u/just-another-entity

I had a complimentary voucher for a massage parlor so i booked an appointment because i wouldn't want for it to go to waste. I had never done anything before life that. I didn't know what the process is and i went all alone. This is just me forcing myself to do things out of my comfort zone and it didn't cost me anything.

I was nervous but mostly I was just scared that i would get a boner in between because usually I just get it for no reason and thought i will get it if someone's hands are touching me like that. Luckily i didn't get any even though I was having thoughts of p*rn during the massage, the pain was too much that most of my focus went into not screaming.

Initially i was told to get naked and switch to a disposable underwear. The kind of underwear which would get transparent with a tiny speck of oil or water. My entire stuff was visible and they didn't even put a towel to cover it like they show it in tv. The masseuse was a guy and i was a bit conscious about it but at this point I was like it is not a big deal anymore. So just relaxed and went through it.

We even chatted a bit sharing some stuff. It was like i had a completely different personality. Overall the experience was great.

Looking back at it, i realised how far i have come. I have gynaecomastia and i don't have any chest hair. My chest looks like that of a petite pornstar. Plus i used to be fat and was scared of being shirtless. Now there I was almost naked in front of a stranger getting ready for a massage and i didn't care.

Once the session was over I looked at the mirror after a shower. Though nothing physically changed but i felt like a normal male.

I see these are the only two affordable organizers for treks. The rest are bit expensive.

Nammatrip was my first and they didn't even play music during the ride or did any socialisation stuff. I thought that was the norm. Next time i tried tripbae and it was a completely different experience.

Are there any other organisers which are affordable and more fun for overnight treks ? How is your experience ?

Planning to go to makalidurga this weekend alone so trying to decide which one to choose.

So mere company ne boht saalo se na koi profit kiya na hi kisi ko increment diya. To aise hi yearly call me Maine bola ki mai to switch karne ka soch rha hu aur unhone retain karne ke mujhe bola ki next week tum sochke aana ek number jo tum deserve karte ho.

Mai bhi g*ndu ki tarah kuch kam hi quote kar diya aur wo bina kisi negotiation ke maan bhi gaye. Ab mai bas ye soch ke dukhi tha ki boht kam quote kardiya.

Dosto ko bhi bataya, unhone bhi boht sunaya ki aisa number boldeta unki aukaat ke bahar fir negotiate karta. Par mujhe ye bhi dar tha ki agar mai kuch jyada demand karunga to wo nikaal na de. To thoda realistic hi rakha.

Ab aaj salary aai to dukh hua ki ek aur milestone achieve ho sakta tha agar thoda apna rate jyaada boldeta 🙃

Big news, even if it starts off super important, usually gets forgotten when some other juicy gossip pops up. This short attention span means we stop paying attention to stuff that's actually really important and matters.

To fix this, I'm vibecoding an app that puts news categorises and creates threads. That way, all the related events and updates get pulled together in one spot. It's kind of like how Inshorts handled the Iran-U.S. conflict showing all the major events in a separate tab, but I'll be doing it for other big cases too like ongoing court cases, etc

Also, I'm thinking about adding a way to sort news so that stories with fewer upvotes get pushed to the front. This would bring up less popular, but possibly super important, information.

What do you think about this idea ?

So I have been going to cult classes for over a year and had maxxed out the entire membership, like going every day, trying out all formats, squeezed every value out of it.

Now the membership is expiring in a week and i am confused whether to renew it or try something else. My decision would be simpler if they didn't give me an "exclusive" discount on renewal. I know if i renew it, i would again be doing the same thing over and over for a year again and not have any new experience.

Honestly i am kind of exhausted but it is also one of the things i look forward to every day. Though i never interacted much with the people there but seeing new faces breaks the monotonity in my life.

It might sound like over exaggeration but i feel like I will lose a purpose of my life. But part of me says that I should move on and find something else. But there's nothing nearby I could find and no friends to accompany me.

I hope I was able to get my dilemma across. What do you guys suggest ? What other activities I can try ? I just want to break out of my shell and try new experiences.

I got a voucher for complimentary swedish massage from a nearby spa. I am 26M, I have never stepped foot on these massage parlors before. I am considering using it for the experience but the problem is I am scared of doing it alone.

I don't know what should i expect. Do i have to be naked ? What if I get too excited 😅 ? I am thinking of multiple ways this can go wrong.

What should I do ?

Nowadays when I get calls from people I don't know or have their number saved, i get to see the name similar to Truecaller.

Did google also add this feature or is it something that is done by the network provider ?

I am in a weird situation. My personal subscription is active in my work email and i want to change it. I might lose access to it soon.

I have dropped a mail on their support mail but they haven't responded yet. Has anyone been able to successfully change their linked email address ? If yes, how long does it take for them to respond ?

