A Meditation: Give your False Obligation Item a Chance to be Adored
This may be old hat for many of you, but this tip has saved me more times than I can count.
The target: an item(specifically one that isn’t trash and has objective value as its own item) that you know you should get rid of and don’t love anymore, but it’s a Gift/has sentimental value/used to be our favorite and maaaybe it could be again
The process: close your eyes and picture a person who would love this object. you can make them whoever you want. Maybe its an old lady who has all the other parts of this matching set of Little Angel dolls. Maybe its a teenager who is just starting to cultivate their style and is trying to find skirts just like the ones you wore as a 20 year old. Maybe it’s some weird funny fellow who collects ceiling fans and has been HOUNDING over this model and just can’t find it on eBay.
Now, picture them finding this item in a thrift store. Picture that old lady picking it up and peering at it. Picture that teenager trying your skirt on and goin “⭐️👅⭐️ I look so cool”. picture that odd fella giddily texting his Fans of Fans group chat that he finally found the c90XT with internal rotator socket.
If you could hand this person that thing, wouldn’t you? Wouldn’t you prefer they get joy out of this item that you’ve been holding onto out of a sense of dogged obligation, probably to an aunt who has no idea she even gave you that damn figurine? For every item that you’re sitting there laboring over, there is a human being in this world for whom it is special, exciting or absolutely life-saving. And sure, maybe that person won’t walk into that thrift store. But they’re definitely not going to walk into your closet. So go put it somewhere they might find it and hope that they do.