u/jmmontoya1022

So my husband and I slept in the living room because he couldn't sleep lying down due to severe back issues. He had his own reclining couch and I slept in a recliner. I am very close to moving into my room, but for some reason that I really can't explain, I am having trouble making the adjustment. I have a little bit more to do in my room before I can sleep in there. I have a mattress and I have the bed frame that needs to be put together. He kept so much crap and I have more that I have to donate. I have already donated and thrown away SO MUCH stuff. Some days I can work on my room for hours, but then I have days like today that I am filled with anxiety just thinking about it. I feel like I would feel better once I am in there, but I am stuck right now. I need help, please.....

Edit: I posted this on the wrong account. It should be under bad_ass_bitch79

I am 47F and I matched with a guy who is 34 on FB Dating about 2 months ago.I am new to the dating scene after being married for 20 years. Don't really know why younger men want older women, but whatever. Anyway, we flirted through text for about a week before we met. We talked on the phone about everything. We had great chemistry. I just didn't feel like we had great in person chemistry at all. I told him that I wasn't interested in him and I unmatched from him. Since then, he has liked my profile 3 times and yesterday sent me a message in messenger. All he said was, "Hey. How are you". I told him that I am with someone (which I am) and to please leave me alone. I blocked him and deleted my profile yesterday. Is this a normal thing?? Did he think that I had changed my mind??

(Btw, I did meet someone on the site almost 5 months ago and just realized that I had feelings for him and so we are going to try it.)

Hi!! I am feeling lonely tonight. I lost my husband almost 2 years ago and the loneliness is hitting hard tonight. The weekends are the hardest. Thank goodness I get to go to work tomorrow. No funny business. Just a virtual hug would be great. Thank you!!

I am 47F and I lost my husband to a brain aneurysm almost 2 years ago. I felt so alone and I still do sometimes. Nobody in my immediate sphere had ever gone through this. There were things that I was feeling like Widow's Fire and I felt extremely guilty for having those feelings. I started counseling almost immediately, but I never got into a grief group. There was one through my church called Grief Share. I went to a couple of sessions, but I couldn't talk about what I was really feeling there. The wanting to feel wanted and desired again. The wanting to be intimate with someone. The feeling of insecurity about myself. The insecurity of navigating a whole new life by myself. I found these communities only 2 weeks ago. I never wanted to share my personal life on social media. Maybe I thought that I could "do it on my own". I am realizing that I need others of my "own kind" to help me through this. I am going to start going to the Grief Center in my area. Hopefully I will feel comfortable enough to share everything that I am feeling. We need each other to get through this. Maybe I am using the wrong word when I say "through". Grief is a journey. It's not linear.

I process things through talking, not just writing about it. I mean, it is somewhat helpful to write about what I am feeling, but I want to find someone who I can talk to face to face about everything. Peer support. I have a couple of people who I talk to on the phone, but it is still not the same. And at the same time, I am fearful of rejection. I am fearful of people thinking that I am crazy for the things that I am feeling. I just wanted to feel accepted and needed again. I don't really understand why so many of us are feeling the same way. In some ways I do understand why. Some of us were with our spouses for many years. I was with mine for 20 years. I felt desired, wanted, needed and accepted by my spouse. But I really don't understand why my confidence level is so low right now. I feel incredibly vulnerable even writing this. Thank you for listening to me ramble on.

I became a widow at the age of 45. I loved my husband very much and nobody can replace him, but I feel like nobody can replace anyone. Everyone is unique. I am young and he is gone forever but that doesn't mean that my life has ended. I truly believe that everything happens for a reason. He died for a reason. I may never know the reason. He died from a brain aneurysm. It was very sudden. I didn't want him to die but it happened. My life moves forward. I still believe in love. I still believe that I will meet someone someday. And I choose to believe that I will be just as happy with that person as I was with my late husband.

Hi!! I haven't posted here yet....

My name is Jaime and I am 48f. My husband passed away almost 2 years ago. I am missing the company of a man. I have been on a few dates, but nobody really understands. They have had bad break ups or been single for a long time and "want their independence). One of them got back with his ex. I live in Albuquerque NM. Are there any younger widowers here in Albuquerque?? I would give anything to "get back together" with my husband. This is so hard. Any advice???

Hi!! I am 48f and have been widowed for almost 2 years. I don't have any children and I don't have any friends around my age who know exactly what I am going through. I have been feeling incredibly lonely the last few months. I live in Albuquerque NM. I have tried dating, but that hasn't gone well. Anyone else feeling like I am??