r/texts

I went to a metal concert to see my favorite artist last night. While there, a pit started up behind me and propelled my bestfriend and I forward so naturally, we bumped/fell into everyone in front of us. We were about 3 rows behind the barricade.

My friend struck up a conversation with a guy that we got pushed into, because he asked who we were there to see. She told him she was here with me because it’s my favorite artist, then tapped me on the shoulder, so I answered. He told us that he’s been following the tour, and giving away his VIP gift bags. So… he gave me his gift bag. I told my boyfriend all of this, and how I was going to give some of the items to my daughter because she’s also a fan of the artist. I thought it was very kind and wholesome.

This was my boyfriend’s response.

He then went on to say I live in “La La Land” and some shit about how people are predators. He feels I should ignore people — especially men — who talk to me in any fashion. I genuinely don’t see the harm in answering a question.

And with his mention of how I would feel some kind of way if the roles were reversed, I wouldn’t because it’s not that deep for me. I’ve never given him any reason not to trust me, but he says his past relationships involve people cheating on him.

Edit: Genuinely was not expecting this to blow up. Thank you guys for the comments and perspectives. I do want to say, I’m not allowing it, ya’ll. Lol. I shut it down today and told him I’m not having it, in so many words.

I did go ahead and tell him that I’m not feeling it, didn’t appreciate the ultimatum, and I’m just gonna mosey along on my own. He didn’t like that, but I’m tired.

I'm worried about my friend for more than one reason. She's a friend from college. We used to be really close, even briefly romantic, but I now live on the other side of the country. We've kept in touch, and recently we've been talking more after she reached out for help with money. I know she's in a really abusive relationship, and she has nobody other than him. She can't keep a job because she says he gets drunk and won't let her sleep. I've been encouraging her to go to a shelter since there's nothing I can physically do from here. She's hesitant, but we're working on it.

I also suspect she's struggling with alcohol herself. Her "boyfriend" is an alcoholic, and she says she only drinks when he does so he "doesn't drink the entire 30 pack and get cruel." That means she's drinking as often as he is, which is constantly.

But that's not why I'm posting. I'm worried she's dealing with something more serious mentally. Some days our conversations are completely normal and flow like they always have. Other days she doesn't make sense at all. Her thoughts are disjointed, she answers with things unrelated to what we're talking about, and when I ask her to explain, the explanations are even more confusing. I don't think she's drunk because her drunk texts are pretty obvious. What is going on here?

i literally do not know this man lol just his employer… 🤨 i know i should have blocked him sooner but it was kind of entertaining

I briefly dated this man two years ago. I ceased contact and he continued to send me unhinged messages for two years. They would bounced from idealizing me to hating me and making threats. Two years ago he blackmailed me into agreeing to pay him money back that he spent on me while we were dating so I was making small payments to him monthly. I didn’t block his number because of this and because if I did he would spoof numbers and call my work phone. It caused me to have anxiety about answering numbers I didn’t recognize. I work in sales and must answer my work phone. I feared being sued since I agreed to pay him money during his threats.

The calls and texts never ended. He’d call and leave voice mails and texts almost daily for two years. I wanted to try a different route and tried to be friendly to him to deescalate which I now realize was stupid on my part. I hoped maybe if I didn’t ignore he would accept a “how are you” once a month or some shit but that didn’t happen. I was naive and ignorant to think it would. so I have restated the no contact. He has been threatening to come where I live and to sue me for money he spent on me while dating.

These texts are from the past 24 hours. He’s called me 30 times and has been leaving long voicemails. He’s also calling my work phone and sending texts there. I don’t want to be controlled by him anymore.

My options:
-block him and block all spoofed numbers he uses. This option would involve dealing with spoofed numbers to my work phone and worrying whether each call is him.
-Try to get a no contact order/restraining order. I’m not sure I have enough to get that since I made the mistake of trying to be friendly the past month.

I realized I have handled this poorly. I am trying to handle it the best way moving forward but am not sure the best route to deescalate and remain safe.

Edit:He’s sent a a new message establishing that we are now enemies.

Also I haven’t paid him in a month or so so that has stopped and won’t resume unless I am told by a court that I need to.

For context, I'm 26, and was only messaging my deadbeat father so that maybe he'll complain a little less about being lonely. I was telling him about a concert I'm going to on Friday, and he replied with being upset that I didn't invite him to go with me. I brushed it off with a joke, to which he doubled down on the fact that he recently went to the city I'm gonna be going to.

Then THIS.

This man cheated on my mother with a 16 year old (age of consent in Kansas where I grew up 🤮), sends fake women overseas hundreds of dollars everyday while doing talk-to-text sexting in public places or in front of his adult children. Telling me how poor he is and will call me greedy and heinous names if I ask him for even a loan of fifty bucks.

He thinks he's a biker and a pirate except he has no boat and no motorcycle; which just leaves a drunk pillhead loser with blankets over his windows.

He finally got a woman to talk to him and try to take him out of his shell, and he wants to just bash her and tell me how ugly and fat she is and not his type?! When he himself is a beached whale-slur-your-words-narcissist.

End rant, love,

A girl with daddy issues

So i had to translate this because its a slavic language but basically i was on a call studying for an exam and my gf decided to ask me stupid questions and poking me to see what we talked about . She asked me if we talked to reunite but i said no because we didn’t lol . And she got aggressive at me that im not allowed and that she hopes that i have not planned anything with my college friends . She is saying basically to cut them off completely. Isn’t that a bit insane?

To start I had absolutely no idea he had a girlfriend. I was dropping off an injured bird at the nearest animal sanctuary and he was the one who took the bird from me. He gave me a pamphlet and when I got in the car I saw he wrote down his phone number. I texted the next day and we were planning on getting coffee. We had texted for about a week. Today, he sent me this…

For reference she(situationship) has a key to my apartment and lets herself in all the time. Was in the middle of making dinner during this(which I admittedly did not communicate) and initially assumed she’d just let herself in. Looking back I think I was overly apologetic but in the moment I just wanted to deescalate especially because I did miss the implication.

The guy I have been seeing sent this to me for my birthday. Clearly 100% AI. I realized that AFTER I 🩷 the message and responded. Clearly shows low effort. Is it the thought that counts or call him out on how bad this is?

Edit to add: Let me admit that my response was entirely low effort as well. He’s been MIA the last few days and receiving this message just felt over the top for being a ghost. I wasn’t even going to react or respond. But when I reread and saw the dash and knew he just copied and pasted.

made me giggle

edit: guys this is a fully silly post. he is not going to cheat on me because i told him to go to sleep in a silly way. we are fine. we joke like this plenty. we are being silly. do not project your own insecurities on my relationship in the comments.

Three hours where?

I’m thankful for my relationship but sometimes I think about the people who have no contact.

Backstory:

Last week roommate asked if he could use my scale when I was at the gym and I said yes. He didn't use it and asked me after I got home, showered, and was in bed resting and k said I would put it in the hallway the next day so everyone can use it.

Few days later the maid came to clean and she put it back in my room. I came home today after the gym and my scale was gone, not in my bathroom, not in my room, not in any common area.

He said it was in his bathroom and this was the exchange.

🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣im so sad it didn’t reach him😔

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