that night. but I’m worried it might be dangerous or too much for me, as it is downtown. I don’t go into the city much and even though my city isn’t \\\*that\\\* bad I’m not built for the streets and I get spooked downtown. But I feel like never going downtown might be irrational and preventing me from living as well as I could.

Is this something I should do? This year I’ve been doing all the things I’ve wanted to do but was too scared to do alone before, but this one has me questioning myself. Is it weird to be a solo girl at a club?? Is there a safe way to do this? Should I chill out? The music is pretty gentle country music, so should I expect a gentle country crowd?

the last concert I went to alone, I thoroughly enjoyed the music but I was also pretty anxious and got too drunk to talk to anyone, but that had assigned seating so there was no pressure to mingle. Part of me does love dancing and loud music I’m just really anxious about going alone. Maybe this will be better to go alone to than the concert was? It’s a popular place in my city with people my age so that’s cool but I’m scared someone will recognize me and/or I’ll make a fool of myself

pls help

Tonight my stomach betrayed me. I was taking a bath, feeling a little grumble in the tummy region and not thinking much of it. Thinking of the ways I planned to prepare myself to go to work in the morning, I go to drain the tub, and I start feeling overwhelmingly unwell. Within minutes I find myself curled up around a plastic salad bowl, still damp from the tub, completely naked slipping around on my living room floor.

I begin to feel my guts rising and the gagging starts. With horror, I realize this will not only
be vomit. I make a mad dash for the bathroom, every movement provoking new waves of sickness from my insides. I brace myself on the bathroom floor, awaiting what will happen next. Suddenly I am overcome with one more moment of sanity and I move myself from the floor to the now-empty tub, gagging, “thank myself later” through fits of misery.

Almost immediately upon entering the bathtub I become a double ended founded of disgusting things. With my head hung against the shower wall I expel everything I had consumed that day and maybe ever. This is graphic enough so I’m ending my description there but it was gross.

Feeling shaky but momentarily better, I raise myself and try to rinse everything away. Less than 20 minutes ago I had been squeaky clean, draining a tub, preparing myself for the next day. Now I have committed atrocities in that same tub which I have to address. So I’m trying to rinse the horrible concoction down the drain, adjusting the temperature of the water many times, (I feel way too cold when the water is running cool but at the same time immediately sick again when touched with any warmth) and it starts draining really slowly.

So yeah, I clogged my bathtub. I stayed in the shower for a long, long time and managed to get it clean enough to not smell and clean myself up, but it’s still not draining well and I need to deal with that tomorrow.

So after this whole ordeal it’s almost 12:30 at night and I decide I’d better call in sick for work the next day. I usually never call in sick because I really need the money, but I do have like 3 days of sick pay every year which I am strongly discouraged from using during the holidays. This seems like the right time to use that.

For context, I work in room with one other person and we share a lot of work. This other person has called in sick like 3 or 4 times in the last few months which is very much felt by me, but I blame management for not providing coverage. It shouldn’t matter but I myself have not called in sick in almost a year. Just a few weekends ago I worked 12.5 hours without a break because the other person I work with called in sick and management provided no coverage. The only rule I have ever been told was that we need to give at least one hour’s notice for missing a shift.

I tried to inform my manager through text message, saying in my message that I would check in again in the morning to confirm I wouldn’t be there (they’ve asked me to do this before so I do it, even though I call in because I’m unwell and the last thing I need is to “check in” at 6am) In response my manager basically said “I’m on vacay so you need figure it out you’d better find coverage or tough it out” which is just crazy to me because there is no way that’s what they said to the other person when they called in sick all those times recently.

I’m at a loss for words. I thought I had a better relationship with my manager but between the garbage situations he’s been putting me in and this I feel totally let down. I would get it if he said this to the other person I work with because they call in sick very frequently, which I have never held against them because they have that right and so should anyone, and because MANAGEMENT needs to figure out coverage, but WTF. I’m so tempted to say any of the stuff above to him and ask what’s up?? I just said I’ll ask the two people I’m comfortable speaking to outside of work at a more reasonable hour and that I definitely cannot work tomorrow morning, because it’s like 4am at this point. I reached out at 12:30, he responded to me at 3am, I woke up in a flurry to the message and now I’m both sick and my heart is racing from anxiety. I pushed back on it and he just started sending me people’s numbers to call.

Right now I need this job to pay my bills and my way through school so I’m doing my best to deal with it but this is ridiculous :/

Hi. I recently had new neighbours move in upstairs. They are nice people but they come outside and talk to me like every 3/5 times I come home or go outside to get the mail or pick up a package.

They have also been bringing my packages from my porch (separate entrance) into their house as soon as they’re delivered (they see this as a favour to me) so when I go to retrieve them they’re not on my step and I have to go talk to them.

My last neighbours just left my stuff alone, or they would put packages on my porch if it was accidentally delivered to their porch and I wasn’t home to come grab it. These people actually come to my door and take my deliveries into their house.

Last night at like 1am, I got food delivered and I went outside as soon as I got the confirmation pic and they had taken my fried chicken inside “for me”. I would kind of get it if it was outside for a long time, but I was literally right on it.

They also called my friend a courier and have made jokes like they’re my parents and I need to be home at a certain hour. I am female in my early 20’s and I have gone through quite a bit of trouble to live alone and avoid all of these sorts of interactions. I was very happy with my last neighbours.

They seem like kind people but we are not a good match - I would like to resume my beloved hermit lifestyle without these interactions. If my contactless pizza delivery gets rained on, that’s my problem. Maybe I want it rained on. Sometimes I feel like chatting but 90% of the time, no. Also they were smoking cigarettes in the house so I’m not interested in being buddies, the ideal relationship here for me is a smile and a “hello” if we happen to cross paths when I’m coming home.

How can I express this to them without coming off rudely?

Hi. I recently had new neighbours move in upstairs. They are nice people but they come outside and talk to me like every 3/5 times I come home or go outside to get the mail or pick up a package.

They have also been bringing my packages from my porch (separate entrance) into their house as soon as they’re delivered (they see this as a favour to me) so when I go to retrieve them they’re not on my step and I have to go talk to them.

My last neighbours just left my stuff alone, or they would put packages on my porch if it was accidentally delivered to their porch and I wasn’t home to come grab it. These people actually come to my door and take my deliveries into their house.

Last night at like 1am, I got food delivered and I went outside as soon as I got the confirmation pic and they had taken my fried chicken inside “for me”. I would kind of get it if it was outside for a long time, but I was literally right on it.

They also called my friend a courier and have made jokes like they’re my parents and I need to be home at a certain hour. I am female in my early 20’s and I choose to live alone to avoid all of these sorts of interactions. I was very happy with my last neighbours.

They seem like kind people but we are not a a good match - I would like to resume my beloved hermit lifestyle without these interactions. If my contactless pizza delivery gets rained on, that’s my problem. Maybe I want it rained on. Sometimes I feel like chatting but 90% of the time, no. Also they were smoking cigarettes in the house so I’m not interested in being buddies, the ideal relationship here for me is a smile and a “hello” if we happen to cross paths when I’m coming home.

How can I express this to them without coming off rudely?

My landlord told me they want to come into my unit every 2 months to change the furnace filter but when that comes up I plan to just say give me the filter and I’ll do it myself (nicely)