u/lemonemonade7

So I’ll get it out of the way and admit that I’m a new horse owner and when I chose a spot to board, I didn’t know what kinds of things to look at or ask - I was only grateful to have something close to home.

Over a few weeks of boarding I was quickly recognizing some things that I wasn’t too sure about, and the most frustrating has been the lack of manure management.

My horse was put into a paddock after quarantine with two others and I found that there was probably 5 inches of manure just sitting in the dirt paddock at difference stages of composting. It was smelly, had flies, and once I dug in, I found maggots. Photos in comments of before and after I cleaned it up.

PNow I have no problem maintaining a paddock, but now that I’ve cleaned it all, I’m the only owner there regularly to pick it out. The other owners rarely come to visit, and I suspect they either didn’t know the state of the paddock or just genuinely don’t care?

Regardless, I try not to come off as “the new horse owner that is being high maintenance”, but this cannot be sanitary living conditions? Is this normal to leave manure in a paddock to just compost where it is?

Hey guys, my 4.5 year old is truly the sweetest, kindest little boy at heart - he melts my heart all the time being such a caring boy. However, as of late, it seems he’s upset with anything I say or do. It’s like an argument from the second we wake up and it’s all day long. He listens to my husband no problem, and I follow the exact same disciplining as he does, but when it comes to me - it’s still a full on meltdown.

For example, I had to go out to the barn today and stop by a friends house to check on her pets while she’s away. My son said he didn’t want to come, and because it’s pouring rain, I was happy to arrange his grandpa to come over so I could get these things done quickly. Him and his grandpa are best buds and he wants to see him all the time, but when I told him he could stay with him for an hour, he immediately started crying and yelling that he wanted to come with me. When I told him no, I’ve arranged him to be with grandpa for an hour (and explained the weather is miserable), he completely changes what he told me earlier about not wanting to come and continues to argue it. It’s like this with everything, he says one thing then changes it to another and has a fit. I stick to my guns and don’t let him dictate everything but it’s not a one-off, it’s constant.

I’m feeling damned if I do and damned if I don’t. My husband works out of town for a week at a time, and a whole week of just tears and arguing leaves me feeling like I’m doing something wrong or that this isn’t normal.

Im reallt struggling right now. Any advice or even consolation that this is, in fact, normal for this age?

My husband (34M) is what would be considered the “breadwinner” and works full time from his office at home. I (34F) typically work 2 days a week and on my days off, I’m a SAHM to our 5 year old.

We have this argument over and over, and it always seems to fall back to the same old issue - I’m the one who does almost all of the household chores (laundry, groceries, cleaning, garbages, etc). I have no problem with taking on these tasks, as I know I do have more available time for them, but I DO start to get frustrated when he doesn’t tidy up anything…. leaves dishes in the sink and around the house, will leave visible mess on counters that could easily be wiped quickly, will fill the garbage until it’s almost overflowing and still leave it for me to take out. I’ve started to feel like a housemaid.

I asked him if he could perhaps be a bit more mindful with tidying his messes (dishes that sat in the sink for 2 days was the example), and he immediately got angry telling me he’s busy all day. I told him it took me 30 seconds to put the dishes in the dishwasher, and his response was to point out then it wasn’t a big deal that I had to do it. In the past, he’s even gone so far as to tell me this is “the gig” I signed up for.

I’m tired of this argument, and I’m tired of having to ask a grown man to respect the household. I told him that when he leaves a mess after I’ve cleaned everything, that would be like him prepping a document at work and me coming in and deleting it, reversing all the work he’s spent time doing and then telling him it’s not a big deal.

Am I wrong for wanting basic help around the house?

Hey all…. I’ve always been a sharp cat-eye liquid eyeliner gal. Dare I even say that over the years, it’s become my signature look. However, as I age and approach the latter half of my 30’s, I’m finding that the liquid liners I’ve used in the past are just not giving the same smooth application they once did (thanks eyelids for aging too - the audacity!). Anyways, I’m not ready to give up my vibe, and when I do get the application done nicely, I still love the look. What liquid eyeliners are we using? I do prefer a matte finish and long stay. Basically I’m hoping that somewhere out there is a liner that glides without pulling/skipping, and not something that will be so watery that is spreads into other creases 😓 I’m open to something that’s not necessarily liquid, but I’m looking for specific brands to purchase - not suggestions on alternative types 🙂

Any recommendations?!

Hey all…. I’ve always been a sharp cat-eye liquid eyeliner gal. Dare I even say that over the years, it’s become my signature look. However, as I age and approach the latter half of my 30’s, I’m finding that the liquid liners I’ve used in the past are just not giving the same smooth application they once did (thanks eyelids for aging too - the audacity!). Anyways, I’m not ready to give up my vibe, and when I do get the application done nicely, I still love the look. What liquid eyeliners are we using? I do prefer a matte finish and long stay. Basically I’m hoping that somewhere out there is a liner that glides without pulling/skipping, and not something that will be so watery that is spreads into other creases 😓 I’m open to something that’s not necessarily liquid, but I’m looking for specific brands to purchase - not suggestions on alternative types 🙂

Any recommendations?!