u/lavas3

everyone else around me is moving on and finding partners and friends and i’m left behind. i have no one to talk to and no one invites me anywhere anymore. i’ll probably die alone.

hey girls, so as the title says i’ve been struggling to feel like a more grown up woman (i recently turned 22). while i know that that is pretty young still, i look around and i see all my friends and older female friends they seem to have this feminine way of being, and they seem to feel like women. while i still feel like an underdeveloped child basically lol. i haven’t really been into more “girly” things like make up, dresses, shoes etc. because i had some issues with SA when i was 13. so i kind of rejected all things girly. so how do you guys start feeling like a more grown up woman? i know this might sound weird but most of my friends don’t really understand what i mean when i tell them

so as i’ve grown up (i’m 22 now) my boobs have gotten pretty big (85D) and they seem to be very separated. like there’s two very visible lines where they sat down a bit. is there a way for this to not be visible because i’d love to wear lower cut shirts but i have no idea what bra will make them either stay separated and perked up or completely together. idk if this makes sense but i’ve always been so so so insecure about it because now it seems like small boobs are more „in fashion“ (idk how else to say it).

so i’m f22 and i’ve never really done the deal (i had some traumatic experiences before that were not very consensual) and so recently i started seeing this guy. he knows about my issues so im not worried about him being weird, but i feel like i know nothing about your first time? like what do you do before that? will it hurt? how do i make it not hurt?what do you do right after? i never really got curious about this because i was ignoring this kind of thing for a long time. so if anyone has any tips that would be amazing!!

it sounds weird but as a woman, how did you guys start touching men again? cause i have a fear of touching them because in my head it gives them the idea that they can take advantage of me so i haven’t really touched (meaning that i haven’t even held hands) a guy in almost 6 years. so how do you start doing it again and feeling normal about it? my body has the same instinct as when you know a stove is hot so it won’t let you touch it, and similarly it’s like my body refuses to let me touch a man.

hi y’all, so i’m f(22) but i was SA’d when i was much younger. and since then i’ve had a huge fear of men, all men at all times. but i don’t want to go through life thinking that every single man is bad and will hurt me again. does anyone have any advice? how did you guys start feeling ok with being around men after assault?