u/listen-to-rach-2

Hell all, I've been feeling unfulfilled and insecure in my relationship lately and I think my BPD is exacerbating the issues if not straight up causing them.

The problem really boils down to the fact that my girlfriend tends to be quite avoidant. Her social battery is extremely small so we tend not to see each other very often (typically once a week or less). That wouldn't be a problem necessarily if the quality of our time together wasn't so low. It's not her or my fault, we are just both extremely busy and mentally ill and we spend a lot of time either just talking or more commonly just laying together. But she doesn't even like when I hold or pet her a lot which hurts my feelings because physical touch is so important to me.

Also she hasn't been wanting to have sex very often. Sex and physical intimacy is really important to me and given that we don't see each other often I'll basically ask her every time we meet if she wants to have sex and it seems like it's become a chore to her. I always respect her when she says no of course but it makes me really sad and it makes me feel gross and petty that I have this much of an issue with our sex life.

I really don't know what to do I love her so so dearly but I'm afraid I will eventually split on her and she'll break up with me. Her previously partner had BPD and she has a low tolerance for people splitting on her (as she should). I used to have episodes every 3 weeks or so but lately it feels like once or even twice a week and it's always over our relationship. I can usually keep it to myself but it has been harder and harder to manage myself lately. And worse she will actively avoid me if she knows I'm having an episode which I understand is for the best but it only makes things harder on me.

Any advice would be really appreciated. As for therapy I am actively searching for a therapist right now. Thanks for reading hope everyone is having a good day <3.

Thank you to u/TheCuriousCur for the lovely vintage postcard. I had a great trip, thank you for asking! It was very hot and humid but I got to go fishing and spend some lovely time in nature with my girlfriend :). The views were gorgeous as well.

Thank you to u/itsrainingrosepetals for the very sweet card. I'm glad that you also think that Castle in the Sky is a wonderful film. I feel like it captures a very specific vibe that doesn't show up in many other Ghibli films, if any. I recently saw it in theaters with a friend and I learned that Miyazaki based the mining town setting off of industrial revolution era Britain. I thought that was a neat fact. Also I agree Ursula from Kiki's Delivery Service is a wonderful character the scene with her is one of the best in the film, in my opinion.

Hello all! I hope everyone is having a lovely day :).

I’d like to buy a couple specific inks. Would strongly prefer bottles over samples. Used bottles are ok and I don’t need the original box.

These are the inks I’m looking for:
Pilot Iroshizuku - Asa-gao
Waterman - Tender Purple
Organics Studio - Nitrogen

Feel free to dm me offers, but please comment first. Payment using PPGS.

Thank you to u/sarangly for the beautiful postcard! I loved your drawing and I loved hearing about how you liked to listen to audiobooks in your garden. That sounds like such a lovely way to spend the day :).

I never thought I'd be here typing this but it feels like I'm falling in love with my former FP again. I thought I had moved on. We kept in touch as friends but only after taking a significant break in our relationship (like 6-8 months I think).

We're both in completely different parts of our lives from when he used to be my FP. We're both in serious romantic relationships and we're both pursuing higher education in our adulthood.

However, recently he started talking to me more often. We used to talk once every 1-2 months now it's once every 1-2 weeks or more. Everything that once endeared me to him is still there but he's even more mature and intelligent and caring it's kind of throwing me off.

I feel like my feelings for him that have been buried for over a year at this point are resurfacing and I don't know what to do. Neither of us are in any position to do anything with my feelings and I'm scared that they will ruin my existing relationship if I let them continue to grow.

I can't just kill my feelings either, I really care about him and I want to have him in my life. He makes me happy in a way that other people don't, even my partner. I feel like I am able to love my partner and my friend in different ways at the same time even if they are both romantic in nature. I'm just worried that it will complicate my relationship. Not to mention the chance of my feelings ruining my relationship with my friend all over again. And of course having strong unrequited feelings for your FP is a terrible experience regardless.

Has anyone else been in a similar situation? What should I do about my feelings? Thanks for reading I hope you're having a good day <3.

Hi all! I'm starting a book club for trans women/transfeminine people aged 18+ from the GCA. Anyone that feels like that description fits them is welcome to join! There are no fees or direct costs associated with joining the book club.

The book for this month is Gloria Don't Speak by Lucy Apps. Our first meeting will be the first weekend of September. If you can't make that date we will be meeting every month so feel free to join and come to a later meeting!

