Feeling angry and resentful today
Hey everyone. I just need to vent if that’s okay. For context, my parents are dead but my husband’s parents are alive.
My in-laws literally refused to have anything to do with our children. My MIL used to tell my husband as a teenager that if he has kids she will never babysit. He thought she was just saying that to prevent teenage pregnancy but she wasn’t joking. She never wanted to be around our kids even for five minutes. (We didn’t have them as teens btw, we got married in our early 20’s and started our family.)
My husband is Mexican and his childhood was spent being taken care of by his grandmother and several aunts. My MIL ALWAYS had help. But now she doesn’t want to be in the same room as them. She would literally follow my husband around when we would go over there so she didn’t have to “watch” them. When we bought our house we asked her to watch the kids for a few hours so we could deep clean. She refused and chose to help clean instead. So our kids were forced to sit in a pack and play for hours in the house while we all cleaned. Keep in mind my MIL does not work so she has no priorities to tend to. She also isn’t old (she’s 52.)
We had to go no contact because of her refusal to be decent to me and her lack of care for our children. (She also viewed my husband as her husband instead of her son.) I’ll spare you all of the horror stories I had to experience dealing with this narcissistic woman but I’m so pissed off. It’s been years and we’re both so burnt out. I know I could hire babysitters but that’s expensive and I have trouble trusting strangers with our kids. I’m so depressed that we have no extended family to support us. It’s just us and the kids. I’m so tired.