u/lil-leem

Hi all, is there anyone here that hasn't received a silent update after the ban was temporarily lifted?
I had my interview last month before the ruling by judge McConnell, albeit we weren't expecting a response then due to the ban.
Seem's like majority of the people here received a silent update on their apps but mainly for I-765 and other immigration benefits.
Did anyone not receive a silent update for their I-485?

I’m in my mid 20s and work in a pretty stable, well paying field. I take my finances seriously because I have long term goals and I’m trying to build something meaningful for my future.

Recently, I found out my girlfriend writes stories in her free time, which is cool. But I came across one where she basically rewrote our relationship in a way where my success and work ethic existed mainly to “earn” being with her. It rubbed me the wrong way, I brought it up with her, and she apologized and said it was fan-fiction and she didn’t mean it like that.

Then there have been a few situations involving money that are starting to stack up in my head.

One day we were out shopping and I told her ahead of time that I’m on a strict budget right now because I covered a major trip expense for both of us. She kept hinting at going into another store and buying things, and I kept explaining I wasn’t in a position to spend more. When I didn’t give in, she got upset and kind of shut down, even refusing to grab food with me after. She later apologized, but it still felt off to me.

More recently, we were joking around about the trip and she mentioned wanting a luxury item while we’re there. I laughed it off at first, but she doubled down and compared it to how her dad would buy her mom anything she wanted on trips. That comparison didn’t sit right with me at all. I tried explaining my perspective about spending and investing, but she completely dismissed it.
For context, I’m not against spending money on my partner. I do treat her and buy nice things sometimes. But there’s a difference between occasional gifts and feeling expected to drop a huge amount on luxury items, especially when I’m actively trying to stay disciplined financially.

Now I’m stuck wondering if I’m being too rigid or if this is actually something deeper. I care about her, but I also don’t want to feel like my value in the relationship is tied to how much I spend.
Has anyone dealt with something like this before? How did you approach it?