I am wondering whether having good friends helped you being happy single. Did meeting up regularly with friends help you fulfill your need for a romantic partner? (I.e need for sharing things and experiences, physical closeness etc)
I (40) met this guy (47) on a dating app and we really hit it off. We had a great chemistry and after a long time I met someone who had everything I was looking for in a partner. He ended things because he realized he was not ready yet for a serious relationship after his divorce 2 years prior.
He told me I would be ideal partner for him otherwise but he just doesn't want a relationship now.
He broke up with me 4 months ago but I am still thinking about him a lot and secretly hoping he might change his mind at some point in the future.
In those 4 months I went on dates with other people but nothing came out of it so I didnt feel like I am putting my life on hold for him. I have lot of hobbies and keep myself busy but despite that he has been very often on my mind.
In the beginning I thought that keeping hope while moving on with my life cant be that harmful but recently I have been feeling very down and sad and I think it is because keeping hope is destructive for me.
If you happened to be in a similar situation, how did you disconnect mentally from the idea that the person in question might change their mind in the future? Basically How did you stop hoping things would change?
EDIT: I am adding some details I forgot to mention. First of all, we were dating for almost couple of months. We met on Tinder. At the time, I was in the middle of a hiring process to get a job abroad so I was not looking for anything serious either. I was meant to leave my country in approximately 6 months. I told him this right from the start and he told me he was not looking for a serious relationship either because he was still trying to figure his life out after divorce. 2 months into dating I changed my plans and decided to stay in my home country instead of going abroad ( this had nothing to do with the guy, there were other reasons for my change of plans). I told him about my decision to stay, explained my reasons and shortly after he ended things. He told me that he could picture himself being in a serious relationship with me but he is not ready for one at the moment. He told me he got scared of the idea of a serious relationship and that he prefered to end things sooner than later to avoid disappointment. Before anyone claims that I knew it from the very start that he is not ready for something serious - I never asked to have one with him. I just let him know about my change of travelling plans.
Hello, I am thinking about attending salsa weekend in Porto held in October 2026. I am a beginner follower, I have been going to salsa classes for the past 4 months and I go to socials in my city once a week. I was wondering if anyone has experience with the above salsa event? Is it beginner-friendly? Would you recommend it?
Thank you for your advice.
I (39f) find it difficult to meet childfree men. The men I met through online dating were either younger men eager to have children of their own at some point or older, divorced men with kids.
I am curious how you guys met your childfree partner? Did you get to know each other organically or through dating apps? Any suggestions where to find a childfree partner?
I (f40) am child-free and since I remember I have never felt like having kids. Although I like children, I never wished to have my own. I did lots of soul-searching but I have never found some obvious reason as to why I do not want kids.
I recently went on a date with two different men, both divorced with kids in their 40's. They both claimed on their profile they do not wish to have any more kids. They both asked me for my reasons for not having kids on my own. They seemed to be ok with my reasons for staying child-free.
However, it made me wonder what do the divorced men with kids think about childfree women? Would you date a child-free woman or would you prefer to date someone who already has kids and therefore has a lots of experience with parenting and therefore is more likely to be compatible with you?
I am afraid that men might assume I wont be a good match because I don't have experience with children.
Thank you for sharing your experience and opinions