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I love and adore my dog more than anything in the world. He is my soul dog. The bond we have is like nothing else in the whole world. But I can’t do this anymore. My dog has separation anxiety and I don’t work from home so I am relying on family or spending 100’s on doggy daycare (in this economy!). It is exhausting finding care for him every. Single. Day. And not to mention anytime I want to go out - even to grocery shop. Coworkers want to get drinks after work? Nope sorry. Gym after work? Nope not an option. Beach day on the weekend? Can’t do it.

I have no life. It is making me depressed. I am severely jealous of people who have no pets. Anytime someone says they don’t have a pet I’m like holy shit I wish that was me.
Additionally my dog is REACTIVE. He has about 6 people on earth he trusts with his whole being but everyone else he HATESSSS and lunges and barks and is overall really scary around. So I can’t bring him to cafes with me or outdoor restaurants. I can’t just hire a random pet sitter for him because he will not allow strangers to come near him at all.

I’m lost. I love my career. All my students know about my dog and ask about him frequently. I don’t even know what I would say to them if I gave him up. I can’t imagine my life without him but I also fantasize about a life when I never ever got him. But I just don’t know what to do. I can’t afford $5000 dog training. Separation anxiety training takes time (sometimes years) and sometimes dogs never learn to be okay alone. If that’s the case with him then I cannot live like this. He only 1 so I would be housebound for the next 10 years at least.

Idk what I’m really looking for with this post. I’ve just reached a mental exhaustion with this dog and even though I love him lately I’ve been frustrated and upset by him more than the love I feel for him.

I’m on wonder of the seas and we were supposed to be at coco cay today but they announced it was being switched from our last day so now today is sea day and day 4 is coco cay then disembark day 5. They didn’t give a reason and every crew member we ask doesn’t tell us why. Any ideas or insight? Is this common?

EDIT; I don’t know why people are being rude in the comments I don’t actually care I just wanted to know the reason because normally they let you know if it’s weather related or not. This is not my first cruise and I have had coco cay cancelled before but never had it moved to a different day.

Hey yall…….. lol. Happy pride!! But to make a quite long story as short as possible I (25 F) moved in with my gf(now fiancée) (25F) last year and it was my first time ever living on my own. I went through a pretty severe depressive episode the first two weeks I moved out of my family’s house and I was a complete bummer to be around. My friend visited and we decided to go to the animal shelter. I had been texting my fiancée all day telling her about the dogs I saw and then one really caught my eye and he was so friendly and loving and it was the first joy I’d felt in two weeks so I clung onto it and I told my fiancée I really wanted him. She just wanted me to be happy so she said as long as I can care for him we can get him.

I brought him home the next day and our lives have never been the same for better or for worse. The dog I got of course had to come with severe separation anxiety (I didn’t know at the time) so for the last entire year we have not been able to leave the house whenever we want without getting a sitter or paying tons of money to put him in daycare. This has put a severe damper on our relationship. Often times my fiancée will go out without me and leave me with the dog cooped up in the house because it was my decision to get him and I do accept that because it was and it was my fault we no longer have a life. I have off this summer and my plan is to do my best to train him to be alone but it’s been very hard working full time to do any training so we haven’t done anything about it for a year.

On top of it the dog sleeps in our bed and my fiancée told me because of the dog we have no sex life (true) and she feels no desire for sex anymore. We literally have sex once a month now, if that. We can put the dog in the crate but he will cry sometimes and it’s just fucking hard.

Anyway I feel like I ruined everything. I brought home the dog and these are the consequences. He is a loving amazing dog and my fiancée does love him as well but we have so many fights about him and about how I got him on a whim during a depressive episode. I have tried to accept that if I can’t get him to be alone by the end of the summer I will have to give him up but I burst out in tears every time I think about it because I can’t imagine my life without him. But I also feel guilt and it sucks. If I could go back in time I would have never ever gotten a dog and I should have thought about it more. My fiancée tells me quite often that she does hold resentment that I did that and she is still angry at me for doing it. I seriously cannot feel more guilt than I do about it.

Please tell me everything will be okay. Maybe you’ve been In a similar situation idk. I’ve posted this in dog groups and all but I think I just need some lesbian voices rn. Thanks 💛