u/jimboidiot

I feel like passing consistently is this thing where it changes from one day to the next, much like the effects of T, it will hit you in the face like a bag of bricks. I haven't been misgendered (with a single exception) in a few months now and I genuinely do not know how to handle it. My goal was never to be cis passing, I'm not even a binary man, so this is all a bit unexpected even if not unwelcome. It's funny, you get to where you want to be, where you can look in the mirror and you finally feel like you look like yourself and then you don't even know how to cope with that haha.

I am also very much obviously queer, and I'm in a safe place where that isn't an issue, but I'm trying to learn how to pretend at straightness for my safety when I travel. I have been told that I don't have much of a "gay voice" but I feel like there are definitely things that give me away and navigating the world as a queer man feels different, though, I couldn't tell you how exactly. Another thing that I'm not sure how to deal with is women now feeling like I'm a threat. In social settings I haven't noticed much difference (maybe also bc I'm fairly open about being trans/bi), but I think when it comes to strangers on the street the way they perceive me has changed and I just don't know what to make of it. It feels sort of weird to suddenly be on the other side I guess. I feel like T has made me take up more space than I used to and Idk if that's something I should be doing.

I'm not sure there's any specific advice I need for my behaviors. Just, how did you guys deal with suddenly passing, suddenly being a threat and not the person in danger etc? Its a weird thing where it feels like my self perception doesn't match up with reality.

I read 7 Summer Nights by Harper Fox and loved it, except for the magical aspect of it all. The issue is I have a degree in archaeology, fake but somewhat plausible archaeology works (as it did for most of this book) but as soon as we get to magic or aliens my brain doesn't manage to turn off. I feel like I can't enjoy the book to its fullest anymore and I'm aware that this is very possibly a personal issue. I have searched high an low and found nothing like this, but maybe some of you have?

Since this seems to be a bit niche I will give preferences but none of these are necessities:

- I prefer books set not in the current age (idk, smartphones in books can take me out of it). However both books set further in the past or far in the future work fine

- I'd like it to be less Smut+plot and more Plot+maybe smut

- I don't need accuracy but I need the made up archaeology to at least make sense within the constraints of the World

Thank you for any recs you have!

edit: I have seen The first and Last Adventure of Kit Sawyer but I'm put off by the seemingly AI generated cover art, I don't support that.

The bones of our fathers is already on my reading list.

Hi so I like wearing high waisted trousers only, most of my fashion choices are to be placed somewhere between 1930 and 1950. This so far has not managed to extend to swimwear and I would love to change that this summer! Preferrably historically accurate but I'm questioning the functionality of that. I'm hoping someone has some experience making and/or wearing this. As I'm aiming for historical accuracy I'm posting here and not in history bounding, I hope that is okay :)

I want my clothing to be historically accurate but still be functional. I was considering knitting this 40s trunk although its a bit more revealing than Id like but it says that it doesn't sag due to how its constructed, is that a thing that is possible or will this sag no matter what I do?

Otherwise I was considering sewing this 20s set but here the fabric is the challenge. The top is presumably some sort of jersey? I doubt I'll find a wool one so I will probably go with cotton. This was made of what I assume to be worsted wool that looks kind of thick... While this set is gorgeous imo I cant imagine that being comfortable, especially for someone with bigger thighs... Would making this out of a thinner wool be a better option, maybe a suiting wool or a cotton twill? Silk (rip my wallet)? I fear that if I just use the modern synthetic it wont look nearly as nice.

I've been in a very Sherlocky mood recently, but very specifically not the BBC set in the current day version. I want something where the mystery and crime solving aspects take up most of the book. I don't care if they're already a thing or only now getting together either, I just need gay victorian detectives in some form. Im not aversed to smut, I just find that smut heavy books often lack the plot depth I want, however if you have a rec that is absolutely phenomenal and it also happens to have a lot of sex scenes I'm happy to take it anyway.

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I am also happy to be recommend fan fic, I know a lot of good stuff exists out there, I just wasnt able to find anything that scratched my specific itch.

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I saw this while on the hunt for some historical knitting patterns and Im a little confused. What is this thing? Is it something that would actually have been worn or did this yarn company just need something to fill up the pages with?? why would I want protected arms over a protected abdomen, in what situation would it be more apropriate to wear the second version instead of just taking the vest off? I'm assuming this would have been worn for sport or work? pattern

Sorry, lots of questions, I've just never seen anything quite like this. Also I love the models expression between the two images, he looks a little done with these antics in the second one.

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I really like this quarter zip and Id like to try making something similar. I can alter the length of the ribbing for a pattern obviously but I have no idea how I'd approach the pattern around the shoulders and collar with that diagonal knit zigzag pattern. Is there a pattern that has something like this? thank you.