u/kulkdaddy47

I’ve recently been to Gymkhana, Ambassadors Clubhouse, Brigadiers, Chutney Mary, Tamil Prince, Colonel Saab and Masala Zone. I’ve enjoyed the food at most of them, but I’ve noticed that the more upscale Indian restaurants in London often seem quite restrained when it comes to heat. I’m not looking for somewhere that will simply make a dish extra hot on request. Are there any higher-end Indian restaurants where the food is genuinely spicy by default as intended by the kitchen? I tend to find considerably more heat at my local Indian takeaways, but I’m looking for somewhere with a more upscale atmosphere as well.

Ok obviously I’m generalizing so let’s get that out of the way. What I’ve noticed is that Indian Americans from Cali, Georgia, or nyc tend to have a similar accent or way of speaking. It’s still a general American accent but for some reason we tend to not adopt the vernacular accents of the regions we’re born in. I feel like we enunciate words very clearly and speak in a very deliberate and highly articulated way that can sound kinda corporate even. Hasan minhaj, Vivek ramaswamy, and Sal khan from khan academy have this accent to me.

Obviously it’s impossible to generalize or stereotype two nations. I’m American and my girlfriend is British. She’s interacted with a fair bit of my American friends and Americans more generally. She said she feels like Americans come off as very matter of fact and take themselves too seriously. She said that British people in general have a lot more banter and are more playful and she feels more comfortable with them socially. Do you all think there’s an underlying social truth here or is my girlfriend off base.

Recently went to the wedding between my Indian friend and his non-desi wife. There were tons of ABCDesis there dripped out in our cultural clothing and it reminded me how much I genuinely like our community.

I feel like the internet has created a really weird stereotype of us that doesn’t match my experience at all. Whenever I’m around a lot of ABCDesis, people are just cool. Friendly, accomplished, charismatic, culturally confident, and easy to vibe with. Everyone seems to have their own thing going on while also being unpretentious. Between my friends, my girlfriend, and the people I’ve met over the years, I’ve always felt really lucky to be part of this diaspora.

Anyway, just wanted to put something positive out there for once.

I've noticed that Bollywood fans often associate a song with the actor or actress on screen rather than the singer or composer.

For example, people will say things like "Emraan Hashmi has the best music" or "Shah Rukh Khan songs are always amazing," even though the music was actually created by composers and performed by playback singers.

Obviously the actor's screen presence and the way the song is picturized contribute to its popularity, but I've always found it interesting that the actor often receives most of the credit.

Why do you think this happens? Is it because Bollywood is such a star-driven industry, or are there other reasons? Personally, I tend to view the music a lot more with the vocalist.

We as Maharasthrians are 80+ million strong and we have so many good looking people but I feel we lack representation in pan indian pop culture. In fact, I hear stereotypes from north indians that maharasthrian guys aren't that good looking and I feel it's partially because there's a lack of marathi visibility? The comments will probably roast me but we need more hunky dudes like Milind Soman in marathi movies and in Bollywood to show case Maharashtrian male beauty. And if you know any current Maharashtrian actors who you think are attractive by global standards lmk.

For context, I wrapped up a rotation and received positive commentary and feedback and satisfactory outcomes. Now several months after this rotation has ended new concerns have been added which are a bit subjective/flimsy and several positive comments which affirm my ability were removed. I feel quite helpless and caught off guard because I genuinely felt I performed well in this rotation and was verbally given overwhelmingly positive feedback. I was unaware that feedback could even be changed at this point in time. This may end up affecting ARCP outcomes so I'm a bit dismayed. Any tips on who to talk to or if it's to arbitrate with someone?

Hi guys I’m based in America and planning my Rajasthan trip. I plan on staying three nights in udaipur in a luxury hotel but I keep hearing so many conflicting views on which hotel provides the best service/ambience/amenities. Currently I am leaning towards two nights in Leela Palace and one night in Taj Lake Palace but I’m wondering if that’s too much hassle and we should just stick to one hotel. Taj Fateh Prakash seems like a more affordable option but I’m not really on a strict budget and don’t want to compromise on quality. So sub please give your opinion on what luxury hotel property in udaipur is the best as of 2026.

I feel like one of the biggest misconceptions from non-desis is how monolithic we’re perceived to be. From Punjab to Bengal and Tamil Nadu we are all seen as the same and nobody seems to care about specific differences between us. I’m not expecting everyone to be a cultural expert but it’s the “eh they’re all the same“ attitude that rubs me the wrong way when speaking about 2 billion people.