u/katerina_troup

My friend group consists of me (22F) and 4 other girls. Of course, we don't always agree to plans, vacation spots etc. But one of the girls seems to disagree with about EVERYTHING we plan. Sometimes I feel as though she says the opposite thing of everything on purpose.

Examples:

There are some specific parties that I enjoy, that only take place like 3-4 times a year, they play white girl music and have cheep drinks. Her alleged favorite bar is EXACTLY the same, only with more expensive drinks and ridiculously crowded. Whenever we plan to go to the specific party I like, she nags and says she hates it and wants to go to her favourite bar. When I ask her why, she says crap like "the vibe is off", "I feel depressed there" or other vague shit that makes no sense. One time she came, stayed for an hour, didn't move or even take her coat off and left.

Another example would be summer vacations. We recommend a bunch of destinations. And she straight up rejects every single one and instead recommends two places that would take 18 hours (!!) of travelling to get there.

We as a group enjoy hanging out at a specific chill spot with inexpensive wine, food and occasionally live music. Who could genuinely dislike that? And she whines and whines whenever we plan to go, says she hates it but NEVER gives a good reason as to why.

It's really getting on my nerves and I think it shows unfortunately. Maybe she's in the right because we don't really do the things she wants but they're always so random or unattainable. She recommends things like the opera or salsa club, some of which may be fun for once I guess but they usually require some fundamental enjoyment of that music or art form to participate. I'm also a metalhead but I wouldn't drag them to the metal club because I know that's a specific taste. Should we maybe try to do the things she recommends more often to be fair? AITAH?

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I know it's silly, that's why I'm writing here in case you older ones can shake me up a bit. I'm 23, finishing university and I feel like my youth is ending. I feel immense anxiety and a reluctance to grow up, I want to be young forever, a carefree student. I feel like the years are passing by faster and faster, I'm afraid that I'll close my eyes for a moment and I'll be 30, 40, 50... I have no excitement for the next milestones of life which the average person theoretically looks forward to. Absolutely no excitement for the prospect of family, marriage, children etc., I feel the exact opposite of excitement honestly. I have no excitement about entering the job market even though I'll finally earn my own money and become a proper adult (up until now I've been living with my parents, you wouldn't exactly call me an adult). I don't want to leave my childhood home, I don't want to live alone, I don't want to find myself on the other side of the country from my friends whom I now see every day and gradually drift apart when they inevitably get absorbed by jobs and families. Everything the future holds for me seems only unpleasant, it feels like life is only dowhill from here.

Ένα μεγάλο παράπονο που έχω είναι πως νιώθω ότι γεννήθηκα σε μια πολύ ξενέρωτη εποχή. Είμαι 24 χρονών και έχω πολλή όρεξη να ζήσω έντονα και αυθεντικά αλλά νιώθω ότι είναι δύσκολο κάτι τέτοιο πλέον, ή τουλάχιστον εγώ δεν έχω βρει τον τρόπο ακόμη. Στην Αθήνα πχ, δεν ξέρω πού να ψάξω για να βρω λίγο πιο αυθεντική διασκέδαση όταν περιτριγιρίζομαι από ίδια μαγαζιά που παίζουν την ίδια αδιάφορη house και έχουν όλα από 2-3 σημεία που είναι ξεκάθαρα στημένα για τα story. Καλά στέκια για χορό είναι ελάχιστα και αυτά πλέον κατακλύζονται από άπειρο κόσμο και δεν έχουν καμία ταυτότητα. Γενικά νιώθω ότι είναι πολύ δύσκολο να έχεις κάποια αληθινή ταυτότητα. Ακόμη και τα alt άτομα μου φαίνονται συχνά performative. Στέκια δεν έχουμε πια. Κανείς δεν μιλάει σε κανέναν έξω, οι άνθρωποι νιώθω ότι είναι πολύ πιο σφιγμένοι και λιγότερο αυθόρμητοι από παλιά. Φυσικά ωστόσο δεν έχω ζήσει σε άλλη εποχή, άρα δεν μπορώ να συγκρίνω αλλά δεν ξέρω, νιώθω αρκετή απογοήτευση. Πρέπει να αρχίσω και εγώ το τρέξιμο ή το γυμναστήριο για να έχω μία ταυτότητα και μία κοινότητα;

Hi everyone! Around 8 months ago I joined the gym for the first time in my life to strength train. For context I'm 23F and started off at a low BMI of a bit under 18 and very little to no muscle mass. The first few months were very awkward and inconsistent so I won't count them much, but for the last 3 months I've been very very consistent, 2 days upper and 2 lower every week, trying to progressive overload etc. The problem is my diet. I don't eat bad per say, I eat home cooked meals every day which naturally won't be meat everyday, but I do have my fair share of chicken and other meats for lunch throughout the week. I make a conscious effort to add more protein in slight ways, choosing yogurt for breakfast, trying to add some cottage cheese, eggs or other forms of cheese here and there. But when I see the protein recommendations that people make... my God I sure am far from that. I physically cannot eat more, let alone afford to eat things like protein powders, protein creams or whatever is out there. Is there even a point in my gym efforts then? I've put on around 1,5kgs since starting the gym, not anything significant but it's something I guess. But my body isn't looking much different at all sadly. If anything I feel like my glutes look even skinnier the past couple of weeks and my belly feels a lot more bloated and soft.

What the title says basically. I think little Alexis in the Chilton era acts so much more natural than she does in the last 2 seasons. It's like they're trying to keep Rory cute and innocent, which comes off so unnatural.

Edit: I'm not calling her a bad actress. But you can't deny she's very stiff at the later seasons. I cringe so hard at the Birkin scene. It looks so fake!

Ό,τι λέει ο τίτλος βασικά. Προσπαθώ να με κάνω να μου αρέσει έστω και λίγο η έντεχνη μουσική για να μπορώ να ακολουθώ τους φίλους μου σε συναυλίες και φεστιβάλ γιατί μ' αρέσει και το γενικότερο βάιμπ, αλλά δεν αντέχω. Τα τραγούδια μου φαίνονται τέρμα flat και επαναλαμβανόμενα, και ενώ γενικά μου αρέσουν πολλά μουσικά είδη και έχω καταφέρει να αγαπήσω είδη που στην αρχή μου ξένιζαν, δεν το πετυχαίνω με το έντεχνο. Αντικειμενικά βέβαια δεν έχω κάνει και κάποιο τρελό deep dive στη δισκογραφία όλων των καλλιτεχνών, έχω ακούσει αρκετά επιφανειακά.