So recently i was assigned a huge feature which is taking me a way lot of time to finish. The task is an extension of some previous work done last year by someone else. The person who built it still works here.

They could have just assigned the same guy for the work which would have been much faster and efficient. But they gave me this task which i feel won't add much value to the product despite all the efforts I put in. There is no documentation or proper ui/ux design around the task and most of the time is going into reading and understanding the AI slop and figuring out ui/ux myself.

My friend says it is an indication of them trying to get rid of me. Before this also, i am often assigned tasks which just feels exhausting and makes no real impact.

Few days back, me and the entire company (of 6 people lol) including the founders were sitting in canteen with our laptops discussing some work related stuff. A guy beside me was hearing our conversation and got curious about the work we do.

So he asked me what do I work on and what does my company do. I was not prepared to answer this question at the time and i don't even know how to answer it gracefully because we are technically just an LLM wrapper like most tech start-ups. Nothing interesting. Can't say this in front of the founders right 😅 ?

So I fumbled pretty bad. I just uttered some random words and i was literally sweating. I couldn't even answer properly about what tech stack i work on because i work on multiple stuff. Thankfully the guy got a phone call and left. But ig he got the idea of what we are.

Though my colleagues and founders didn't comment on what I said or interfered in the conversation but i am pretty sure they were probably having second hand embarrassment watching me.

I never prepared for this conversations about my work. I have seen my other colleagues answering the same question and they answer confidently without making it sound like an LLM wrapper.

I also want to develop this skill 😭 of having impromptu conversations without making myself sound stupid

Few years back i had decided that I would donate at least 1000rs every month to anything. I did for few months but couldn't keep up because of laziness and i didn't want to donate to the same place every month. Also they would keep calling to donate more. 1000rs is not much for me right now (Plz don't beg in comments 🫠) but it was hard to see money go when i am such a frugal person when it comes to spending in other places like food, clothes or personal stuff.

Yesterday, a group came and asks to subscribe for monthly donation of 700rs for some orphanage and I couldn't say no. I become pretty gullible sometimes 😅. I wanted to avoid monthly commitments but did it anyways. Maybe i will keep a reminder to cancel the mandate in few months.

I want to know from you guys, Do you guys donate (monetarily or voluntarily) to organisations or some cause you support ? If yes, (how much/what) is it ?

It is 3am and this thought is hitting me again. I once read somewhere in childhood that excessive masturbation can lead to infertility in guys. Though there is no scientific proofs to validate this claim, i still fear that I might be infertile.

I have been masturbating since I was in my early teens. And it was way more than average. I will say I am an addict. Still now, i jerk off atleast twice a day even with a busy schedule. I have tried too many times to take control but i still relapse.

Does anyone else also suffer from this addiction and have that insecurity that they might not be able to bear a child of their own ? I am overthinking now like this might be a reason for my divorce (i am not married though😅) and end up being alone forever

An old school friend of mine suddenly called me. I already had a feeling he’d ask for money, because he never really calls just to check in. But he’s a good friend—whenever I go back home, we always have a great time together.

That day, I was already pretty irritated because a few other friends had borrowed some money from me. I was getting tired of constantly lending money. It’s not like they don’t return it—they do—but still, I don’t like giving my money out like that.

So when I picked up his call, after a bit of formal hi-hello, he said he needed a favor. And I immediately replied, “Bhai bas paise mat mangna”
The thing is, I was actually ready to help him too, since he’s a good friend. I was expecting he might ask for around 15–20k, and I’d negotiate and probably give around 10k.

But as soon as I said that, it must’ve hurt his ego. He actually only needed 2000. Honestly, 2000 isn’t a big deal for me to lend—it’s a small enough amount to understand someone’s intent. He then said, “Just give me 1000, I’ll return it by the day after tomorrow.” I sent it, and he returned it the same evening.

Now today, I heard his POV from another friend. Apparently, he had called me with a lot of hope because it was an emergency. It was the first time he had ever asked me for help like that. And when I said “don’t ask for money,” it really hurt him.

Hearing this made me realise that I shouldn’t have said that. Now I feel like he may never ask me for help again, and maybe our bond won’t be the same as before.

If I meet him in person, I’ll try to do some damage control. But whenever money comes between friendships, it tends to mess things up for me. He’s the kind of friend who doesn’t really know my mindset about money, since in all these years of friendship, money never came between us.

It just feels bad—like I might’ve lost a friend.

It could be as small as maintaining a snapchat or duolingo streak.

Mine are
- going to cult everyday
- doing one daily leetcode problem (even if i have to cheat 🤪)
- play some of those linkedin games (mostly zip and patches)
- doing 1 lesson for kannada via airlearn just to keep the streak going

I guess i just do this because all of these apps has some gimmick like a pet which is happy if you maintain the streak.