For further details please direct message me. This is to ensure the safety of the group and is not meant to gatekeep people from joining. Please have a public profile if you intend to message me.

Hope everyone here is having a wonderful day :).

Thank you to u/Kelestial_Kat for the beautiful Ghibli postcard! It was such nice surprise to see a Ghibli card in the mail for me :). That Howl's moving castle washi tape is so wonderful, where did you get it?

Thank you to u/Accotinked for the cute postcard! Mizzle is such a fun word thank you for teaching it to me. I hope you have fun making tons of postcards :).

Thank you to u/Playful_Foundation_5 for the card, the stickers, and the lovely message. I would have loved to see those pictures of you at the zoo. Also I agree with you Ohio is a beautiful place, it's much nicer than a lot of people give it credit for in my opinion. I hope our cards eventually cross paths again as well :).

Thank you to u/Maladi3_ for the wonderfully decorated postcard! I'm glad you've moved to a nice place, I think no matter how great a new place is you'll always miss something about where you once were, and that's ok. Have fun making those DIY postcards and exploring everything in your new city!

Thank you to u/lemonlolipopW for the beautifully decorated postcard. I 100% agree that spending that extra time to decorate the card makes it that much more special to receive. You talking about it makes me want to spend more time on a small batch of cards to send out. I also loved the washi and stickers you added, it makes the card 10 times cuter :).

Thank you to u/mousrat for sending me a card back from my Ghibli offer (another Ghibi card no less)! Your postcard will be on the way soon, I'm trying to finish around 10 per day. Personally, I've seen all the most popular Ghibli movies but I haven't seen some of the newer or more obscure ones. Kiki's is definitely a classic, my favorite is Castle in the Sky.

Thank you to u/Fancy-Collar9382 for the very adorable Los Angeles Dodgers card. I love your card and all of the stickers you put on it! I'm honored to be the first ever recipient of a card from you! I hope you're able to send out many more in the future :).

Thank you to both u/stephaniehong and u/Exit_Infinite for sending me a card back before I've even finished sending out all the postcards from the Ghibli offer! I promise I'm working through those as quickly as I reasonably can.

I hope you're staying cool down in LA, Exit. I hope you have lots of fun with your cats!

And thank stephanie for the well wishes, I hope that you're able to return to Chicago very soon :).

Hello! I'm a 21 year old trans woman who's searching for a penpal. I've gotten really into sending letters lately and would love to find another trans woman or transfem person to correspond with. No age requirement besides being 18+.

I know this may be kind of a long shot but if you're a trans woman/transfem and you love pens, paper, ink, stickers, washi, letters, etc. this is your chance!

Some of my hobbies include: postcrossing, journaling and writing, piano, reading, gaming, hiking, and cooking.

Some other info about me: I'm studying history in university, I've been transitioning for 3 years now, I'm a butch lesbian.

If any of the above sounds interesting feel free to comment and then dm me! Thanks for reading and much love to my trans sisters <3.

Thank you for the wonderful Boston postcard! I really enjoyed the stamps you used. Thank you for sharing how you choose to treat yourself, I'd say that I also treat myself too often lol.

Thank you so much for the Porco Rosso postcard. I love all the little decorations you made and I really enjoyed reading your card.

I recently found 11 vintage San Diego postcards (all from around 2000) and I'd love to give them away to people!

No flair requirements, just leave a comment with a writing prompt and dm me your address afterwards and I'll get them sent off to you!

It'll be first come first served, exchanges welcome but not required :).

Thank you u/justh3l3n for the cute card and the very sweet message you wrote me. I look forward to writing back and forth with you!

Thank you u/Jester_Magpie for the beautiful Salish art postcard, and for telling me about your trip to Alaska!

Thank you u/TyeDyeAmish for the very cozy Connecticut postcard. I hope you're able to afford that boat someday!

Thank you u/Radiant-Spot-4389 For the Oregon postcard. It definitely brought joy to my day when I received it!

Hello everyone : ). I have recently discovered a small batch of postcards I had around the house and would love to offer some to the RAoC community!

I have 16 cards to send out from the following themes:

Hawai'i: 3

Singapore: 5

Yosemite National Park note card: 1

Mercury Cougar (Car): 7 (note: these are old cards and may be slightly damaged around the edges)

Anyone is welcome to claim a card, please let me know in the comments from which theme you would like. Also it will be first come, first served. Thanks for reading and I hope you're having a wonderful day <3.