u/journey_pie88

I just had the Mirena IUD inserted on Monday, turns out I have a retroverted uterus and it was extremely difficult and painful to get it in. My endometriosis is apparently what caused that, and my gynecologist has been trying to get me on birth control for a while to help with the pain and the heavy bleeding. I've used pills twice in the past but both times it just messed with my cycle and I was spotting pretty much consistently.

I was prepared to have spotting with an IUD, but I didn't know it'd still be this heavy after 5 days. It's not heavy heavy, but enough to need a tampon.

I know everyone's bodies react differently, but what has y'all's experiences been so fair in regards to the duration of cramping and bleeding?

Which would y'all use for a hookup vs looking for a relationship? I haven't dated in 15 years and for personal reasons I'm not looking for a relationship. I know there are tons of apps out there just not sure what people are using them for.

For context, my (35f) husband passed away last May. All these guys have been coming out of the woodwork now that a year has passed. My best friend's younger brother (33m) started sexting me last night and I need to tell him I'm not interested. For one, he was close with my husband, and it pisses me off more than I can say that he's now trying to get with me. I'm not sure how he viewed my husband, but I know my husband viewed him as a good friend. He is not being a good friend to my husband.

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Any advice on how to have that conversation with him? He tried to sleep with me a long time ago, after I broke up with my ex before my husband was even in the picture. I have to see their family all the time, so he's now made this very awkward.

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Any advice is appreciated!

For context, I've been using opiates for the last 10 years non-stop, switching between Kratom and other opiates (the point of switching to Kratom was to be off it entirely, but that didn't happen). The most recent was fentanyl and dear God, there is no withdrawal that can be worse than that. I didn't even go 100% ct, I switched to Kratom and it was the absolute most painful thing I have ever experienced. I hate to say I've gone through wd quite a few times and that was by far the worst.

So now I'm at a point where I'm quitting Kratom to go on an international trip in August. I've taken Kratom with me outside the country before, but at the dose I'm taking, I don't think it's manageable. I'm taking about 20g/day at this point, and it's that horrid Mit Therapy Kratom that has extract mixed in. I think it's 3.5% extract, they call it "boosted" Kratom.

Anyway, I tried going ct on Friday but RLS was so bad at hour 7, so I decided to drop my dose instead. I think it was so bad because of my previous opiate use and because I have a few fast metabolism. I have to be back at work on Tuesday and need to be functional at that point.

I was taking 5 650mg caps every 4 hours then 8 caps before bed. I'm now at 3 caps every 4 hours, and 6 before bed, but the RLS still gets pretty bad at night time.

Do you guys think it's possible to be either quit or at a really low dose in August? I don't need to be fully off, but I'd ideally like to be taking maybe 2 doses a day. I need to keep my job but I'm wondering if I'm just going to be absolutely miserable for the next few months if I have to keep cutting my dose.

I'm wondering if I should start cutting the number of caps I'm taking, or rather put more space between each dose. I'm just exhausted from constantly having to take caps every few hours. I want to be free from it so bad and I'm glad this trip is forcing me to do it.

Any advice here would be helpful. Thank you!