My BF encouraged me to take a job. I lost the offer and I’m letting him down. Not sure how to go about this.
Hi all,
I’m feeling overwhelmed and just needing support. I know I’m going to be looked down upon but, here I go:
I was offered a job at a place with high turnover rates. Before making my decision I would go back and forth about saying yes and no. I value my health and knew that at the job I would not have a good work/life balance. But, I knew that I needed to use my degree somewhere. I’ve been unemployed for about six months now and haven’t had an issue.
I shared this with my boyfriend who listened and encouraged me to take the job so that I can save up, get experience, and leave after 6 months. Note, we do not live together. He was very insistent that it would be good for me. Again, I would go back and forth. And anytime it was brought up I would go in fumes. My body would react and I think it was a sign for something. Every day that passed by, I would get a email from the hiring manager “are you still interested?” This infuriated me. It would have been nice if they sent a deadline instead of pestering me.
Then I talked to my boyfriend and I decided to go through with it. I sent the email and they sent me a link to fill out during the weekend. I did not do it over the weekend because I value my time.
Next business day, another email was sent “are you still interested?” I took a deep breath and waited hours. I followed up and they said they are no longer interested as I waited too long.
I cried because I knew I was missing out on an opportunity to grow. I was also relieved because I didn’t have to risk my sanity.
But now, I feel that I have let my boyfriend down. He told his family that I got a job and they were all happy for me. I don’t know what to do. We are to see each other in a few days and this secret is eating me alive. I wish he hadn’t told his family. I wish I hadn’t waited to long. I wish I had the confidence to take any job and risk it all.
Any advice or support is appreciated.
Short story: Iffy about a job offer. Was encouraged by boyfriend to take the opportunity. Waited too long to accept offer and no longer have offer. Feel shameful that I let boyfriend and his family down.