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I’m trying to find a not crazy crowded bar just want to chill alone somewhere. Does every bar plan the game?

My ex needed sex every day sometimes twice a day. If I didn’t want to he would accuse me of cheating. If my vaginal felt “different” in any way (more or less creamy, tighter or swollen) he accused me of cheating. He would stick his finger in my butt and tell me I like it after I repeatedly told him I don’t like it. He would dirty talk and tell me I’m getting different races dicks up my butt while shoving his fingers up my butt. I would always tell him I’m not into it and he would tell me i am into it. I hated having sex with him, it felt like a duty and a chore.

Now I’m with a guy that doesn’t need sex every day. His ex of 6 years never let him have period sex so he’s accustomed to just not asking for it for 2 weeks during and after a period. He says he’s more of an every other day kind of guy. I am too, but I started to feel he must not like me because he’s not demanding sex. I’m so used to being basically used that it feels like I’m not desired if I’m not being used. I told him it’s kind of hurting my feelings to ask for sex and he was like no we could go right now, I just thought since you’re still on your period you wouldn’t want to. I’m so used to intense dirty talk, rough sex, so that’s what I’ve asked him for. He is such a gentle person that it was so out of character for him to be rough. He tries and does a good job but I could tell it’s not the type of sex he desires. He literally just wants to hold me and be gentle. He says he doesn’t want to hurt me.

Idk I guess it’s just crazy refreshing to meet a man that wants to actually go out on adventures, cuddle, hold me, talk to me, not just lay in bed and fuck. Not expect sex. Finds things like conversation to be more intimate than sex.

It makes me sad that I tolerated that for so long. It makes me sad to hear my friend say she’s a “good wife” because she gives her husband sex every day even when she doesn’t want to. Idk just a reminder ladies that we do not owe sex, it’s not our duty, and there are men that aren’t disgusting pigs. Sexual compatibility is so important and I just feel so happy that I finally found it. I used to have to use lube every time I was with my ex, I think because I was so turned off or something? It kept being painful sex to the point where I went to the dr and thought something was wrong down there, and nothing was. He was just too aggressive. Never once has this new man hurt me. It feels good every single time. Idk, I’m just happy and it feels very refreshing

For example if I enter June 1st, the last day I drank it says I have two days sober, which makes sense, I have yesterday and today sober. If I enter June second it says I have one day sober, but I’m on day 2. This has always confused me lol