r/texts

Hey everyone, my girlfriend and I have been together for
8 years now and things seem to have been getting worse over the years to the point where I feel like we’ve both practically given up at this point. I’ll admit that I’ve always had problems with being vulnerable and expressing myself with her, and anyone really for my entire life. I’ve built up so much resentment for her in the past couple of years that I don’t even want to speak to her at times while she’s always fighting for connection. My argument is always about finances and how she can’t control her spending but feel as if theirs a deeper meaning. We’ve both been going to therapy (she has several, and is a therapist herself - she’s been going to therapy for much much longer than I have) while I have my own therapist that I’ve been seeing for about a year now. I’ve always been an in/out type of person. I feel like every day is a struggle and find very little joy in my life these days which also puts a lot of stress on her. I need A LOT of alone time, abnormal amounts of it. I do love her and we have a great relationship for the most part, but lately it’s been really rocky and I feel like she’s putting out fires and finally getting fed up with my shit. I’m also so very easily irritated by everything she says and does. This conversation just happened and I just want to end things right here after this. I feel like I’m missing so much more information in a Reddit post but hoping to update things as I go.

I did try to post this in relationship_advice but they don’t allow image uploads for posts.

Also after I posted this, I asked her if she calmed down

EDIT: No this is not AI and is very real. I appreciate all of the comments and it’s a lot to process. I also know my “grilled cheese” was shitty, lol.
She has a sensitive stomach and usually takes digestive pills before eating something that she thinks will bother her however, she’ll sometimes have McDonald’s, fast foods, cheese, etc. (although not often). It was more of a gesture on my part to offer and I was not trying to “poison” her. I’m not disagreeing with any of your comments though, as I was super hijacked when this happened and I definitely play large negative role here.

He was very clingy and never wanted to spend the night alone without me and the one time I wanted a night alone to relax

I asked him to get tested before we hook up and that was apparently a dealbreaker for him

Just met this woman on a dating app, we hit it off well and she started saying we were like yin and yang with our conversation, then I got hit with this after we made the decision to stop texting bc I had to work. What does this mean? Feral seems pretty on the nose but I’m just making sure

This is my ex boyfriend 24 m and just some of the messages he's sent me over the last 8 ish months. He struggles with alcoholism and we've discussed the possibility of him having something like BPD and the reality i may be his FP given some of the behaviors around our relationship. I would block him and then he would use apps to create new numbers and continue to reach out. Or create burner accounts. Usually spamming messages and calling upwards of 30 times in a single night. He has even pretended to be concerned friends reaching out. He insists he's in love with me, that I am the love his life and the woman he will spend the rest of his life with and even marry someday. I just cant understand. I wanted to be there for him but he kept lying to me over and over and over again. I love him, and I know its ridiculous how long it's taken for me to get tired of this but I really am just exhausted at this point. The stalking, the harassing, the insistence but no actually change or work behind it. It's painful. He usually only speaks to me this way when he drunk or really upset. And he'll excuse or reason it with those very things but I just cant do it anymore.

AIO Context: I (30F) met (45F) at work.
We used to be my co-worker but after she was fired we became friends outside of work..
Sadly she is an alcoholic. She drinks it every night. She has told me this and even drunk called some co workers and me as well.. (A reason she got fired) she’s on medication for her alcoholism. Her family doesn’t talk to her and after getting fired I really felt awful for her. She would bring me lunches sometimes and work. I’ve helped her with a temp job and tried my best to be a good friend. It sucks because I love her, and I don’t want her to be alone. But I also feel exhausted with all of it. I know everyone has baggage, I definitely do as well. But I’m losing faith I can find a genuine friend that can respect my boundaries and just vent with.

The guy is 22M and I am 20F

So I had a crush on a dude I met in a 2 week course I was doing. Seemed like he was interested in me too. I confessed on the last day and he said he saw me as a good friend and he was into older girls. I was cool with that and we agreed to stay friends and send the occasional insta reel or chat to each other.

Confidence is of course attractive but He is somewhat overconfident I feel. At least that’s the vibe I have been getting lately and after remembering our previous conversations in person during the course.
Yesterday this was a part of our conversation. Seemed like he was fishing for compliments to me cause he knew I liked him so I kind of roasted him lol.

I feel like I should reduce our online interactions.
And I am ofc moving on from him.

To clarify PP means profile picture!

This is coming from the guy that stole money from our college fund to buy a new BMW, dragged the divorce out with my mom to bleed her dry over 6 years (not including the money he secretly stole from their shared account over 2 years BEFORE they separated), and hijacked my sister’s wedding despite clear boundaries being drawn beforehand. I could go on and on about what a greedy asshole “my dad” is. He didn’t do shit to raise us except work, leaving my mom to do most of the heavy lifting which is so gd common unfortunately.

He throws a tantrum if you don’t immediately respond to him. It is so beyond exhausting. Dude can’t even be bothered to remember our birthdays but freaks out if we don’t respond ASAP.

