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I’m 19F and my best friend is 22F. We got close because she approached me first and honestly I loved her a lot. Like genuinely a lot. I always saw her as family and I would do anything just to keep our friendship okay. I always adjusted, forgave things, reassured her and stayed no matter what because losing her was never something I wanted.🫤

For more than a week she secretly kept her boyfriend on our calls listening to my personal conversations without even telling me. When I found out later, I felt so embarrassed and hurt because those were private things I trusted her with. But I still forgave her because I loved and trusted her that much.

And I really want to make this clear ,I have NEVER texted her boyfriend unnecessarily. Every single time I talked to him was because SHE asked me to during their fights. She would tell me what to type, ask me to explain things to him from her side because she would block him or disappear. Even when I blocked him myself because I felt uncomfortable, she would ask me to unblock him again just to sort things between them.

He treated me like a younger sister because he doesn’t have one. During my birthday he gifted me a watch worth around 20k which I genuinely didn’t even want to accept, but both of them kept insisting so I took it. I still barely even use it. Meanwhile I spent around 6k on gifts for her because I genuinely loved making her happy.

She was always insecure around me and honestly I already sensed it for a long time. That’s why I would always try so hard to avoid doing anything that could make her uncomfortable. Even when we went out together once, despite already dressing modestly, she wanted me to cover my head too and I still did it because her feelings mattered more to me than my own comfort..

And whenever she came to my house, she would check my phone, my gallery and even my bank balance sometimes, while I have never even touched her phone once. 🫠

What finally broke me was recently after another fight between them, she again asked me to go sort things out between them. But this time her boyfriend told me everything she had apparently been saying behind my back 🥲 accusing us of having an affair, questioning why he gifted me things, saying he likes talking to me too much and comparing me to the type of girl he would want in life and much more apparently which he didnt tell.

And honestly what hurts the most is that she never once came and spoke to ME about these insecurities. I spent so long trying to avoid exactly this situation, and in the end the same thing still happened. Instead of talking to me directly, she kept all of it inside and told her boyfriend instead.😭

I loved her so much that I would even fight with my own mother for this friendship because my mom never liked me talking to her. But I still stayed because I genuinely thought she was my family. And when you love someone like family, you forgive them again and again because you don’t want to lose them.

Now I honestly just feel hurt and confused sitting here rethinking everything. I genuinely don’t even know if I should continue this friendship anymore or what I’m even supposed to do now.😭😭😭

I’m 19F and my best friend is 22F. We got close because she approached me first and honestly I loved her a lot. Like genuinely a lot. I always saw her as family and I would do anything just to keep our friendship okay. I always adjusted, forgave things, reassured her and stayed no matter what because losing her was never something I wanted.🫤

For more than a week she secretly kept her boyfriend on our calls listening to my personal conversations without even telling me. When I found out later, I felt so embarrassed and hurt because those were private things I trusted her with. But I still forgave her because I loved and trusted her that much.

And I really want to make this clear ,I have NEVER texted her boyfriend unnecessarily. Every single time I talked to him was because SHE asked me to during their fights. She would tell me what to type, ask me to explain things to him from her side because she would block him or disappear. Even when I blocked him myself because I felt uncomfortable, she would ask me to unblock him again just to sort things between them.

He treated me like a younger sister because he doesn’t have one. During my birthday he gifted me a watch worth around 20k which I genuinely didn’t even want to accept, but both of them kept insisting so I took it. I still barely even use it. Meanwhile I spent around 6k on gifts for her because I genuinely loved making her happy.

She was always insecure around me and honestly I already sensed it for a long time. That’s why I would always try so hard to avoid doing anything that could make her uncomfortable. Even when we went out together once, despite already dressing modestly, she wanted me to cover my head too and I still did it because her feelings mattered more to me than my own comfort..

And whenever she came to my house, she would check my phone, my gallery and even my bank balance sometimes, while I have never even touched her phone once. 🫠

What finally broke me was recently after another fight between them, she again asked me to go sort things out between them. But this time her boyfriend told me everything she had apparently been saying behind my back 🥲 accusing us of having an affair, questioning why he gifted me things, saying he likes talking to me too much and comparing me to the type of girl he would want in life and much more apparently which he didnt tell.

And honestly what hurts the most is that she never once came and spoke to ME about these insecurities. I spent so long trying to avoid exactly this situation, and in the end the same thing still happened. Instead of talking to me directly, she kept all of it inside and told her boyfriend instead.😭

I loved her so much that I would even fight with my own mother for this friendship because my mom never liked me talking to her. But I still stayed because I genuinely thought she was my family. And when you love someone like family, you forgive them again and again because you don’t want to lose them.

Now I honestly just feel hurt and confused sitting here rethinking everything. I genuinely don’t even know if I should continue this friendship anymore or what I’m even supposed to do now.😭😭😭