u/Conscious_Field0505

I am in USA on a seasonal J1 visa.

The visa ends soon.

I don’t want to go back. My life there has always been hell. My whole life I’ve thought about escaping it and I never could.

Now I am across the ocean in USA, and I have to go back in 2 months. I even got accepted in uni here but don’t have money to pay for it. The F1 visa doesn’t allow working.

I don’t want to go back at all.

I want to leave mostly so I can find mental health community. For myself. I want opportunities as well.. and mostly I want to be far from home. There is so much pain there, my childhood, my memories. It makes me feel stuck and depressed like I am in a hole.

My father is also mentally ill and he never got help. He cannot work. There is no mental health support back home.

My parents are separated. There is so much poverty in my family. I grew up with my mom sleeping on the floor.
There is endless sadness and anger in my fam.

It is just painful to be there. I want to start new somewhere.

I want a new chance in life. But it seems hard and impossible. I have tried everything when u have no money back home it’s hard. There are not even jobs left there. Cause it’s a small city in decay. It got ruined cause of wars in the 90s.

When I left everyone told me “DO NOT COME BACK!”.

I have to go back, empty handed. And it pains me.

Hi everyone,

I am trying to find a studio here in Burlington.

I am here for one more month and then I go back home but I have done some modeling and I’d like to find a studio photographer here.

Can anyone recommend me some? Thank you!

I am from Europe. Here only for the summer in Burlington.

What is the dating scene here like? I tried dating a guy and it was not good lol.

Lmk

I live in a country where studying it’s not expensive. So for the financial part it’s okay.

Long story short: I studied smth I dislike a lot for money. But I hate it all.

What I like and love is psychology and sociology.

Do I study one of these again? When do I start? Where do I start?

My last degree is unfinished for 3 exams and the thesis.

I feel like I have ruined my life.

Ugh.

Idk where to start.

These past years I have wasted them! Trying many different things. I was the gifted, talented kid. To a loser who is trying everything.

And cannot decide anything.

Where do I start? Do I study again? I hate my current degree.

Do I just do smth else?

Idk fr.

Also my fam is toxic and my mental health is bad but I live in a village middle of nowhere.

Idk fr.

A guy said that to me.

Is that offense?

Like the girls that work at casinos?

Hi everyone,

I am a J1 work and travel student that came in USA to work for the summer but I also tried my luck to study behavioral science in a community college in Vermont where I am.

I got accepted. But the tuition fee is 5000 dollars per semester.

And I am not allowed to work in the campus.

What can I do?

Should I let this go? Or not?

How can I pay for this? If I am not allowed to work?

Hi everyone,

I am a J1 work and travel student that came in USA to work for the summer but I also tried my luck to study behavioral science in a community college in Vermont where I am.

I got accepted. But the tuition fee is 5000 dollars per semester.

And I am not allowed to work in the campus.

What can I do?

Should I let this go? Or not?

How can I pay for this? If I am not allowed to work?

So let’s say you are starting to date and meeting new people because you want to find a bf/gf.

When do you stop seeing other people, and start dating just one person that you like?

Right now, I am seeing this guy and it has been 2 weeks.

But I kinda like him, and he is still seeing other people. We still haven’t talked about this.

Like when do we stop seeing other people? And just daye one person!?

Where is the appropriate line?

I am dating this guy. Just seeing each other, meeting each other. We like each other so far, both looking for term relationships. We have been in like 5 dates so far.

But he is a very bad texter. He has ADHD too. Im the beginning I was okay but it’s getting too much.

Especially last night I was having back pain, cramps etc.

I got pregnancy scare or UTIs idk. Just don’t feel good.

He just said today in the morning that we can make a test after some days, or he will take me to doc. And then dipped.

No emotional support, no asking how I feel. I always text him, he texts late. Like 6 hours apart kind of late. Usually just telling me smth fun he is doing.

Which is also weird cause I am in a J1 work and travel visa here working hard in housekeeping. The visa is only for 5 months. But I am single and wanting to date and really liked him.

And obviously for American standards I am broke have no car. I am alone in middle of nowhere. Least I could expect from someone who claims to like me is some attention, care and i would expect him to make me feel less lonely. I am an ocean apart from fam and friends.

If it was me I would try to make them feel less lonely. Esp if they aren’t feeling well I would go to even see them. Or call at least.

Mind you im working in housekeeping because we cannot choose the jobs since is a visa and seasonal. And we get paid 15 dollars per hour. All he sends is some pics in the boat with friends, he says hes in the party in a farm, sends pic of delicious food and no invite. Which i miss homemade food a lot. He is just not considerate. Dont send me pics at all at this point.

Is what I am feeling valid? Should I tell him?