Finally, I guess the trash is taking itself out.

Soo recently me and girl STOPPED dating due in large part to my over texting due to my insecure over attachment style BUT there's still chemistry and we still hang out 'aS fRiEnDs' and finally she initiates a genuine conversation with me and I respond like this.. I didn't see her message for 50 mins, it was just after 10pm when I messaged back so she could've just fallen asleep but.. and yes.. I did try to call..

WHAT THE FUCK AM I DOING!?!?!?!

Bullet dodged

I know I’m not using any of the vocabulary right you don’t need to correct me. I just think it’s fun that she always responds normally

The dating pool is so trash right now I’m about to give up on dating entirely . I’ve been keeping my options open. Already had to let one guy go because he kept canceling dates . Another man I was dating kept ghosting then popping back up like it was nothing . One man stopped answering his phone. And so many more horror stories . I don’t wanna be single. I want someone to share my life with but it’s just too hard and I’m losing hope. This is getting so depressing having disappointment after disappointment.

Also he hung up on in my face while we was talking the other day . Didn’t even call me back but sent a text later smh 🤦‍♀️

Now this dude making me take pictures of my work uniform which I’m obviously not about to do. Plus I’m single and not in a relationship so even if I had someone else over that is none of his concern

My friend wants to come over on his week off but I am a new mom and EXHAUSTED.

Like... he should understand it as a parent himself, but apparently he is God's gift to mankind so I should power through it for the chance to have him grace me with his presence. 🫩

Or my postpartum hormonal imbalance is getting to me!? I just don't know.

For context: our 6 year old has autism and adhd and was having a small meltdown before his aunt picked him up for school yesterday, as he was walking out the door my boyfriend called to him to have a good day and he loves him. My son walked to the car without saying it back. Boyfriend was pissed at me for not making him say it back. Fast forward several hours later boyfriend texts me a pic of a note saying our water was cut off so I told him to pay it and then I hear nothing back so I call and he sends me the automated “call you later” iPhone message, so I go downstairs to check on him and he’s on hold with the water people. He has a weird attitude and talks to me harshly here. I go sit on the stairs away from him and he goes outside. I call again like 30 mins later and he send the automated message again so I wait some more and eventually go outside to check on him. This time he yells at me to just go away and said some other stuff I forgot… I think I am also autistic and don’t do well with subtle cues… I’ve told this to him multiple times before. I was genuinely just checking on the progress of him paying the bill because it’s never took that long before. Am I just stupid..?

Ts is so messy good lord. Only reason I'm posting this is bc no one else in my family uses reddit bc the stuff in this post is so specific there's not even a snowball's chance in hell that they wouldn't immediately know who posted this if they saw it lol.

I don't think I need to clarify I did not, in fact, steal her jeans. For one, I wouldn't be caught dead in skinny jeans. For two, she "saw me in them" two weeks ago even though I was in another state FOR A WEEK two weeks ago.

Also to clarify, when I mentioned arguing w her boyfriend, I was specifically referencing how two days ago, he dropped her back off at our house (I'm currently living with my parents while I'm helping my dad with another construction job) bc they were fighting bc she didn't wanna suck his dick and he was pissed and kept using the recent death of his childhood dog as a reason why she should suck his dick, so she threw her leftover burger at him in his brand new car and he got pissed and was yelling at her to get out of the car. She said she wouldn't get out until she knew he blocked her on everything and eventually she finally just got out of the car bc he kept yelling at her to get out, but when she got out he started yelling at her asking why tf she was getting out, and he blared the horn at her when he left. Btw me and my sister could hear all of ts from the house, we were literally watching thru the window and they were so loud we could hear them from inside. Anyway then he comes back like a few minutes later pounding on the door to yell at her to give him back his vape, and I guess she accidentally grabbed his vape with her stuff when she got out? So she throws his vape out the fucking door and tells him if he wants it to go get it, and apparently it broke when she threw it so he decided to go throw a bitch fit and bang on the wall on the other side of the house (which was loud asf bc the other side of the house is less than ten feet away bc the "house" is actually a trailer) so my cousin grabbed one of the kid sized hockey sticks we have and came out the back door where he was parked and was holding it up threateningly and yelling "GO! GO! GO!" at him like she's trying to scare off a bear, and as soon as he saw the hockey stick he peeled out of there fast asf, and after that she was INSISTING that that's it and that they're done, she's done with him for good, she's never gonna talk to him again, and then she's telling me and my sister abt all this other crazy shit like about them both cheating on each other repeatedly and being super petty and shit. And then apparently yesterday my sister overheard her literally calling him and talking to him and telling him she missed him and then they got into another fight over the phone like come onnnnnnnn bro. I swear she's just addicted to the drama atp. Can't make ts up. Istg my life is turning into a really trashy reality tv show.🤦‍♀️