u/juichibey

Hello everyone. I'm an undergraduate heading out to college in August. I was undecided recently until finally believing in myself and choosing astrophysics despite all the horror stories I've heard regarding its difficulty.
I chose it over some of my biggest passions, Film/Animal Sciences, since I've been told its better to get a "safe degree" than a "passion" degree and then use the money from jobs with said degree to fund your interests later in life.

That said I'm getting an equal amount of both pros and cons when it comes to Astrophysics as a degree. A lot of people are saying its versatile and you can get a lot of jobs with it, while others are saying it doesn't pay well, there's a lot of competition in it and the job market is terrible.

Astrophysics wasn't my top choice since I'm not entirely enthused about maths but I'm a willing and hard working learner. I pretty much fall into the "Just wanna do something I don't hate that pays okay" type of person everyone's so used to seeing.

I'd love to hear from others in the field either as students, graduates, dropouts or workers: How hard was it earning your degree? Do you regret it? Have you had trouble earning jobs with it? Did you have to travel due to it? Has it offered you opportunities? Can you secure work visas with it? I'd love to hear any pros and all cons you can think of.

For info: I am in the US, with hopes of finishing degree abroad in EU and willing to move for work.

I'm starting college in Fall and Psychology is a field I'm interested in. I've always been a big advocate of health (especially mental) and although I don't have the stomach to tolerate medicine, I still want to help others.

Only problem is I am not a young man anymore and pretty much every one I've known that has done college says that outside of a PhD, having a degree in Psychology is borderline worthless when it comes to careers.
I even heard from someone that they knew a friend who got a job as a psychologist at a prison that made his life miserable.

Could other people who studied the degree please chime in with helps or tips? I've a good impression of therapists (they've helped my mother and sister through dark times, even saved my family) so that would be my dream job.

Hi this is embarrassing to ask and admit at my age, but following my HS Grad, various factors made it impossible for me to attend College despite it being a dream of mine. Now, over ten years later I can pursue this dream, but I'm feeling overwhelmed and discouraged. I'm reading up on so much information and parsing so little of it I thought I'd simply ask for direct clarification instead of possibly misinforming myself.

My plan is to try and apply for a student visa out of the states but my grades in HS weren't impressive enough to get accepted, so I was hoping to take classes and build a good GPA to transfer, but I am unsure as to when is the best time to do this (after 1, 2 or even 4 years?) and under what sort of degree (Associates? Bachelors?) to do so or even if I'm technically and undergraduate or post graduate giving my situation.

If someone could offer any clarity or point me in the right direction I would be forever thankful. Sorry in advance if this post is out of place.

I (28M) recently started working at a restaurant where there is a dresscode. Initially I was pretty good about it but if im frank the shorts feel a bit too short for me and the shirt is sort of itchy.

After a couple of weeks I noticed that I was literally the only one wearing the uniform most if not all the time, so I started to be more lax with it until eventually I stopped. Pretty soon my manager grilled me about it so I made sure to always be wearing my outfit unless I forgot or was out of laundry but everyone else remained in plain clothes.

His attitude continued on with other stuff, mainly being late or asking for days off but last month I had to ask for a Saturday off due to a family emergency, as well as next Wednesday/Saturday. I did so in front of a coworker and although dismissive he said "Yea yeah I got it whatever." That Saturday morning I got spam called and texted by him and when I came in Sunday, he grilled me about not coming and when I explained to him the situation he denied it and said I asked only for next week not that week. I got my coworker who overheard to vouch for me and he still got upset so he instead said it was my fault for not being specific enough and being disrespectful.

Here's where I might be the asshole. I got pretty mad and said that he always only berates me and only disciplines me. He yells at me for being late, for calling off due to emergencies and for forgetting my outfit but never bats an eye when someone comes in a full hour later to opening shifts, or they call off to go to concerts and then i pointed out how of everyone present I was the only one in attire but he wasn't disciplining them.

In the end that did whack and the conversation went nowhere but my coworkers who overheard called me an asshole for bringing them down with me and throwing them under the bus when they were uninvolved. Now im getting the silent treatment and being shunned.

Was I the asshole? And if so how could I have handled it better?

UPDATE:

Thank you all for the comments giving insight. I see now that even my manager was on the wrong for treating me that way, I too should endeavor to be more responsible despite the double standard. That said I do have an update.

So I ended up messaging the owner about what happened with the intention of quitting since he was the one who hired me. Come to find out that the uniform hasn't been enforced at this place since last year, and the uniform only consisted of a Black T-Shirt and Apron, not any shorts/pants. That weirded me out even more so I apologized and told him I simply wasnt comfortable working around my manager anymore to which he apologized and wished me well.

My manager then proceeded to text me saying I was overreacting and that it was unprofessional of me to quit without warning. He went on a rant about how he was doing me so many favors for me and what he was offering me in terms of experience and conflict resolution and what not, and even offered me a raise. I was tempted to agree but I figured if that became public knowledge to the other workers it'd be an even bigger mess, so I simply ignored him.

Im not really in a position to quit, and I live in a small town where jobs aren't as common and everyone knows each other so I worry I might've fucked myseld over but thanks to everyone for helping me learn how to better conduct myself in future interactions.