u/liebackandthinkofeng

My daughter is nearly 22 months. She has always been low sleep needs and over her short life, I’ve regularly torn my hair out trying to get her to sleep. She is currently still napping once a day (she dropped to one nap at around 11 or 12 months I think). The last few weeks, it’s gotten harder and harder to get her to nap, meaning we often then have to cut her nap short (sometimes only 25 mins). We have been struggling to get her to bed at night and have pushed back her bedtime but she’s still faffing around and refusing sleep, sometimes for an hour or more. Is it time to drop the final nap? Online it says that the recommended is after 3 but I can’t keep losing so much time to bedtime, especially as I also have a younger child. Any advice appreciated.

Put up a baby vest for sale (nicer brand) and put photos on as well as size descriptions and marked the condition as ‘good’ as I stated that although the vest was a certain size, it actually seemed much smaller than this and I didn’t think it would fit a child the age it said on the label. It sold within minutes and I messaged the seller to reiterate that the vest seemed much smaller than the age range listed on the label. They were adamant they knew the sizing of the company well and they wanted me to send it anyway. So I sent it the same day. Tonight they’ve reported an issue and stated that it’s far too small and want a refund. To say I’m frustrated is an understatement.

I have no frame of reference for this despite having a toddler because my toddler had ridiculously low sleep needs. My 10 week old is still sussing out sleep but is sleeping about the average recommendation for her age across 24 hours. The last couple of days, she’s been very sleepy in the day and wanting long naps (2-3 hours) and then nights seem to be patchier. Today I’ve tried to cap her naps a little to see if that’ll help her sleep better at night but she just seems SO tired - she’s been up for only 30 mins and already has pink eyebrows and is fussing again. Is this normal? Is there a growth spurt around this age that I forgot about?

Hi all. My husband often works away for a couple of weeks at a time and I solo parent. I gave birth to our second 9 weeks ago and have 2 under 2 (eldest is currently 20 months). He’s going away for the first time in July for 2 weeks and while most things should be manageable, I’m trying to suss out how nights will work. My 20 month old coslept with us consistently until she was 8 months old and is now in a floorbed in her own room. We still cosleep when she wakes in the night and wants comfort. We are currently cosleeping with our 9 week old who is an avid cot-refuser.

I am hoping I’ll be able to get my younger one into her cot for some of the night at least, but I’m very aware that both children are likely to be waking in the night and may both need me at the same time so I’d love some advice on cosleeping with both a baby and a toddler - or links to websites that explain how best to do it. Any other tips also welcome.

Thanks in advance!

I (30F) have been friends with my friend D (29M) for nearly 10 years. We met at university. D struggled socially at university, and the friendship group I was a part of weren’t particularly kind to or about him and would often complain if he had been invited or would say not to invite him. I thought that that was incredibly unkind and unfair and would stand up for him and invite him to places. For context, I’m pretty sure he’s undiagnosed autistic - he’s not got a bad bone in his body, he’s just a bit unaware sometimes.

When I met D, I was dating his friend (R) and we were together for 4 years. R and D are still friends and although my split with R wasn’t an amicable one, we have since been at events for mutual friends without incident and have been civil.

Over the last couple of years, I’ve noticed that D has stopped making the effort to message me or invite me to events in his life - birthday parties, nights out etc. These were things he would always invite me to before. He has, however, invited R and my old university friendship group who weren’t very nice to him and then proceeds to tell me all about it when I message him to catch up. I, however, have invited him to visit me and my husband for weekends, to birthday events and even to my baby shower.

A few days ago, D told me that he was having a 30th birthday and mentioned that my ex had been invited. When I enquired into what kind of event it was, he told me it was a huge party with all his friends, their partners and his parents and family too and that he was really excited about it. I have not been invited. It really hurt my feelings and it’s upset me quite a lot. I don’t want to confront the issue with him because I don’t want to make his birthday about me. I’m not sure whether to confront the issue with him or just to stop making as much effort and let time tell what sort of friendship we end up with. Do I just need to get over it because I’m being pathetic? Am I overreacting for feeling so hurt?